Women's emancipation has led to the fact that the concept of "gentleman" has largely lost its value. Modern men are forced to try to combine things that are difficult to combine: to behave like a real gentleman and at the same time demonstrate respect for the equal rights of women. Many men eschew the traditional "chivalrous" gestures for fear of being labeled a misogynist. The lack of successful role models - men who could demonstrate how behavior makes a real gentleman - is increasing.

However, the majority modern women they still appreciate gentlemanly gestures: sometimes almost imperceptible, but always very important ways to demonstrate to a woman that a man is attentive, polite and has good manners.

No.10 - Go Left

A real gentleman always walks on the left when walking. The origins of this classic sign of a gentleman date back to the Middle Ages: a woman walking on the right was protected by balconies hanging over her head, but pots of slop were poured onto the head of her unfortunate companion. Today, a man walking on the left "protects" a woman from passing cars, reducing the risk of her smart dress getting splashed by fast-moving cars.

No.9 - Seating Her First

In ancient times, a sign good manners it was customary for a gentleman to push back his chair so that his lady could sit down at the table. Today, this gesture is considered too formal, but still a real gentleman should at least make sure that the woman sat down first. This act is a sign of respect and good manners, even if the woman herself did not notice this. Of course, the pause before sitting down should not be deliberate and ostentatious. You can "mask" the expectation, for example, by hanging outerwear while the woman sits down.

No.8 - Watch vocabulary

Highly important rule which is increasingly underestimated in modern world- Inappropriate language is not acceptable on a date. The essential qualities of a gentleman are erudition and the ability to express their thoughts without resorting to rude or even profanity. Vocabulary helps to demonstrate not only education, but also the high standards of a man in relation to himself and others. It is also worth refusing to use “pseudo-scientific” terms: too long and “smart” words, the meaning of which the man himself is unlikely to understand.

No.7 - Carry an umbrella

Another gentlemanly gesture is to take shelter with a woman from the rain under your own umbrella. In the UK, a gentleman had to always be ready for the vagaries of the weather, so an umbrella good quality has become one of the indispensable accessories for a man - and not only a Briton. Even if it's only going to rain, you need to take an umbrella with you - and if it really starts to rain, this will allow you to demonstrate your own foresight and ability to take care of others.

No.6 - Take her home

Escorting a woman home is an extremely important component of the behavior of a real gentleman. Making sure that a woman gets home without incident is the direct responsibility of a man, even if her house is not at all road. A woman will feel safe if she knows that a man is walking her right up to front door. But "rewards" for chivalrous behavior should not be expected: the prerogative of a woman is to decide whether a man will be allowed to step over the door threshold.

No.5 - Offer your jacket

When a woman chooses an outfit for a date, practicality considerations are usually rarely taken into account. elegant dress is unlikely to provide adequate protection from sudden cold or rain, so if the evening is cold or damp, a gentleman should offer his jacket to a woman. Of course, a woman can refuse such an unsuitable wardrobe item, but the gesture itself will demonstrate care and attention.

No.4 - Make way

A traditional, but, unfortunately, increasingly ignored practice in the modern world is to give up a seat on a bus, tram, subway to elderly people or pregnant women. A man can go a little further and offer a seat to a woman instead of sitting himself. The gesture allows you to demonstrate that the comfort of a woman for a man is higher than his own. You should not turn the act into a spectacle for the entire bus, loudly and persistently seating the woman in her seat. The best way is to stand up and then quietly invite the woman to take the vacant seat.

No.3 - Turn off your mobile phone at the table

A surprising number of men hesitantly interrupts the date with a conversation on a mobile phone. This act is one of the grossest mistakes not only on a date, but also in any face-to-face communication situation. Answering a call on a mobile phone and, moreover, dragging out a conversation for several minutes, a man makes a woman feel superfluous: she is forced to wait for the end of the conversation in a very uncomfortable environment. Gesture of a real gentleman - turn off the mobile phone during romantic dinner and answer all missed calls later.

