How to learn to see the personality in your child: tips from the “baby charmer. Tracey Hogg, Melinda Blau What does your baby want? Tracey Hogg What Does Your Kid Want to Read?

Interpreter Natalia Kiyachenko

Editor Natalya Narcissova

Project Manager I. Seryogina

Correctors M. Milovidova, M. Savina, E. Chudinova

Computer layout A. Fominov

Cover designer O. Belorus

Cover photo Maria Arbatova Instagram.com/arbatovam

Cover illustrations Shutterstock

Copyright © 2001 Tracy Hogg Enterprises, Inc.

This translation is published by arrangement with Ballantine Books, an imprint of The Random House Publishing Group, a division of Random House LLC.

© Edition in Russian, translation, design. LLC "Alpina non-fiction", 2014

* * *

Dedicated to Sarah and Sophie


The stories included in this book are not always drawn from real life. real people. Several characters are collective images. In all cases, names and descriptions actors have been changed to protect their right to privacy.

The information and recommendations offered in this book have been approved by physicians. However, they are not offered as a substitute for prescriptions from your doctor or other licensed health professionals. It is recommended to consult with health care professionals for any issues that may require medical intervention or diagnosis, and to seek advice from a general practitioner before undergoing any treatment.

Thanks

I am grateful to Melinda Blau for the literary processing of my text, for her invaluable contribution to this wonderful project. Through her efforts, my living voice seems to sound from the pages of this book. Our first conversation showed that she fully shared my views on the upbringing of babies. I thank her for her friendship and selfless work.

Thank you Sarah and Sophie, my dear daughters. It is to you, first of all, that I owe the fact that my gift was revealed, it was you who taught me to interact with babies at the level of intuitive, genuine understanding.

I am indebted to all my big family, especially to my mother and Nan - for patience, unwavering support, for a strong rear and encouragement in all daring.

No words can express my gratitude to all those families who for many years gave me invaluable time and the opportunity to share their joys with them. Special thanks to Lizzie Selders - I will never forget your friendship and everyday help!

Finally, thanks to the people who have been my guides in the unfamiliar world of the publishing business: Eileen Cope of Lowenstein Associates, who took charge of this project and did a great job on it; Gina Centrello, President of Ballantine Books, for believing in me; and our editor, Maureen O'Neill, for constant help.

Encino, California

It was a great pleasure for me to watch the magic of Tracy Hogg in action. I've interviewed a lot of baby raising experts, and I'm a mom myself, but Tracy's intuition and techniques always amaze me. I am grateful to her for the patience with which she answered my countless questions, and for letting me into her world. Thank you, Sarah and Sophie, for sharing your mommy with me!

I am grateful to Tracy's clients who invited me to their place, allowed me to meet their children and helped to understand what Tracy did for their families. A thousand thanks to Bonnie Strickland, the Internet consummate user, for introducing me to Rachel Clifton, and to Rachel herself for accessing the vast sea of ​​research on infant behavior and psychology, and my thanks also to all the professionals who have assisted me.

I will always be indebted to Eileen Cope (Lowenstein Literary Agency), who listened carefully, judged me wisely, and always supported me, and Barbara Lowenstein for her expertise and thoughtful guidance. A heartfelt thanks to Gina Centrello, Maureen O'Neill and the entire Ballantine team for bringing this project to life with undying passion!

Finally, I express my gratitude to my two wise mentors - 80-year-old pen friend Henrietta Loewner and Aunt Ruth, who became for me more than a friend and relative. Both of them truly love and honor writing and always encourage me to do it. Thanks to Jennifer and Peter for planning their wedding while this book was being written, and for continuing to love me even though they heard, “Sorry, I don’t have time right now.” All my other loved ones - Mark, Kay, Jeremy and Lorena - you already know how infinitely grateful I am to you for our "family circle"! If you don't know, I've told you about it now.

