Official commentary Direction aims at reasoning about the value of human friendship, about ways to achieve mutual understanding between individuals, their communities and even entire nations, as well as about the origins and consequences of enmity between them. The content of many literary works is associated with the warmth of human relations or the hostility of people, with the development of friendship into enmity or vice versa, with the image of a person who is able or not able to appreciate friendship, who knows how to overcome conflicts or sows enmity.

Guidelines The proposed direction can be considered in different aspects: friendship between people, the meaning and value of friendly relations in human life; friendship and enmity between human communities and generations; friendship or enmity between peoples and the consequences of hostile relations; friendship between man and animal, etc. The very concept of "friendship" is one of the fundamental in the human worldview and in the system of human values. This confirms the abundance of proverbs and sayings, dedicated to friendship, aphorisms and catchphrases. Starting reflection on the proposed this direction topic, students can build their reasoning based on statements and definitions known to them.

Conceptual processing In the dictionary of S. I. Ozhegov, the following interpretation of the words "friendship" and "enmity" is given: HATE - relations and actions imbued with hostility, hatred (Irreconcilable hostility; nourish hostility). FRIENDSHIP - close relations based on mutual trust, affection, common interests (Long-standing friendship; friendship of peoples). In the dictionary of antonyms, these words are presented as an antonymic pair. Dictionaries of synonyms are represented by the following synonymic series: Synonyms for the word FRIENDSHIP - friendship, friendliness, goodwill, harmony, peace, consent, familiarity, short acquaintance, twinning, (good) friendliness, amikoshonstvo, love, fraternization, unity, communication; friendship is sincere, hypocritical, canine, close. Do something for friendship. To be in friendship, to make friendship, to break friendship, to reduce friendship. Synonyms of the word HATE - antagonism, malice, hostility, dislike, hatred, hostility, discord, unfriendliness, discord. Have a grudge against someone. Feed enmity.

What problems can sound in the wording of the topics in the direction of "Friendship and Enmity". These problems are indicated in the commentary to the direction

1. List of works by A. Pushkin "Dubrovsky"; "Eugene Onegin" ; "The Captain's Daughter", poems about friendship. 2. M. Lermontov "Hero of our time"; poems. 3. I. Turgenev "Fathers and Sons". 4. I. Goncharov "Oblomov". 5. L. Tolstoy "War and Peace". 6. B. Pasternak "Doctor Zhivago". 7. M. Bulgakov "The White Guard". 8. M. Sholokhov "Quiet Don". 9. N. Dumbadze "I, grandmother, Iliko and Illarion"; "I see the sun". 10. V. Kaverin "Two captains". 11. A. Pristavkin “A golden cloud spent the night”. 12. Y. Bondarev "Coast". 13. O. Gromova "Sugar Child". 14. E. M. Remarque "Three comrades".

Possible Essay Themes Is it true that life is nothing without true friendship? “My friends, our union is beautiful” (A. Pushkin) When can enmity turn into friendship? “There is nothing better and more pleasant in the world than friendship: to exclude friendship from life is the same as depriving the world of sunshine” (Cicero) Is it possible to love friends for their shortcomings? “You are forever responsible for everyone you have tamed” (A. de Saint-Exupery) Is every person capable of friendship? What qualities does friendship reveal in a person? Friend vs Buddy - What's the difference?

Possible essay topics “The most important thing in friendship is the ability to understand and forgive” (V. P. Nekrasov) Is it true that life is nothing without true friendship? “Hurt a friend - you will make an enemy, hug an enemy - you will find a friend” (Omar Khayyam) Do not be afraid of enemies attacking you. Beware of friends flattering you! Why does hostility arise between relatives? Do you agree with Pechorin's statement that "of two friends, one is always the slave of the other"? There are no bad nations - there are bad people… Friend is known in trouble?

