Loneliness is one of the "darkest" states inherent in a person. The person himself is social by nature - he needs communication, support, and the release of emotions. And when you are all alone, then there comes a complete and hopeless depression.

In addition to the fact that depression itself internally burns out a person, the state of loneliness “accelerates” this process several times. And it is not surprising that so many can not cope with such a mental load. The consequences can be different - from the fact that a person becomes a sociopath and to the fact that he has to undergo a long course of rehabilitation in psychiatric hospitals.

What needs to be done in order to prevent the victory of loneliness over your “I”, or, in simple terms, how not to go crazy from loneliness?

I offer such a small instruction that will help you get out of this dark state, just remember that working on yourself is always hard and the result will never be noticeable immediately. For this, the main thing is needed - time, patience and inner determination.

Instruction

There is a huge gap between the words "loneliness" and "solitude". Are you sure that your condition is loneliness? Maybe now the time has simply come when your soul demanded solitude? Try to figure it out.

If you have determined that what you feel is the most loneliness, then do the following:

1. We go out to people. This means that you do not need to lock yourself in the four walls of your apartment and constantly “scroll” compassionate thoughts about yourself unfortunate in your head. We gather and go to a cafe, a theater, a museum. We attend exhibitions, open seminars, public readings. We sign up for yoga, refresher courses or a dance studio. In general, we are moving. Hard? I do not argue. But here you have two decisions - either sail where the wind blows, or make your life do what you need. The choice is yours.
2. Get a pet. And better than one that requires constant attention - a Vietnamese pig, for example. Or, more simply, a dog. Here you really want it, you don’t want it, but you have to go out for a walk, and communicate with animal lovers and, quite likely, visit kennel clubs.
3. A hobby is also such a thing that helps not to go crazy with loneliness. Everyone has their own hobby - someone collects matchboxes, someone is a Teddy bear, and someone really likes to look for treasures. What have you always wanted to do? Now is the time when you are quite capable of making your dream come true.
4. Reading helps you rethink your life and reassess your priorities. So read on health, it will only get better. The period of loneliness will pass, and the accumulated knowledge and helpful information will stay with you. (See article "")
5. Try your hand at artistic creativity. Let your paintings be not too beautiful and made in dark colors, you are not going to exhibit them in the Gallery. With each new drawing, the paint on it will become lighter and brighter, which means that life will begin to flourish.
6. Get into the habit of taking pictures of sunrises. This will have a very positive effect on your inner state.
7. Get a notebook where you write down your thoughts. At first, of course, there will be only tearful and compassionate quotes, but then deeper thoughts will appear. Who knows, maybe you will become the new Montaigne or Nietzsche, and your aphorisms will add to the collection of the most famous sayings?
8. Go somewhere on vacation - you can home country, but you can “wave” to distant countries. It is likely that your loneliness is exactly that chance that falls once in a lifetime in order to meet your soul mate or radically change your life.
9. Make a list of the benefits of your current state. For example:
   
   • A lot of free time that can be used for something worthwhile;
   • No restriction in desires and actions;
   • Complete freedom from others - you don’t need to adapt to anyone’s opinion.
10. Limit your time on the Internet. All "friends" in social networks- only a myth with which you yourself “warm your soul”. It's just an illusion of need and demand. Get rid of her.

Here is the instruction I got. Choose from it what appeals to you the most, and start doing it. And you can do everything strictly according to the points. Most likely, you will not even get to the sixth, as you will feel that loneliness has given up its positions and you have not been visited by thoughts about how not to go crazy from loneliness for a long time.

Do not focus on this state, accept it as a fact. Everything in this life is given to us for some reason, and our task is to understand this, draw conclusions and start new life. I am sure that loneliness is the moment at which the most important decision in life is made, a goal appears, its comprehension and a clear prioritization. Consider your loneliness as preparation for a happy joyful life, and everything will be fine with you! Good luck!