Melinda Blau
Northampton, Massachusetts

Foreword

What books would you recommend to us? Perhaps this is the question future parents ask me most often. I always knew what to recommend from medical books. But the general guideline is simple, practical and sensible advice to new parents who want to understand the behavior of the baby ... Yes, that was the problem. But now it's solved!

Tracey Hogg, author of What Does Baby Want?, has made a wonderful gift for beginners and experienced parents alike. From the first days of a baby's life, to know him as a person, to understand the features of his character - what could be more valuable for understanding the signals that a baby gives by means available to him, with all his behavior! On this basis, Tracy builds her recommendations - extremely practical, accessible to every parent. it turnkey solution typical problems of infancy, whether it is “unreasonable” crying, too frequent feedings or sleepless nights. Tracey's soft English humor is irresistible. The book is written easily and naturally, while being pragmatic and smart. This is a fascinating, easy-to-read, but very rich text that will help you find mutual language with a tiny "tough nut".

Often, young parents are bombarded with conflicting information - from relatives, friends, books, electronic media ... The abundance of advice is more confusing than helpful. The child has not yet had time to be born, and future mothers and fathers feel helpless and confused. Books and articles about common newborn problems are mostly either too dogmatic or vague. Rushing from one extreme to another, novice parents begin to act ill-conceived, situational - Tracy calls this approach "spontaneous parenting." But the lack of system only exacerbates the problems in relations with the baby, no matter how good the intentions may be guided by adults. Tracy never tires of emphasizing how important it is to build a certain routine so that everyday communication between parents and the baby goes according to routine.

The miraculous PASS proposed by her - the cycle of everyday existence, coordinating the "Nutrition", "Activity" and the subsequent "Sleep" of the child - allows you to satisfy all his needs without turning parents into slaves. After all, this cycle was created specifically for them - "Seniors", or "Families", - so that they also have "Free Time". PASS will teach your baby to self-soothe without creating a mental connection between the feeling of peace and the breast or bottle. And after the child eats well, it will be much easier for parents to understand and correctly interpret his crying and other signals.

Future parents will have to master "multi-tasking", to fit new parental responsibilities into the life they led before the birth of the child. To deal with this problem, Tracy advises to act calmly. She gives very useful recommendations on the mandatory adaptation of all family members to the appearance of a newborn in the house, which allows you to avoid many problems and alleviate the hardships of this most troublesome stage of upbringing. In fact, it helps to see the least obvious, but at the same time the most important signal of the newborn - the one that indicates his desire for communication. Tracy encourages caregivers to learn body language, how they react to what is happening around them, and build on this knowledge to understand the basic needs of an infant.

This book will also be useful to parents whose children are already out of infancy. Tracy's advice will help them understand and deal with the causes of their baby's behavioral problems. Remember, even old bad habits can be changed! Together with Tracy, you will go through this path step by step and make sure that raising a child is not only endless chores and struggle with his unwillingness to sleep at night. It can be a pleasant and joyful affair, and it is never too late to make it so. “Understand Your Child” is a book that will definitely become a desktop for all parents, a book that we have all been waiting for! Happy and useful reading to you!

Janet Levenstein, Member of the Scientific Council of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Valley Pediatric Medical Group,
Encino, California
pediatrician at Cedars Sinai Los Angeles Medical Center and Los Angeles Children's Hospital

Introduction
How I Became a Baby Whisperer

The best way to make children good is to make them happy.

Oscar Wilde

I'm learning language

My dears, I will say frankly: it was not I who called myself the “baby charmer”. This is what one of my clients said about me, and it turned out to be much more successful than others. affectionate nicknames given to me by grateful parents. Still, the “sorceress” sounds intimidating, the “sorceress” is too intriguing, and in “our cute sheep” I can hear a hint of my appetite and even a surname. So, I became a baby speller. And I must admit, these words quite accurately convey what I do.