No.2 - Introduce Her

Having met someone you know during lunch or a joint walk, you need to introduce your lady to them: otherwise, she, as in the situation with a conversation on a mobile phone, will feel superfluous. A gentleman will always make sure that a woman feels as comfortable as possible, and introducing her to her friends or acquaintances is on the list of necessary actions for this. All you have to do is stop the conversation to give the woman's name and engage her in conversation. Even if the woman does not participate in further conversation, this gesture will make her feel more comfortable.

No.1 - Open the door

90% of all women believe that a man who opens the door for a woman is a real gentleman. Holding the door open is the simplest gesture, but it will show respect to the woman who enters it. As with other "gentlemanly" gestures, opening the door for a woman should be made a natural part of your behavior.

Today we'll talk about how a true gentleman should behave in various situations, because the topic of education and behavior is actively lobbied modern society. Girls are increasingly striving to communicate with intelligent, cultured men who know when to give a hand, let a lady go ahead or help out of the car.

Good manners can be appreciated not only by girls, but also by older people, parents, teachers and leaders, because it is with the help of gallantry and politeness that it is easiest to win over a person, to call him positive emotions. We bring to your attention several postulates regarding how a gentleman should behave, which will help you navigate in a given situation and choose the right demeanor.

How should a true gentleman behave?

Extend your hand towards the opponent's hand;
Confidently and firmly squeeze the hand, but not so hard that the person feels pain or discomfort;
Slowly raise and lower your hand twice;
Let go of the man's hand.

The handshake time comes right after the gentlemen are introduced to each other. To support a further conversation, you can ask about the affairs of a person, start a topic about the weather or current on this moment problem. Among the lower classes, it is customary to say the phrase "Nice to meet you," but if you are claiming the title of a gentleman from high society, then you should not say that. If you are meeting a woman, then you should shake hands slightly, given that female hand weaker than the male. A real gentleman will take only the woman's fingers in his hand, gently squeeze them and smoothly lower and raise his hand once. You should not be surprised if some of the people introduced to you do not extend their hand in order to shake yours, in which case you should limit yourself to a nod of the head.

4. Avoid swearing in speech. In order to become a gentleman, you must forever forget about rude words and obscene language. Watch for the grammatical correctness of your communication, during a conversation speak clearly, understandably, with intonation, raise your head high, do not use raised tones. If you decide to use any difficult words or are having a conversation on professional topics, you need to be competent in this area. In the case when the topic of conversation is not particularly familiar, it is better to avoid specific statements that you are not sure about, you can use neutral turns, because a true gentleman cannot screw up and voice false, incorrect information.
5. During the conversation, avoid obscene, rude and outrageous topics. If such a conversation was started by one of the participants in the conversation, the behavior of the gentleman should be neutral, just keep silent or ignore the remark - the most the best way. But of course it all depends on the situation, if the interlocutor is your friend, and you know that you can offend him with your silence, you will have to find another alternative way to point out the unacceptability of the topic he has chosen.

What should be the behavior of a gentleman?

When giving up seats on a bus or metro, you should not first offer a seat, then wait for consent, and only then get up. According to the rules, you should first get up and at the same time call out to the person to whom you want to give up the seat. It should be done so that a person sees an already empty seat when he pays attention to a shout. Otherwise, it will look like a formality, they say, according to the rules, you must give in, so I propose, but in fact I expect a refusal.

A true gentleman should understand that you should not go too far in your desire to be courteous: flattering, fawning on people, trying to support and yield in everything - these are more character traits of a weak-willed and insecure person than a gentleman. A man must himself understand in which case it is worth showing his manners and providing a service, and when it is better to let go of the situation.

You should not give way to a girl if she is traveling with a friend, because two girls will not be able to sit down, and turning to a particular lady, you can offend her companion.

If a woman is standing far from where you are sitting, then giving her a seat will force her to move through the crowd, which most ladies do not like, so in this case it is also better not to give up her seat.

If you eat with a friend and take two seats side by side, then both should give up their seats, otherwise it will not look very ethical.

If the one to whom you gave way does not want to sit down, referring to the fact that he will soon leave, or the person simply does not want to, it is enough to offer again. And after repeated refusal to sit back. But do not be lenient in such a situation.