Aphorisms and sayings famous people Only a true friend can tolerate his friend's weaknesses. W. Shakespeare Everything will pass - and the grain of hope will not rise, Everything that you have accumulated will be lost for a penny. If you do not share in time with a friend - All your property will go to the enemy. Omar Khayyam Fulfilling the duties of friendship is somewhat more difficult than admiring it. Lessing Friendship must be a solid thing, capable of surviving all changes in temperature and all shocks of that bumpy road along which efficient and decent people make their life journey. AI Herzen People on earth should be friends... I don't think that it is possible to force all people to love a friend, but I would like to destroy the hatred between people. Isaac Asimov Friendship is like a treasury: it is impossible to draw more from it than you put into it. Osip Mandelstam

Friendship between people, the meaning and value of friendly relations in human life In a poem by Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin, dedicated to the Lyceum(“Memories in Tsarskoye Selo”), the concept of “friendship”, which the poet repeatedly uses, has an even broader meaning than “friendship”. This concept is a special circle of friends, which, “like a soul, is inseparable and eternal”, these are like-minded poets - that force that, in spite of everything, is able to support a person in the most difficult, sometimes seemingly insurmountable, life trials. We can see this in such poems as “I. I. Pushchin", "October 19, 1825", "To Chaadaev", "To Yazykov", "In the depths of Siberian ores...". In these works, a person who is part of the "poetic brotherhood" is ready for self-sacrifice, understanding and forgiveness in any situation, but isn't this an example of boundless friendship and devotion?

Alexander Sergeevich presents his attitude to the partnership to the reader through the images of the heroes of the novel "Eugene Onegin". Two "friends", Onegin and Lensky, in their communication show us that a friend is a very ambiguous and contradictory concept. In the end, we even begin to doubt whether Evgeny and Vladimir are friends or enemies. In the dialogues of the characters, the presence of the author is felt, he is not a simple silent observer, he is a direct participant in the events, we catch his attitude to friendship in the conversations of the characters. The friendship of Onegin and Lensky happened, according to Pushkin himself, "there is nothing to do." Indeed, they were completely opposite in character, with different life experience, with different aspirations

Mikhail Yuryevich Lermontov also tells us about a peculiar and exclusive attitude to friendship through the lips of the lyrical heroes of his poems. The main motive of this poet's work is loneliness. It is not easy for the characters of his lyrics to realize their detachment from the world, their eternal oblivion in the world of loneliness. But still, the hero is ready to come to terms with his fate, realizing that he will not be able to find his like-minded people among the people around him. The theme of friendship also sounds in the novel A Hero of Our Time. Is friendship possible in Pechorin's life, and how does he understand it? the protagonist? “Friendship, friendship,” we read from V. Dahl in “ explanatory dictionary living Great Russian language ", - the mutual affection of two or more people, their close connection; in a good sense, disinterested, steadfast affection, based on love and respect ... ”We see such affection in the ingenuous staff captain - the first to tell us about Pechorin. Despite the fact that Maksimych considers him a strange person and clearly does not approve of what Grigory is doing with Bela, he is attached to Pechorin and considers him his friend: “We were friends”, “were bosom friends”. Maksim Maksimych's ideas are not justified.

The theme of friendship is most clearly revealed in "A Hero of Our Time" in relations with Werner. Perhaps Pechorin could have become friends with the doctor, they are so similar in many ways. From the moment Werner and Pechorin "distinguished a friend in the crowd", their relationship for others reminds her so much. "Werner is a wonderful person", the main character knows the strengths and weaknesses of the doctor perfectly. What brought the two together? “We are rather indifferent to everything, except ourselves”, “we soon understood each other and became friends”. But are they capable of friendship? Grigory denies true friendships, friendship does not exist in Pechorin's life, because it requires self-forgetfulness, openness, trust - all that the protagonist of the novel does not have. He says that "of two friends, one is always the slave of the other," and, quite possibly, this is not a conviction, but a desire to hide the inability to let anyone into your heart.