Perhaps you already know what a "horse whisperer" is - maybe you have read a book with that title or watched a movie based on it. Then you probably remember how the hero of Robert Redford handled a wounded horse, how he cautiously approached it, listened patiently and peered, not forgetting to keep a respectful distance and trying to figure out what was wrong with the unfortunate animal. Finally, sensing that the moment had come, he came close to the horse, looked into her eyes, and spoke softly to her. All this time, the horse whisperer was calm and confident, I would say, without losing feeling. dignity and it had a calming effect on the horse.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not comparing newborns to horses (although both are very sensitive creatures). It's just that my treatment of babies has a lot in common with the above example. It seems to my parents that I am endowed with some special gift, but there is nothing supernatural in what I do, and this is not at all a unique talent that only a few have. To conjure babies, you just need to respect them, listen, observe them and interpret the signals they give us. You can’t learn this overnight - I watched and listened to more than five thousand kids. But to acquire this skill can - and must! - each parent. I understand newborn language and can teach you everything you need to know to learn it too.

How I Learned My Craft

It can be said that my whole life has become a preparation for this work. I grew up in Yorkshire (and by the way, I bake the best pudding in the world). Nan, my grandmother, my mother's mother, influenced me more than others. I have never met a more patient, delicate and cordial person. She is now 86. She is also a baby charmer, able to lull and appease the most restless baby. She guided and supported me, not only when I had daughters (who also had a huge influence on me!), but no, from my very childhood she was an extremely significant figure for me.

I grew up impulsive and restless - a tomboy girl, anything but impatient - but Nan always knew how to tame my wild nature, interested in a game or a fairy tale. Let's say we're standing in line at the cinema, and I, like small children, whine and tug at her sleeve: “Well, when will they let us in, Nan? There is no strength to endure!

My other grandmother, now deceased - I called her Granny - would have given me a good slap in the face for such impudence. Granny adhered to true Victorian views on education - children should be seen, but not heard. Staying with me, she kept me in a tight grip. But my mother's mother, Nan, didn't have to be harsh. As soon as I began to act up, she immediately threw a sly look at me and said:

“Just look at how much you missed while whining and not noticing anything around you!”

And she looked in the other direction.

“Do you see that mommy with the baby over there? she asked. "Where do you think they're going?"

“To France,” I immediately picked up.

“But how, I wonder, will they get there?”

- On a jet plane.

I must have heard that phrase somewhere.

Where will they land? Nan went on, and so imperceptibly for me our game distracted me from boring waiting, and in the meantime we came up with a whole story about this woman.

My Nan constantly fired my imagination. She could, noticing in the window Wedding Dress, ask:

How many people do you think worked to get this dress here?

If I answered: "Two," she began to elicit details. How did they get the dress to the store? Where was it sewn? Who sewed on pearls? Before she could get tired of the game, I could be transported to India, where a peasant was planting seeds that would turn into cotton, which went into this dress.

In general, inventing stories was a tradition in our family. Not only did Nan have the gift of storytelling, but so did her sister, their mother (my great-grandmother), and my mother. If one of them wanted to convey some idea to us, a suitable story immediately appeared. I have inherited this gift and often use instructive stories and analogies in my work with parents. "BUT you would you sleep if I put your bed on the freeway?” I ask the parent of an overexcited child who struggles to sleep to the blaring stereo. Comparisons like these help parents understand why I'm advising this or that, and they're much more convincing than the dry "Do this" recommendation.

So, the women of our family helped develop my talents, but my grandfather, Nan's husband, told me how to use them. He worked as a senior nurse in an institution that in those days was called a lunatic asylum. I remember once at Christmas he gave my mother and I a tour of the children's department. The place was shabby, gloomy, there was a strange smell and eerie sounds were heard. Little patients, who looked like broken toys to me, sat in wheelchairs or lay on cushions on the floor. I was no older than seven years old, but still, as if with my own eyes, I see the expression of my mother's face, on which tears of horror and pity rolled like a hail.