A real gentleman can take care of himself: wash and iron his wardrobe. And it needs to be made into a habit. Don't expect your mom or wife to wash your socks and iron your pants, you have to do it yourself.

A true gentleman appreciates model shoes that are not only beautiful, stylish and well-groomed, but also comfortable. Shoes should be polished so that they shine, and the color of the socks should match the shoes.

When wearing trousers or jeans, do not forget about the belt - this is important accessory that all the strong wear modern men. Without it, the image looks incomplete and it feels like something is missing. Choose belts without massive buckles and lots of studs.

Communicates with girls with nobility. But without condescension;

He does not allow himself to go over with alcohol, no matter what situation he is in. A drunken man looks unworthy, causes disgust and hostility among the people around him;

Does not make tattoos and piercings in a conspicuous place. Given that gentlemen get into a variety of companies, social parties and business meetings, you should carefully consider the need for a body tattoo or piercing. It is unlikely that you will look good at a meeting of directors with an earring in your nose. But if you still want to pay tribute to fashion, then choose the part of the body that you can hide if necessary;

You should not make acquaintances for the sake of sex, this is a manifestation of disrespect, both to yourself and to the girl;

Before bringing up a particular topic in a conversation, carefully analyze whether there are people in the company whom it can upset, embarrass or offend. Also, you should not constantly reduce the conversation to your own successes, achievements and your person in principle.

Karolina Emelyanova

The word "gentleman" is derived from the French gentil ("noble") and the English man ("man"). A gentleman is a man of noble birth. The 19th-century British statesman Robert Peel said that it takes three generations to create a gentleman.

In the Middle Ages, gentlemen were called members of the English non-titled nobility - gentry. This social stratum occupied an intermediate position between peers and yeomen, that is, they are quite good well-born families, but still not titled enough.

AT Victorian era the concept of "gentleman" was somewhat transformed and at the same time finally formed. So they began to call a person who has the opportunity not to work, lives on income from his property or from inheritance, while being superbly educated, well-mannered and noble.

A gentleman with real intelligence and culture tends to be humble. He may feel, while in the company of ordinary people, that he is intellectually superior to those around him, but he will not seek to show his superiority over them. He will not seek to touch on topics in which the interlocutors do not have the appropriate knowledge. Everything he says is always marked by courtesy and respect for the feelings and opinions of others.

This male image entered popular culture as an image of an elegant man who strictly follows the rules of etiquette. One has only to say "gentleman", and the brain already draws a man in with exquisite.

But in the 21st century, a gentleman is determined not only (and not so much) by appearance. In the modern public consciousness, this proud title is attributed to men who are gallant and extremely respectful towards women. Emancipation is emancipation, and deep down, every girl wants to be treated like a lady.

So that include a sense of humor and read about how to be a gentleman. Be sure to pass everything written through the prism of self-irony, but do not forget that in every joke there is only a fraction of a joke.

How to be a gentleman

1. Be loyal

A true gentleman is faithful to his beloved. He just doesn't notice other women around him.

2. Admit when you're wrong

And when you are right... Sometimes it is better to remain silent, even when the truth is on your side.

3. Say nice things

Say nice things to a woman if you really think so. But do not flatter just because the girl wants to hear something pleasant.

4. Don't show temper when she cries
Just be quiet and hold her hand. Let her feel that she is safe.

5. Trust her
Forget about the past. Trust your beloved, even if you have experienced betrayal in the past.

6. Never compare
The worst thing you can do is compare her to another girl. Worse than that, just compare her to your ex.

7. Don't Promise the Impossible
Do not give a word if you are not 200% sure that you will keep it. Yes, not 100%, but 200%.

8. Text her more often.
Banal messages like " Good morning, expensive!" or " Goodnight, Darling!" mean more to her than you think. Write to her every day, and not just in a fit of feelings.

9. Spend time with her.
Spending time with your girlfriend is great, but don't discount your friends.

10. Be a knight
You can leave the horse at home, but do not forget to hold her hand when she gets out of the car, open the door, give her coat and so on.

11. Don't lie
A real gentleman never lies to his girlfriend. Okay, sometimes he lies. But only in such trifles as "Honey, this is only the second glass" (actually the fifth).