In the epic novel "War and Peace" friendship appears before us as one of the most important life values. We see the friendship of Nikolai Rostov and Denisov, Natasha and Princess Mary, Andrei Bolkonsky and Pierre Bezukhov. The relationship between the last two characters is most deeply explored by the writer. Despite the difference in characters and temperaments, we see the intellectual commonality of these people, their similar attitude to life. Prince Andrei and Pierre are characterized by internal reflection, the eternal search for truth, the meaning of life. They support each other in moments of spiritual crises. So, Bolkonsky worries about Pierre when he starts to revel in the company of Dolokhov. Pierre, on the other hand, supports Prince Andrei after the death of his wife and his disappointment in "his Toulon". It is Pierre who tells him that "one must live, one must love, one must believe." Thus, friendship and love, according to the writer, is something worth living for.

In the novel Oblomov, I. A. Goncharov created images of two people, each of whom is in many ways a typical representative of a certain circle of people, an exponent of ideas that were close to the corresponding strata of contemporary society. Andrey Stolts and Ilya Oblomov, at first glance, seem to have nothing in common, except for memories of childhood games. And yet, no matter how these characters of Goncharov's novel are assessed, it is impossible to deny that they are connected by sincere, disinterested friendship. Their sincere, warm attitude to a friend is rooted in the fact that both Stolz and Oblomov are inherently worthy people, endowed with many high spiritual qualities. They are necessary for a friend, because they so successfully complement a friend, they find in each other what is not in themselves.

A. Saint-Exupery speaks about friendship right on the first page of his fairy tale “The Little Prince” - in dedication. In the author's system of values, the theme of friendship occupies one of the main places. Only friendship can melt the ice of loneliness and alienation, as it is based on mutual understanding, mutual trust and mutual assistance. On earth, the Little Prince learns the real truth that the Fox revealed to him: people can be not only indifferent and alienated, but also needed by a friend, and someone for someone can be the only one in the whole world, and a person’s life “is like the sun will light up” if something will remind you of a friend, and this will also be happiness.

The theme of friendship and enmity in the war The names of many poems by K. Simonov speak for themselves: “Fellow soldiers”, “Comrade”, “Death of a friend”, “To a distant friend”, “House of friends”, “My friend died ...”, “Friendship the real one doesn’t age…” In the works of K. Simonov, a kind of poetic image of friendship was created, its moral code, a demanding but true friendship, the one that “does not sway from the winds during life, ends with the death of one of the two” . In A. Tvardovsky's poem "Vasily Terkin" and in many of the poet's lyrical works, the theme of friendship, responsibility for comrades, and memory sounds. The theme of the importance of friendship, testing friendship in difficult circumstances, the needs of a person in a true friend are heard in many poems by V. Vysotsky: “Not everyone got into our close circle ...”, someone else's unfamiliar night ... "," Song of a friend "," He did not return from the battle ". The problem of front-line brotherhood, comradeship, friendship sounds in the stories of N. Gogol "Taras Bulba", B. Vasiliev "The dawns here are quiet ...", M. Sholokhov "They fought for their homeland", etc.

The theme of friendship between man and animal Man's relationship with nature and its objects can be harmonious, complementary, or destructive, and only man is to blame for this. In many works of Russian and foreign literature, the theme of friendship between man and animal is touched upon. G. N. Troepolsky "White Bim Black Ear". A.P. Chekhov "Kashtanka". A. I. Kuprin "White Poodle" Daniel Pennak "The Eye of the Wolf".

The theme of enmity and its consequences The antithesis to the theme of friendship is the theme of enmity and its destructive consequences in Russian and world literature. Enmity is destructive both for individuals and for entire nations. A piercing note sounds the thought of the senselessness and uselessness of enmity and war in the epic novel by L. N. Tolstoy "War and Peace", in "Don stories" and "Quiet Don" by M. A. Sholokhov, the novel "Defeat" by A. A. Fadeev . There is nothing more senseless than enmity between people, no matter how lofty ideas it may be justified.