And this sight fascinated me somehow. I knew that most people are afraid of mental hospital patients and would prefer to avoid this place a hundred times, but not me. Again and again I begged Grandpa to take me with him, and one day, after another visit, he said: “Why don’t you become something like a nurse yourself, Tracy? You have a tender heart and an abyss of patience, just like your beloved Nan.

Perhaps no one gave me a greater compliment! As it turned out, the grandfather in me was not mistaken. At the age of 18, I entered a nursing school - in England, such schools study for five and a half years. I didn’t become the best on the course - to be honest, I often had to prepare for exams in an emergency way, but medical procedures mastered perfectly. In my home country, "workshops," as we called them, are an extremely important part of the training. I have become so good at listening, examining, and empathizing with patients that our school's board of trustees awarded me the Nurse of the Year award, an annual award given to students who have demonstrated outstanding nursing skills.

So I became a registered nurse and midwife with the right to practice nursing in England. My specialization was caring for children with physical and mental disabilities - children, many of whom are deprived of the opportunity to communicate with people. However, this is not entirely true. Like babies, they can still communicate their needs in their own way - non-verbal communication is available to them through screams and body language. To help them, I had to learn to understand their language and decipher the signals they sent.

Screams and whispers

Later, while caring for newborns, I realized that I could also master their non-verbal language. After moving from England to America, I devoted myself to the care of newborns and women in childbirth - here such health workers are called nannies. I have helped young parents in New York and Los Angeles, and most of my clients have said that I remind them of a cross between Mary Poppins and Daphne from Frasier—the latter, apparently because of my Yorkshire accent. I convinced young mothers and fathers that they, too, can learn to whisper with their babies and that they can, if they try, understand the signs given to them by babies, and having figured out what the problem is, calm them down.

I shared with these moms and dads my conviction: every parent is obliged to give their child a sense of the orderliness of the universe and help him become a full-fledged little individual. In addition, I began to promote the principle, which I later called the whole family approach: babies should join the family, and not vice versa, as happens when the family revolves around a newborn. If all other family members are happy - parents, older children, even pets - then the baby will be fine.

When a newborn family invites me into their home, I feel chosen because I know this is the most precious time in a parent's life. Right now, along with the inevitable worries and sleepless nights, mothers and fathers are experiencing the greatest joy of their lives. This dramatic story unfolds in front of me, they ask me for help, and I see that thanks to me their joy becomes even greater, because I help them overcome chaos and feel what happiness it is to be parents.

Sometimes I live in clients' homes, but more often I act as a consultant, dropping by for an hour or two in the first few days or weeks after discharge from the hospital. And I constantly observe mothers and fathers who, in their 30s and 40s, are used to completely controlling their lives. But, having become parents and finding themselves in the position of beginners, they sometimes complain: “What have we done?” And whether the mother has a million dollars in a bank account or just a couple of shillings in her wallet, in this situation, when an adult feels his complete helplessness, everyone is equal. I have helped moms and dads from all walks of life, from celebrities known to every dog ​​to the most ordinary people known only to neighbors. And believe me, the appearance of a baby in the house can terrify anyone.

As a rule, my pager beeps all day (and sometimes in the middle of the night), and they expect immediate answers from me to panic questions:

Tracey, why does Chrissy look hungry all the time?

“Tracey, why did Jason just smile at me and now he starts screaming?”

“Tracey, I have no idea what to do!” Joey stays up all night screaming like crazy!

“Tracey, I think Rick is holding the baby for too long. Tell him it's not possible!

Believe it or not, with 20 years of experience helping new parents, I can most often figure out what the problem is from just one question like this, especially if I've seen that newborn before. Sometimes I ask mommy to bring the phone closer to the baby to listen to exactly how he cries. Sometimes I agree with my parents that I will visit them personally, and sometimes I have to spend the night with them to see with my own eyes what can upset the baby or disrupt the measured course of her life. And so far I have not met a child whom I could not understand, or a difficult case in which I could not help.