12. Be gallant
Show courtesy and respect for her and what she holds dear.

13. Be a good listener
Humble yourself, you must listen to her. All the time. You will talk with friends, and if you have a girlfriend, listen.

14. Do romantic things
A simple note "I love you!" or an unexpected call in the middle of the day - already romantic. Don't neglect these little things.

15. Never ask her about her ex.
This is bad tone.

16. Don't be rude
A gentleman will never indulge in offensive behavior.

17. Never blame her for your mistakes.
And even in her mistakes.

18. Laugh at her jokes
Think unfunny!

19. Fight her with pillows
Just don't get into a rage, count your strength.

20. Don't talk about her behind her back.
This is a bad idea, friends.

21. The dress is good
Just a great dress if she is wearing it and she is next to you.

22. Respond to her messages
Otherwise, you risk saying goodbye to your phone.

23. Never ask her to buy you something.
It's just unworthy.

24. Do not try to forget about her birthday
Do I need to say what it is fraught with? Exactly!

25. Pay at a restaurant
Even if three of her girlfriends dined with you.

26. Keep Hygiene
Cut your nails, wash your hair, be neat. Maintaining body hygiene is essential.

27. Don't force her
Even if you really want to watch football and drink beer with your girlfriend, do not insist when you hear a refusal. Want to go shopping? Let's go shopping!

28. Give her your jacket if she's cold.
It is clear that you are also cold, but what can you do.

29. Don't offer weird ways to fall asleep.
Do not advise her to take a couple of sips of whiskey, it is better to read something to her.

30. Give her flowers
Every day, of course, is too much. But on a case-by-case basis - why not?

31. Notice the little things
"You have a new hairstyle!" Believe me, this is not a trifle for her.

32. Wear her clothes
This is part of the knighthood.

33. Compliment
As much as possible. And even a little more.

34. Give her happiness
Do everything in your power to keep her happy. (Tip: sometimes shopping can help.)

35. No slaps!
Even as a joke.

36. Keep quiet if she slapped you
You probably deserve it.

37. If you love her, don't talk about it.
Show your love with your actions. Every day. When and wherever you are.

38. Don't judge her
Never ever.

39. Expect less
And get more. This law always works.

40. Be spontaneous
Women hate boring guys.

41. Be Responsive
Strive to help at any cost.

42. Smile more often
And you will see her smile back. Cry only if no one is watching.

43. Appreciate her
She's the best thing that ever happened to you. And this is just one of the reasons to appreciate it.

44. Hug her from behind
A hug from the front indicates desire, a hug from the back means you trust her. Women love both.

45. Kiss her hands
And palms, and elbows, and shoulders. Kiss her all over at every opportunity. But know the measure.

46. ​​Being literate is sexy
Don't underestimate the seductive power of good writing and speaking. Arrrrr!

47. Watch sunsets with her
It's romantic. From her point of view.

48. Don't let her go home alone
You never know what it might turn out to be.

49. Accept her for who she is.
Don't let your ideals ruin everything.

50. Call her beautiful, not hot or sexy.
But, having called her beautiful several times, you can at least call her a bomb.

51. Always forgive her
A gentleman does not hold grudges and always forgives.

52. Let her climb on your back
Girls love to ride on backs.

53. Breasts and buttocks don't matter
Okay, they have. But don't show it.

54. Don't swear
Generally!

55. Hang out not only with yours, but also with her friends
Don't miss the opportunity to have a good time.

56. She is more important than video games
True, believe me. Okay, except for those moments when he lost and did not survive.

57. Never insult her, even as a joke
It's not gentlemanly.

58. Never be late for a date
Work can wait. Girl - no.

59. Arrange surprises
This is a mutual thing: if you do, you will receive.

60. Help her feel like a princess
Every girl dreams about it.

61. Let her put her head on your shoulder
The rest will go by itself.

62. Never make excuses
Men have problems with this. Recognize it.

63. Don't talk to her when you're angry
Be sure to mess something up.

64. Actions speak louder than words
And women always notice them.

65. Girls love guys with a cute smirk
Honestly.

66. She should have an orgasm first
Always. Humble yourself. Dot.

67. Don't brag
But if she boasts, then listen very carefully.

68. Say "I love you"
Every day. And more than once is better.

69. Kiss her forehead
Even if he sweats.

70. Compete who loves whom more
And make sure she wins.

71. Kiss her spontaneously, in mid-sentence
Especially if you see that she is about to get angry.

72. Kiss her when she sleeps
This is great.

73. Tickle each other
And let her win this fight.

Impeccable appearance, refined manners, respect for others and the attention of women. When a man grows up, he understands that being a gentleman is very good. How to be a gentleman