Alone with myself, I do not get lonely:

I am a very interesting conversationalist

wise friend and, in general,

versatile person.

Loneliness. Many, once in such a situation, are ready to climb the walls and whine at the moon. They are terrified of being alone. It seems that the ceiling is crushing and the walls are coming together. Stuffy, scary, terribly unpleasant. How not to go crazy with loneliness? Where to put your irrepressible soul? What to do with a restless body?

Loneliness is the only way to know yourself

How can you look inside yourself, being constantly surrounded by a crowd of people? What do you want? What are you striving for? What are you dreaming about? What are you capable of? What benefit can you bring to your loved ones?

We are sometimes unable to answer all these questions. Because we don't have time to think about it. Here are the higher powers and send us, lost in the crowd, loneliness.

There was such a case in my life. One of my friends, a former colleague, an experienced teacher the highest category asked for help from a psychotherapist. With emotional stability, the person was all right, and no one observed mental abnormalities. This visit would not have been known if the woman had not been shocked by her discovery.

The next day, before the start of the working day, she could not calm down. The fact is that the therapist asked if she had a hobby.

Some of the colleagues understood her, and some just shrugged. It's actually scary! We live, we work, we communicate. And we are so absorbed in everyday problems, work duties and the worries of our friends that we forget about ourselves. Most of us do minimal brain work. Moreover, earthly problems. There is no time to think about higher spheres.

No hobbies, no dreams, no goals. Where we are going? What for? Unclear. And loneliness is an opportunity to look into your own soul, into your own heart, to rethink your life. The forced rejection of the informational background is very useful. It's important to understand this. Then the question will not arise: how not to go crazy from loneliness?

Loneliness is an opportunity for self-development

With interesting person will never be lonely. With him there is something to talk about and dream about. There is a lot to do with him. If you feel lonely, you should think about your self-development. You have to be interesting.

Develop from different angles:

1. Creative. Find a way to express your thoughts, emotions, feelings, experiences. Throw out your suffering and throwing into any creations. The process itself will make you forget about loneliness.
2. Intellectually. Get your brain busy.
   • Do mental exercises.
   • Study countries, continents, the behavior of our smaller brothers. You can visit the museum, go to a neighboring city and take a walk in historical places.
   • Get involved in foreign languages. "Attend" English lessons via Skype, learn French or German with a self-study.
   • Solve chess problems, mathematical equations.

How not to go crazy with loneliness? Take your hands and load your body

Good way to get rid of negative thoughts- get down to business. Do a deep clean of the garage or basement, dig up the vegetable garden, clean the carpets, or fix the furniture.

Go in for sports. Exhausting your body with daily workouts, healthy activity and proper nutrition, as a rule, normalizes the state of affairs in the head. There is no time to suffer from loneliness if every morning - a run, six times a week - a gym, and in the evening - a vegetable salad and a glass of kefir.

What can not be done?

Get drunk, go to a club with a dubious friend, or indulge in carnal pleasures with a random partner. Such behavior will not relieve loneliness. And an unpleasant aftertaste on the soul will remain.

Add to favorites new year holidays the number of suicides is on the rise - terrible, isn't it? Because those who do not have a family fall out of their usual active communication for a long time (we will not discuss loneliness for good)

A few years ago, when I first found myself on a fortnight new year holidays one panicked a lot. The phone was silent (usually almost a hundred calls a day were heard at work!), The children went on vacation, and I divorced my husband that year

Of course, I didn’t think about suicide, but, to be honest, I didn’t feel comfortable ... I sat at home alone like an owl. I went for a walk, so a couple with gift bags in their arms, cooing and kissing, pissed them off even more

I allowed myself to be sad for a day, drink a bottle of wine under the click of the TV remote control, and then opened my notebook and began to call everyone in a row - to congratulate me on the New Year. In one family they say to me: “Why are you at home? We were sure that you were somewhere in the mountains or on the sea. If not, come visit us!" So I did. A day later, I traveled with gifts to a few more friends and my heart brightened. It turned out that the holidays are not enough to chat with everyone you want.