Respect: the magic key to the door to the world of the newborn

I often hear from clients: "Tracey, everything seems so simple from your lips." The thing is, for me really simply as I connect with babies. I treat them exactly the same as any other person - with respect. That's all, my friends! This is what my art is all about.

Every baby is a person with their own language, feelings and unique traits - and every person deserves respect.

About respect for the newborn, I will talk to you all the time. Cause if you see in your child personality you will always treat him with respect. But what does "respect" mean? In the dictionary we read: "Do not allow insults in word and deed, interference in personal affairs." Is you do not feel offended when others decide for you - tell you what to do instead of talk to you? Like to you when you are touched without permission? When you do not really explain anything or look down on you? Remember how it angers, how it hurts!

The child feels the same. Adults rarely consider his opinion, as if he had no voice at all. I often hear from parents or nannies: "The child did this and that." Listen to how impersonal this phrase is, how much disrespect for the individuality of the baby is in it! It seems that we are talking about an inanimate object. Moreover, the baby is teased and turned around like a doll, not considering it necessary to explain what is happening. You might think that adults have the right to violate the personal space of a small person! Therefore, I advise you to mentally surround the child with an invisible border - to enclose him in circle of respect. This is the area you shouldn't enter without asking permission or letting you know what you're about to do (read more about this in Chapter 5).

Already in the delivery room, I address the newborn by name. For me, this tiny man in the incubator is not just an abstract child. Why not reach out to the baby exactly what his name is? Then you will rather learn to see in him a person, and not a helpless lump of flesh.

Of course, at the first meeting with a newborn, wherever it takes place - in the hospital, a few hours after the mother returns home or a few weeks later - I will definitely introduce myself and explain why I am here.

“Hi, Sammy,” I say, looking into his blue eyes. - I'm Tracey. You don't know my voice yet, because you don't know me yet. But I came to get to know you and find out what you want. And I will help your mom and dad learn to understand you.

Another mother is surprised at the same time:

Why are you talking to him? He's only three days old! Of course he doesn't understand you!

“But, my dear,” I remark in response, “we don’t know for sure. Just imagine that he after all understands me and I I don't talk with him. It's terrible!

Scientists have been convinced time and time again, especially in the last decade, that the newborn knows and understands much more than we can imagine. Studies show that babies are sensitive to sounds and smells, they notice the difference between visual information of a different nature. Already in the first weeks of life, children begin to form a memory. Even if little Sammy does not know the exact meaning of my words, he, like any of us, certainly feels the difference between two figures, one of which moves calmly and smoothly and speaks in an encouraging voice, while the other suddenly swoops in from nowhere and grabs him. If he understands, then let him know from the very beginning that I treat him with respect.

Tracey Hogg, Melinda Blau

What does your baby want?

Interpreter Natalia Kiyachenko

Editor Natalya Narcissova

Project Manager I. Seryogina

Correctors M. Milovidova, M. Savina, E. Chudinova

Computer layout A. Fominov

Cover designer O. Belorus

Cover photo Maria Arbatova Instagram.com/arbatovam

Cover illustrations Shutterstock

Copyright © 2001 Tracy Hogg Enterprises, Inc.

This translation is published by arrangement with Ballantine Books, an imprint of The Random House Publishing Group, a division of Random House LLC.

© Edition in Russian, translation, design. LLC "Alpina non-fiction", 2014

* * *

Dedicated to Sarah and Sophie

The stories included in this book are not always drawn from the lives of real people. Several characters are collective images. In all cases, the names and descriptions of the actors have been changed to protect their right to privacy.

The information and recommendations offered in this book have been approved by physicians. However, they are not offered as a substitute for prescriptions from your doctor or other licensed health professionals. It is recommended to consult with health care professionals for any issues that may require medical intervention or diagnosis, and to seek advice from a general practitioner before undergoing any treatment.