The story of A. I. Pristavkin “A golden cloud spent the night” about the terrible consequences of the Stalinist deportation of the inhabitants of Chechen Ingushetia to foreign lands - to Siberia, Kazakhstan. The work is devoted to the theme of military childhood, homelessness, deportation of peoples under Stalin. The main idea is that you cannot build the happiness of one people on the misfortune of another. Sasha Kuzmin, one of the twins, is killed by Chechens who managed to escape Siberian exile and hide in the mountains. These people are taking revenge on those who now occupy their homes and cultivate their land. This sore subject - the tragedy of the deported peoples - vibrates in the book of A. I. Pristavkin with a special sound. But in spite of hate and death simple people ready to help and support a friend. So, in Kolka's heart, the place of the murdered brother Sashka was taken by the Chechen boy Alkhuzur. Adults fight among themselves - children fraternize! A. Pristavkin tells about saving, uniting, helping to survive in incredibly difficult conditions in his story.

Enmity has never been creative, has not resolved either personal or global human problems. In The Tale of Igor's Campaign, Svyatoslav utters the "golden word", condemning Igor and Vsevolod, who violated feudal obedience, which aroused enmity, led to a new attack of the Polovtsy on Russian lands. A. S. Pushkin in the story "Dubrovsky" casually thrown word led to enmity and many troubles for former neighbors.The hostile envious attitude of Shvabrin more than once threatened the life of Pyotr Grinev, the hero " captain's daughter» . In Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, the family feud ended in the death of the main characters.

Summing up the analysis of the works presented in this direction, it is worth noting once again that friendship is a type of stable, individually selective relationship. interpersonal relationships characterized by sympathy and mutual affection. Friendship implies mutual understanding, frankness, openness, trust, active mutual assistance, interest in the affairs and experiences of a friend, sincerity and disinterestedness of feelings. The strength of friendship depends on the commonality of goals, interests, ideals, intentions, value orientations. Friendship is especially adolescence. Friendship is constructive in nature, while its opposite, enmity, is destructive and destructive.

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Friendship is not just an emotional attachment, it is a close relationship based on trust and sincerity. I believe that a true friend will not deceive you under any circumstances. He will find the strength to tell the truth, even if it is not easy for him to do so. I can support my point of view with concrete examples.

An essay about friendship

There are not many things in the world that are eternal. After all, gold, precious jewelry, exquisite clothes, expensive cars and houses - all these are false, temporary values. Over time, they depreciate, break, deteriorate, cease to be fashionable. But among the eternal, true values, three things can be named. It is faith, love and friendship. « A true friend is the greatest treasure», « true friend known in trouble"- how often do we hear these proverbs, but how rarely do we think about their real meaning.

It's very hard to find these days true friend. Yes, each of us has many friends, whom I call one-day butterflies. They are ready to go to the movies or cafes with you, help you spend money in fashion boutiques, laugh at a joke. But these friends will never support you in difficult times. Why should they friend who needs to be helped, who needs to be consoled, wasting his time? They better go with others, the lucky ones friends to the cinema. And they don't care about losers.

And here a true friend will never leave you in trouble. No matter what happens, no matter what trouble knocks on your door, a friend will always be there, always ready to help, support, comfort. He is ready to sacrifice his time, money and even his life for you. This is what is real friendship, which is an eternal and expensive thing in life. And therefore, as a very valuable thing, it must be protected and cherished.

Composition on the theme of friendship | March 2015

An essay about What is friendship? 9-11 grade

Every person needs a friend - a person close to you in spirit, someone with whom it is interesting to spend time. A friend is that person who will support you in sorrow and in joy, who will always try to help with advice and deed.

But do all of us know how to be friends? And generally speaking - what is true friendship? It happens that two people constantly communicate, spend a lot of time together, but one of them has a misfortune or joy, and there is no strong friendship.

Such people are usually said to have failed the test. One of them was afraid of the troubles of the other, did not want to interfere, worry ... And it happens even worse - one friend began to envy the other: his successes, joys, victories ... No wonder they say that true friendship is tested not so much by misfortune as by joy.

So what is it in my opinion true friendship? I think it should be tested over the years. When people have been friends for many years, they have gone through a lot together and passed the “strength test”. A true friend, I think, wishes you only the best, tries in every possible way to help, to make your life better. This does not mean that he always says only pleasant things to you, not at all! On the contrary, a real friend can tell, one of the few, the whole truth in person, open your eyes to something, show where you were wrong. After all, it is very important to stop in time or direct in the right direction, to help understand your mistakes.