Do not make a cult out of NG. The holiday, of course, is beloved, bright and joyful, but if you are suddenly left alone, do not panic.

We are rarely alone with ourselves, all the time the information background and stereotypes are crushing, and this is not good. Relax, spend a few days as you like - eat, walk, ski, even if last time stood on them at school.

If you have a subscription to the fitness room - go there for the whole day, why not? Would you like to try skiing? Look at the ads in the newspaper, find an instructor and go for it. Many of my lonely acquaintances are going to this new year's eve go to Gorky Park. There are ice rinks, cafes and a lot of people. Why is it necessary to sit at the table and be sad? You can take an electric train and drive 50 km from your city - to another, also interesting. Spend the night in a hotel, feel something new in your life. But rushing to a nightclub with the same lonely girlfriend, if in fact you don’t really like this business, is not worth it. Spoil the mood, the soul can become even worse.

On the last NY, one of my girlfriends, yielding to the persuasion of a stubborn aunt from a dating site, went with strangers to a boarding house. Without a shudder, she cannot remember that night ... Women different years and builds, wearing cat ears and ponytails provided by the organizers, almost fought over a handful of men - bald, not the first youth ... The girlfriend locked herself in the room and stared at the bad TV all night.

Now she decided to just stay at home - she bought some tasty little things, and in the evening of the first she is going on some kind of tour of Moscow. I have already painted all the New Year holidays - either the Planetarium, or the Pushkin Museum, or just skiing in Sokolniki. On the 5th I will join her - we will take the food to the dog shelter, this year we decided to help the animals. And on Christmas we will take gifts to the nursing home, they are much worse off than all of us, while still young. How are you going to spend the upcoming holidays?

I'm going crazy from loneliness
And my heart hurts, then it aches
Like a forgotten prophecy
My soul howls in oblivion

I can't find peace anywhere
Under this sun and moon
And I seem to give up without a fight
When longing gives me a fight

I'm going crazy from loneliness
And thoughts whisper trouble to me
On the iris of frost architecture
Split fate

And hands fall silently
And desires dissolve
And feelings are covered with dust
The soul is tired of wandering ..

I'm going crazy from loneliness
Abandoned, away from everyone
I will forget the name, as well as the patronymic
And there will be emptiness

Before me the roads are dusty
And I'm alone even in the crowd
No strength, because the souls are not stranded
It's time for me to sing

I'm going crazy from loneliness
Looming ghostly scrip
I'm going crazy with loneliness...
From loneliness... go crazy

Reviews

Loneliness ... - a terrible feeling ... I lived in "loneliness together" for two years ... Brrr - I remember, I shudder .... then a "new explosion of rhyming" occurred - splashed out feelings-emotions so as not to completely go crazy ....
I read your poem - as a wave of memories covered ...
The verse is good - hooked
With warmth and respect to you,
Zulya

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How not to go crazy with loneliness? This question is not relevant for everyone. Many people think that it is easier to go crazy from communicating with their own kind, who behave stupidly, strangely and unpredictably. Or predictably inadequate. So loneliness for many is a welcome relief from contact with imperfect human beings. Those who do not have misanthropic moods believe that loneliness is a terrible time when everyone left you or simply treacherously abandoned you. And that being alone is hard, boring and uninteresting.

In this case, you can try to look at the situation from a different angle. It’s not that everyone abandoned you, but you are tired of everyone. It is not they who do not understand you, but you do not want to explain to them the motives of your actions, since you are a mysterious and complex person. You are not lonely, you enjoy peace and quiet. You feel good alone with yourself, because no one loves and appreciates you as much as you yourself.