Thanks

I am grateful to Melinda Blau for the literary processing of my text, for her invaluable contribution to this wonderful project. Through her efforts, my living voice seems to sound from the pages of this book. Our first conversation showed that she fully shared my views on the upbringing of babies. I thank her for her friendship and selfless work.

Thank you Sarah and Sophie, my dear daughters. It is to you, first of all, that I owe the fact that my gift was revealed, it was you who taught me to interact with babies at the level of intuitive, genuine understanding.

I am indebted to my entire extended family, especially to my mother and Nan, for patience, unwavering support, for a strong rear and encouragement in all endeavors.

No words can express my gratitude to all those families who for many years gave me invaluable time and the opportunity to share their joys with them. Special thanks to Lizzie Selders - I will never forget your friendship and everyday help!

Finally, thanks to the people who have been my guides in the unfamiliar world of the publishing business: Eileen Cope of Lowenstein Associates, who took charge of this project and did a great job on it; Gina Centrello, President of Ballantine Books, for believing in me; and our editor, Maureen O'Neill, for constant help.

Tracey HoggEncino CA

It was a great pleasure for me to watch the magic of Tracy Hogg in action. I've interviewed a lot of baby raising experts, and I'm a mom myself, but Tracy's intuition and techniques always amaze me. I am grateful to her for the patience with which she answered my countless questions, and for letting me into her world. Thank you, Sarah and Sophie, for sharing your mommy with me!

I am grateful to Tracy's clients who invited me to their place, allowed me to meet their children and helped to understand what Tracy did for their families. A thousand thanks to Bonnie Strickland, the Internet consummate user, for introducing me to Rachel Clifton, and to Rachel herself for accessing the vast sea of ​​research on infant behavior and psychology, and my thanks also to all the professionals who have assisted me.

I will always be indebted to Eileen Cope (Lowenstein Literary Agency), who listened carefully, judged me wisely, and always supported me, and Barbara Lowenstein for her expertise and thoughtful guidance. A heartfelt thanks to Gina Centrello, Maureen O'Neill and the entire Ballantine team for bringing this project to life with undying passion!

Finally, I express my gratitude to my two wise mentors - 80-year-old pen friend Henrietta Loewner and Aunt Ruth, who became for me more than a friend and relative. Both of them truly love and honor writing and always encourage me to do it. Thanks to Jennifer and Peter for planning their wedding while this book was being written, and for continuing to love me even though they heard, “Sorry, I don’t have time right now.” All my other loved ones - Mark, Kay, Jeremy and Lorena - you already know how infinitely grateful I am to you for our "family circle"! If you don't know, I've told you about it now.

Melinda BlauNorthampton MA

Foreword

What books would you recommend to us? Perhaps this is the question future parents ask me most often. I always knew what to recommend from medical books. But the general guideline is simple, practical and sensible advice to new parents who want to understand the behavior of the baby ... Yes, that was the problem. But now it's solved!

Tracey Hogg, author of What Does Baby Want?, has made a wonderful gift for beginners and experienced parents alike. From the first days of a baby's life, to know him as a person, to understand the features of his character - what could be more valuable for understanding the signals that a baby gives by means available to him, with all his behavior! On this basis, Tracy builds her recommendations - extremely practical, accessible to every parent. It is a ready-made solution to typical problems of infancy, whether it is "unreasonable" crying, too frequent feedings or sleepless nights. Tracey's soft English humor is irresistible. The book is written easily and naturally, while being pragmatic and smart. It's a fun, easy-to-follow, yet very rich text that will help you get along with a tiny "tough nut".