Of course, friendship is a two-way concept. Two people should equally value their relationship, protect it, try to save it. And then in my mind friendship will be really strong and durable.

Composition What is friendship for grades 9, 10, 11 | March 2015

An essay about True friendship 6-8 grade

If true friendship was not, then pogrom and war reigned all over the world ... But true friendship at the present time is a rare occurrence. You can appear to be your best friend, but not be one. True friendship is, first of all, the confidence that the person you consider your friend will not leave or betray in difficult times, will keep secret what you told him. This is the most important thing in true friendship for me! A true friend will never advise anything bad, and will try to do everything to make you feel better.

Yes, there will always be someone on earth who can be named true friend. Throughout your life, you will overcome difficult obstacles in your path together, you will do everything together. A true friend is forever, no matter what happens! Even if fate separates you, then pleasant memories of this person will remain in your heart!

There are two people in my life that I can proudly name real friends are ____ and _____. No matter what happens, they always helped me in difficult times, gave good advice. I am truly grateful to them for the fact that they are on earth! I will always remember that there were such girls!

Composition True friendship for grades 6, 7, 8 | March 2015

essay about friendship 8-11 grade

What is friendship? Each person understands its significance in life in their own way: for some it is an understanding, for others it is an opportunity to spend their free time in an exciting and unforgettable way. For me, friendship is, first of all, a feeling of support for a loved one and a firm belief that he will come to the rescue in difficult times. A true friend does not know how to envy, offend or hurt: social status is not important for him, he is close to you in spirit and understands perfectly.

It is not necessary that a true friend agreed with your every point of view: it is much more valuable that he supports you, even if he does not agree with your views on life. A true friend may criticize, but will never lie out of flattery or deliberately humiliate. The secrets that you share with a friend remain only between the two of you, and this appreciates and tests the sincerity of a person’s true attitude towards you.

Friendship is not subject to time, and emotions in communication with a friend do not change: even many years later, people have common topics for conversation, quivering memories and common values ​​in life. A friend is able to forgive you not only minor oversights, but also serious mistakes and will never reproach you for your mistakes. A true friend is the person with whom you will never get bored and who will not let you get bored.

And in joy and in sorrow, only a devoted and faithful friend should be next to us. But is it possible in modern world, where full of temptations and temptations, sincerely experience true friendship?

In my opinion, friendship is the only feeling that pretense is not subject to: it does not tolerate lies and masks. With a true friend, a person does not need to hide his character traits, possible shortcomings and impersonate someone who you really are not.

It seems to me that our generation misunderstands the truth of true friendship. Many of my peers call friends of people whom they have known for a short time, whom they still cannot trust, but already call them almost brothers and sisters. Friendship is tested not only over the years, but also through trials that a person meets throughout his life.

The basic principle of friendship is loyalty. Trust only strengthens friendship, and the confidence that a person will not betray you will support - proof of true friendship.

It is important to understand that a friend is not an ideal person: he can make mistakes and do stupid things. The main thing is that a friend should be able not only to forgive, but also not to harbor evil.

Essay about friendship for grades 8-11 | March 2015

Mini-essay on the topic Friendship

Option 1. (grade 5-7) Is it possible to live without friendship? No, without friendship our life would not be complete. But only if we mean true friendship, and not one that is built on selfish communication. True friendship is devotion, mutual sympathy, common interests. It is not for nothing that the proverb “A friend is known in trouble” exists. Friendship is when you are ready to come to the rescue at any time, share troubles and sorrows with your comrade. A friend will never gossip behind your back. A true friend will be able to say "no" and will always be by your side. Is this not true friendship? True friendship knows no distance and will always stand the test of time.