If such thoughts do not save you because you do not believe in them or because they seem strange and inappropriate, then loneliness is not for you. You probably love being around people, you feel a constant need to communicate and share your thoughts and feelings with those who are ready to understand and listen to you. But even for you, short-term loneliness can be useful: it is always good to change the situation for a while and relax.

Going crazy with loneliness is not as easy as it seems. There are not many examples in history of someone going crazy for this very reason. Take, for example, the same Robinson Crusoe, a personality, although not historical, but having historical analogues. Who was really alone. At least before he got a pet in the form of Friday. Why didn't Robinson go mad, fall into despair, and kill himself by taking a lethal dose of rum found in chests? Because he didn't have time. There was simply no time for any nonsense like smearing tears on the beard. It was necessary to build a hut, hunt wild boar, sew moccasins from skins and plant found corn grains.

Returning to human society, Robinson could earn money by conducting psychological trainings on the topic "how not to go crazy with loneliness." And the first item on the list of his recommendations would be a call: work. And it's not just about the work that takes place from eight to five under the supervision of a strict uncle. This work is often needed only in order to get hold of and equip your own hut. She, of course, distracts from loneliness, but she does not completely get rid of him, if she is not a favorite thing of her whole life. And for those lucky ones for whom it is, the prospect of going crazy with loneliness definitely does not shine.

The call to work primarily refers to work on oneself. To the development of oneself as a person, as a creative unit and as a receptacle of the soul. Creative person rarely lonely. And if it happens, then he has a wonderful opportunity to transform all unpleasant emotions, throwing and suffering into some kind of creation. And experience an incomparable pleasure at the same time.

Personal growth can be expressed in intellectual development: the study of new sciences, languages, countries, customs, or other mental exercises. Someone plays chess, someone bets on red, someone observes the behavior of human beings in natural conditions and draws various conclusions from this.

Spiritual development has long been considered the knowledge of oneself to the very depths or to the bottom. To do this, you can tie yourself into a marine knot, as yoga does. Or repeat some mysterious phrase, rumored to be able to bring your consciousness to a new level, as the Hare Krishnas and some other societies of like-minded people do. You can take a vow of silence, shave your head, go on a pilgrimage, or use any of the other traditional or not-so-traditional ways of self-discovery.

Some people start with a healthy body, and spiritual development leaves for later. This also has its own rationale. Oddly enough, exhausting the body with exercise, healthy eating, and a variety of beneficial activities usually corrects the state of affairs in the head. There is no time to suffer from loneliness if you have a gym five times a week, a run every morning, and every evening a serving of low-fat cottage cheese and half a green apple. In addition, there is a very high probability of the appearance of like-minded friends who will save you from lonely evenings and weekends by inviting you to a yogurt party, a football party between two teams and one ball, or a two-hour non-stop marathon run.

The appearance of friends and accomplices (not accomplices) is likely in all variants of any hobbies. Even if you like to shoot overripe plums at cans of green peas from a slingshot, you still have like-minded people. It is worth searching the Internet to understand that there are thousands of diverse communities of interest, including very unexpected ones. Even if your communication is virtual and you will never see those who understand you like no one else in the world, it will still save you from loneliness.

If you think back to Robinson Cruz, you can easily guess what his next advice would be to those who suffer from sad loneliness. Start Friday. Or Murka, Druzhka, Khoma, Fool's Ass. The presence of a living being, funny, sweet, devoted and grateful, is always uplifting. And he convinces of his own need and usefulness. And if you pick up a puppy or a kitten on the street, then a special relationship will arise between you, in which you will act as a noble, loving and kind person. Being like that is always nice and boring.

Conclusion: if at some stage of your life you were overcome by loneliness and a feeling of your own uselessness, do not rush to tear your hair out and call the orderlies. Better try to make the most of the situation. Take care of yourself. Learn something new, learn something, work on those physical or psychological aspects your personality, which you consider weak. Then, when you are again drawn into the whirlpool of communication, relationships and turbulent events (and this will definitely happen when you are ready), you will not have time for it.