Often, young parents are bombarded with conflicting information - from relatives, friends, books, electronic media ... The abundance of advice is more confusing than helpful. The child has not yet had time to be born, and future mothers and fathers feel helpless and confused. Books and articles about common newborn problems are mostly either too dogmatic or vague. Rushing from one extreme to another, novice parents begin to act ill-conceived, situational - Tracy calls this approach "spontaneous parenting." But the lack of system only exacerbates the problems in relations with the baby, no matter how good the intentions may be guided by adults. Tracy never tires of emphasizing how important it is to build a certain routine so that everyday communication between parents and the baby goes according to routine.

The miraculous PASS proposed by her - the cycle of everyday existence, coordinating the "Nutrition", "Activity" and the subsequent "Sleep" of the child - allows you to satisfy all his needs without turning parents into slaves. After all, this cycle was created specifically for them - "Seniors", or "Families", - so that they also have "Free Time". PASS will teach your baby to self-soothe without creating a mental connection between the feeling of peace and the breast or bottle. And after the child eats well, it will be much easier for parents to understand and correctly interpret his crying and other signals.

Future parents will have to master "multi-tasking", to fit new parental responsibilities into the life they led before the birth of the child. To deal with this problem, Tracy advises to act calmly. She gives very useful recommendations on the mandatory adaptation of all family members to the appearance of a newborn in the house, which allows you to avoid many problems and alleviate the hardships of this most troublesome stage of upbringing. In fact, it helps to see the least obvious, but at the same time the most important signal of the newborn - the one that indicates his desire for communication. Tracy encourages caregivers to learn body language, how they react to what is happening around them, and build on this knowledge to understand the basic needs of an infant.

This book will also be useful to parents whose children are already out of infancy. Tracy's advice will help them understand and deal with the causes of their baby's behavioral problems. Remember, even old bad habits can be changed! Together with Tracy, you will go through this path step by step and make sure that raising a child is not only endless chores and struggle with his unwillingness to sleep at night. It can be a pleasant and joyful affair, and it is never too late to make it so. “Understand Your Child” is a book that will definitely become a desktop for all parents, a book that we have all been waiting for! Happy and useful reading to you!

In the first years of a child's life, it is very difficult for parents to understand true reason baby's actions. Kinder cannot ask for what he needs and explain what and where he hurts. Moms and dads are in real despair when their child cries, and nothing can calm him down. What does he really want? Of course, there are a lot of options - to eat, see your favorite toy, the child may have a tummy ache or teething, etc.

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Parents, don't despair! You can study the behavior of your baby and understand what he needs during the next bout of crying! Melinda Blau and Tracey Hogg with their book What Does Your Baby Want? will come to the rescue and help make your debut on the stage of parenthood successful and bright.

What is this book about "What does your baby want?"

When the baby cries, the parents immediately run to him and begin to calm him down in every possible way, not understanding what he really needs at this moment. After that, the child understands that his cry alone is able to attract the attention of mom and dad and make them give everything if only he would stop crying. But how else, you ask? In order not to become a puppet in the hands of a cute angel and help him, when the baby really needs it, you need to learn to accurately understand him, recognizing universal models behaviors that are inherent in children during a particular attack of crying. This is the conclusion of the authors of the book “What does your baby want?” Melinda Blau and Tracey Hogg.

Their work is a global practical guide for fathers and mothers in the first 12 months after the birth of a child. It is this period that is on the main agenda - the child cannot independently express his desires and feelings, and so all responsibility for his physical and mental health falls on the shoulders of the parents.

What does the book teach "What does your baby want?"

Melinda Blau and Tracey Hogg in What Does Your Baby Want? offer a universal algorithm of actions for all moms and dads during "baby tantrums". The authors will teach you how to properly raise a baby, and most importantly, they will tell you how to understand what your child wants. In the book you will find techniques and tips that will help you easily determine what the next cry of your Kinder is a precursor of, and what he needs at this very moment.

Who is the book for? "What does your baby want?"

What Does Your Baby Want? It is aimed at families with small children under the age of one year. The manual will help brighten up the hard labor of the debut year for parents and feel all the delights of the birth of a small miracle.