Option 2. (grades 6-8) What is friendship? This is joy! Great joy from communication! The joy of the fact that there is a person close to you who will help with advice, will always listen and will certainly support you in everything. Only he can be completely trusted. Only from him you can listen to criticism in your address without offense. True friendship, like true love, is a rare phenomenon. But if it is still there, then it is necessary to protect it, like the apple of an eye. After all, losing a friend, we lose a particle of ourselves. And we must always remember that it is easy to lose it, but insanely difficult to find it. And the older we get, the harder it gets. I have a friend! And that means I happy man. So I'm not alone. And he too. And together - the sea is knee-deep, together we will solve any problems, and we will not be afraid of any difficulties and hardships. After all, we are friends!

Option 3. (grades 5-9) What is friendship? Friendship is, first of all, helping a close friend, mutual understanding. Man cannot live without friendship. After all, he needs to communicate, develop. With friends, all things go quickly, because you can talk with them, ask for help. Someone's friends are a classmate or a classmate, someone has a neighbor from the yard. And for me friends it my ! I am very interested in them, and they always help me. Friendship is different. Someone has been friends since childhood, someone met at school. But it doesn’t matter what kind of friendship and with whom you are friends, because we are a single whole, we are a family, and we must be together. There is no such person on Earth who does not have best friend. And I'm sure friendship is in second place after parents. Make friends with friends, be kind to them and you will be happy!

mini essay about friendship for grades 5-9 | March 2015

Essay about friendship

Each of us knows how difficult it is for a person alone, so we are looking for friendship. Most often, we subconsciously try to make friends with people of a cheerful disposition, witty, kind, sympathetic. Over time, we endow these qualities with those whom we consider friends. But life is not always carefree, sometimes you need help. So who to turn to, if not to friends. And that's when it turns out who's real friend, and who is so familiar to spend leisure time together. Is it possible to understand in advance who will be your true friend? Perhaps, but it's not that easy. But, in my opinion, there are several traits required for friendship.

First, they say friendship happens between equals, but between a slave and a master it does not exist.

Secondly, friendship is between good people. After all, good people are incapable of evil deeds. No wonder there is a saying; tell me who your friend is and I will tell you who you are.

Apparently, this topic is really relevant, if there are so many thoughts about friendship. So in the literature, this topic is one of the leading ones. Panas Mirny wrote about the friendship between Grigory and Chipka in his novel “Do oxen roar when the manger is full?” They knew each other since childhood, but until Chipka became rich, they were just friends. When Chipka gained weight in society and he got money, Grigory became his close friend. He invited Chipka to be his godfather, hoping for rich gifts from him. But whether he was a true friend, the reader will see later. When the rebel Chipka was beaten by soldiers and he called for help, his so-called friend Grigory simply hid behind the fence so that it would not touch him. And he didn't feel sorry for Chipka at all, just as he didn't feel sorry for anyone at all, except for himself.

Come out, they say the truth that it creates friends, and misfortune tests them. In life, a person always finds like-minded people, people who are close in spirit and way of life. Indeed, there are so many people around, but only a few friends. What do we want in relationships with other people? Sincerity, warmth, indifference. Why would another person take such good care of you? Because friendship is a mutual concept, unlike love. If you want to be taken care of, be ready to take care of a friend in the same way. It turns out that a necessary condition for friendship is not to be selfish. To understand this in time means to deprive yourself of disappointments, self-blame. How often do you hear from some that, they say, they do not have friends, they are lonely ... Most often this is true, but has anyone ever wondered why this is so? It seems that we are forgetting that we must be ready to give, and not just take.

Friendship- this is a feeling of sincere desire to give warmth and hope. That's just to find among the many people of the same sincere friend who would think the same way. And check it out - it's not easy. There are many examples of sincere friendship in literature. The images of Niz and Euryal from I. Kotlyarevsky's poem "Aeneid" became a symbol of friendship, because these people were ready to sacrifice their lives for a friend. No less noble were the relations of the heroin of P. Kulish's novel "The Black Rada", and from it we learned how the Cossacks knew how to make friends, and how mutual assistance united them both in battle and in life. Therefore, Kirill Tur called his friend Chernogor a brother. In relations with other Cossacks, Kirill Tur was guided by custom and did as his noble heart prompted him.

Composition on the theme of friendship | February 2015

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Hello. Help, please, to understand. Me and my friend Olya are 23 years old, both unmarried, we work. We have known each other for several years, we started talking more closely less than a year ago. Before that, she had no girlfriends and she didn’t really communicate with anyone, as she herself says, at school she was considered stupid, a black sheep, at the university she was arrogant, but she had to work at work, there was no time to communicate. Not a single friendship in 16 years of communication in the team! Not a single birthday invitation, not a single offer to take a walk, nothing. Only a passion for dancing for many years, but she did not find friends there either, immediately after class she got ready and ran home. By nature, a very vulnerable person, for any nonsense, a word that SEEMS like an attack on her, can be offended, even at a tone or look, suspicious to horror. It always seems to her that everyone wants to humiliate her, offend her, but she doesn’t forget insults, real or imaginary, she can pretend that something didn’t hurt her, and then say so after 3 weeks. I even heard about insults from childhood from her not once. We walk past the mirror in the store, she constantly says "I can't look at myself", although she is pretty. At the slightest trouble, she says that this can only happen to her, that she is never lucky, that nothing will surely work out (when a new business is conceived in her work), that they will surely refuse, disapprove, criticize, etc. But in fact, she is a very good specialist in her work, she has good prospects, and she knows this, she talks about it herself, but still, along with confidence, she constantly questions her undertakings, but goes towards her goal and makes grandiose plans , that's what I like about her) She grew up without a father, as a child she witnessed his aggression, she is very attached to her mother and listens to her advice unquestioningly. Her mother is a wise woman, she always supports her, although I don’t know what is in their family. It is not customary for them to give gifts for the holidays, I was very surprised by the situation on New Year when I just heartily gave her a small Christmas decorations, did not expect anything in return, wanted to please, but only upset, apparently by putting her in an awkward position. She even offered to pay for me at the cinema then, which is generally wild for me, because this gift did not imply that I needed something from her. I invited her to a birthday party, she asked for a long time who else would be there, if there were people she didn’t know, I think she probably wouldn’t go. With acquaintances she is cheerful, sociable, interesting, and in the circle of strangers she is closed and silent. In general, she doesn’t let anyone close to herself, she is afraid of anger, envy, condemnation, she says that life constantly beats her, hard and often, although nothing seems to be happening. We became close only because I am the only one from the team who helps her in her work, because. I am also very interested in this, I always support, she consults with me. Yes, and it is interesting and calm to communicate, a lot common themes, she is a kind person We have the same views on many things. In fact, not everything is as terrible as I describe, all the negativity that she says, she speaks in a veiled way, people do not even know about her low self-esteem, but with constant communication it is noticeable. I always say that she is smart, and beautiful, and interesting, she kind of nods, and in her eyes you can read "are you sure this is about me ??" And now the question is ... is friendship possible on her part at all? After all, she has never been friends with anyone, she doesn’t know HOW ... it happens that she says something without thinking, which offends me very much. He is constantly late when we agree to meet, for at least 15-20 minutes, he can cancel the meeting at the last moment, because he is "not in the mood" ... by my standards, this is disrespect. And disrespect to give a birthday present in a crumpled package with a price tag)) Although she says that I am very close person, I doubt that she is capable of sincere friendship, which is why I wrote you such a long letter. How can you check her attitude? I know that she trusts me and cherishes this friendship, but I'm afraid that any of my luck causes envy on her part, isn't it like that for people with low self-esteem? She told me more than once that she envies those who got married, who have success at work, etc. It turns out that if I marry first, the friendship will end? How can a man do what he has never been able to do? After all, everyone can’t be bad, so the problem is in her, so she didn’t have friends?

Friendship.

The problem of friendship, true and false, the role of friendship in human life. What does true friendship mean?

As a child, I thought that my adulthood"will be in a different environment, I will be surrounded by completely different people, nothing will remain of the present. But in fact, my peers stayed with me. Friends of youth turned out to be the most faithful, everlasting. The circle of acquaintances has grown a lot, but real friends are old ones. True friends are acquired at a young age.