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Title: What does your baby want?
Author: Melinda Blau, Tracey Hogg
Year: 2001
Genre: Foreign applied and popular science literature, Education of children

About What Does Your Baby Want? Melinda Blau, Tracey Hogg

Motherhood is, of course, happiness, but sometimes even this process gets out of control. And the thing is that women are a little wrong about their new role, giving themselves without a trace to the baby. And what is the result? Sleepless nights, irritation, loss of strength and even health problems, while the baby himself smiles less and less, becoming irritable and capricious.

What Does Your Baby Want? Melinda Blau, Tracey Hogg is excellent benefit for those who are just planning to become parents. You will find a lot here useful advice about how to raise a child from the first days of his life. Also, the book will be useful to those who have already become mom and dad, and have already encountered a number of problems and do not know how to solve them.

When a child is born, mothers begin to fulfill all the requirements of the baby, wake up at night from the slightest rustle in the crib. In fact, we ourselves teach children to receive everything at once, and then we begin to suffer from it. What Does Your Baby Want? Melinda Blau, Tracey Hogg teaches to develop patience in a child, giving mom a chance to rest.

When a woman gives birth, for her the world is limited to only a small bundle. At the same time, she forgets about herself and her spouse. Hence, there are problems in the family. A unkempt and inattentive woman will not be able to please her man. But how can you take care of yourself when the child practically does not sleep and constantly requires attention? All this is very easy to fix, you just need to follow the advice and recommendations of two wonderful psychologists Melinda Blau and Tracy Hogg.

Even in the book "What does your baby want?" you will find a transcript of children's crying: when the baby has a tummy ache, when he wants to eat, and when you just attract attention. So you can determine the desire of the child and teach him to get what he needs at a certain time, as well as create a sleep schedule.

Raising a child is a difficult task, and you need to start it from the first days of life. When a baby is born, he does not know the rules of this world, but at the same time he creates his own, which leads to constant crying and demanding. It is important to find a middle ground, and then you will notice how dramatically your life will change. There will be more time for yourself and your husband, and motherhood will bring only joy and happiness.

What Does Your Baby Want? Melinda Blau, Tracey Hogg is designed for a very wide range of readers. Here you will find very simple tips and explanations to them from the point of view of child psychology. The authors are very reverent and kind to both mother and baby, and their advice has already helped many parents around the world. Eventually you will have happy family, and the child will grow up independent and calm, who will respect elders and be able to develop comprehensively.

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"Tracey Hogg gave parents an invaluable gift - the ability to recognize their child as a person from the first days of his life."
Los Angeles family

What is this book about
International bestseller.
Is it possible from the first days of a baby's life to learn to understand his "language" and begin to fully communicate with him? How to understand the character of a newborn in order to care for him, taking into account his personal characteristics and temperament? Are there simple and reliable solutions to common infant problems such as crying for no reason or not wanting to sleep at night?
Tracey Hogg, specialist in newborn care, talks about this and much more. Her many years of experience and recommendations have helped so many families, including stellar ones, to cope with the difficulties of the first year of parenthood and raise happy and healthy babies. All Tracy's advice is extremely practical and accessible to everyone, and the techniques she offers are extremely effective - perhaps because her approach is based on a respectful attitude towards newborn children, albeit small, but personalities.

Why this book is worth reading
Tracey Hogg is one of the most famous authors of parent-child literature, she is recognized on a par with the eminent Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish, William and Martha Sears;
a must-have for all parents who have newborns: you will understand what to expect and learn to cope even with what you did not expect;
the author will competently and kindly explain to each mother and father how to grow up in love, respect and care happy child;
parents around the world call Tracy the modern Mary Poppins for her actionable advice;
modern pediatricians recommend the author's books to parents all over the world.

Key Concepts
Children, child, family, health, newborn, education, childcare, child psychology, healthy sleep, baby, intelligence development, physical development.

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