How should you treat friends? What is real friendship for?
D.S. Likhachev. "Letters about the good and the beautiful."

What does it mean to be friends? What unites people? How do people choose friends? What is true friendship? What's the difference between friends and pals? What role does friendship play in a person's life?
M.Yu. Lermontov "A Hero of Our Time"

Friendship plays an important role in a person's life, because a friend is a person who will always be there, help in trouble, share grief and joy. Life has repeatedly pushed Pechorin, the protagonist of the novel by M.Yu. Lermontov "Hero of Our Time", with people who treated him in a friendly way. We know of at least three such people from the novel. For example, Maxim Maksimych treated him like a son, Dr. Werner understood him perfectly, Grushnitsky shared the most secret and saw in him an example to follow. With each of these people, he could build strong friendships. However, he refused to believe in friendship: he believed that in friendship one person is always the slave of another, and he did not want to be either a slave or a master. This attitude towards friendship made him a lonely person and did not allow him to be sincere with these people. His indifference made these people disillusioned with him. If Pechorin had been open and appreciated those around him, then his fate could have turned out differently. Sometimes it is so important to hear friendly advice and feel support. In his life, this support was not, so he died somewhere far away, all alone.

How many times each of us thought about the seemingly simple question “What is friendship”, an essay-reasoning about which is presented to the reader. This text reveals the secrets of long-term friendship, when at a difficult moment in life a person realizes who is a true friend and who is just a selfish friend. Do not betray your friends, share your material and spiritual wealth with them.

What is friendship? In a sense, it is a kinship of souls. If people understand each other perfectly, if they live common interests, are always ready to support, defend the position of their friend in front of his opponents, then all this together is friendship.

For example, childhood friendship is strong. Acquaintance in the sandbox, growing into a real friendship, can last for years and even decades. The bonds of such friendship can be stronger and more reliable than kindred ones. Childhood friends are valuable through the sorrows and joys experienced in the process of growing up, successes and failures, meetings and partings. Tested by time, they are always distinguished by special devotion and loyalty.

Friendship in a person's life takes pride of place next to love. If among the many surrounding people, acquaintances, friends and even relatives there is at least one true friend, take care of him, like the apple of an eye. Everyone wants to have friends, but not everyone knows how to be friends. So treat others the way you want to be treated and you'll be fine. Unfortunately, by nature, or perhaps by upbringing, most people are inclined to exaggerate personal merits, while detracting from the merits of others.

Thinking about friendship leads to the thought - does friendship exist at all? In the modern world, eternal laws and concepts have become so depreciated that sometimes it seems unrealistic to meet true love or true friendship. And yet she is.

It is sad, but more often people are united by grief than joy. Memories of the war are a perfect confirmation of this. Human kindness, support, mutual assistance saved many lives in the war. Just yesterday, a stranger became familiar when, standing shoulder to shoulder, soldiers repelled an enemy attack or shielded each other with their chests, performing a heroic deed in the name of peace, happiness, friendship and endless love.

A friend is known in trouble - and this wise folk proverb characterizes the actions and conscience of a person in an extreme situation in the best possible way. A devoted friend, even to the detriment of himself, will help solve any problem. Never leave a friend alone with his grief. It is easy to rejoice together: celebrate holidays, relax in nature with barbecue, cheer for your favorite team. Being there in difficult times is worth a lot. This is inherent only to a devoted friend, very faithful, reliable, experienced by various life troubles.

Friendship and betrayal often go hand in hand. The worst thing in life is when the person you trust betrays you. Even if it concerns small things, something insignificant and not so important. The one who is able to betray in the small will betray in the big. No one can forgive betrayal - neither a loved one, nor a friend, no matter how hard it may be.

Cherish friendship. Carry it carefully throughout your life, like a spark of God. Don't let vicious temptations extinguish it. Do not trample on distrust, do not scourge with betrayal. Also, do not leave your friends either in sorrow or in joy. Share the last loaf of bread and one great happiness for everyone!