A true gentleman is respectful in everything around him, from the women he would like to date to the old ladies who need help carrying their bags. He carefully monitors his appearance, is polite to all who deserve it, and courteous to all women, even if he does not count on a romantic relationship with them. To be a real gentleman, you need to be a mature, cultured person who knows himself well.

1. The importance of appearance

1.1 Maintain personal hygiene. Shower regularly, use deodorant and toilet water, but very little perfumery is enough: girls may not like the smell, and if there is too much of it, you will not be able to impress them. In addition, you should not abuse the hair gel: it makes the hair stick together, and the hairstyle seems unnatural. Take care of your body and clean up every time you plan to leave the house. If the smell of purity and freshness does not come from you, then beautiful clothes won't make any difference. It is very important to keep hygiene in the first place so that the condition of your body does not distract people from your personality. Wash your hands after using the toilet. All gentlemen do this.

1.2 Wear clothes that suit you. Choose things that fit well, and refrain from overly bright and provocative clothes. Don't wear vulgar items (such as a baseball cap pulled to the side). The simpler your clothes are, the more often people will seek to examine your soul. Choose simple solid colors: black, black, brown. Do not wear graphic tees, neon shorts, or oversized wrist watch. Keep it simple - it will make your image elegant.

It is very important to choose trousers that will sit on the figure. Baggy pants will make you look untidy, while pants that are too short or tight will indicate that you haven't updated your wardrobe for a long time. Complement your trousers with a neat belt, and everyone will see that you are serious about your appearance.

Most men wear suits that are two sizes too big for them. It is best to tailor a suit to your measurements rather than trying to find a ready-made one. It is extremely important for a true gentleman to wear clothes that fit perfectly. In addition, a suit according to the figure will make you slim.

It is necessary to choose clothes that will suit the circumstances. Stick to the dress code, whether it's work or a wedding celebration where you've been invited as a guest. Remember that it is better to overdo it a little with appearance rather than give it the attention it deserves.

1.3 Look after yourself. Comb your hair regularly and think about what you like more: shaving every morning or having a neat, thick beard. Get rid of the stubble every day, otherwise you will look untidy. Always keep a comb with you to comb your hair when no one is looking, if the wind blows your hair or if it loses volume at the end of the working day. Even nails are very important. Clean and trim them as needed to keep them looking neat. Trim your nose hair.

1.4 Have a firm handshake. A real gentleman knows how to shake hands. When you meet a new boss, your girlfriend's father, or your sister's boyfriend, look the person in the eye, shake hands firmly, and show that you're serious. Don't grab your hand too hard - just shake it so the person knows you want to make a good impression. This will indicate that you are happy with new people. If someone you don't know enters the room and you are introduced to each other, first stand up and then shake hands.

1.5 Behave in a cultured society. Don't pass gases, hold back burps, don't act provocatively, don't grab your groin area, and don't get drunk. A gentleman is always in control of his body and mind. If you do something wrong, don't act like nothing happened - it's better to apologize. Being a gentleman means treating everyone the same. Treat others the way you treat women you want to impress. Remember that a real gentleman does not make a scene and not be dishonored in public. A woman who is interested in a relationship with you should be proud of you and want to introduce you to her parents, friends or acquaintances. A gentleman must understand what others think of him and whether he behaves correctly.

2. Politeness

2.1 Help others. Always remember how you can help people. Hold the door open for the person following you, and in the store, ask an elderly or pregnant woman to carry her bags to the car. Of course, you should always assess the situation reasonably (for example, you should not risk your health and hold the door if you are carrying something very heavy); just remember to respect people. A real gentleman is not only courteous to the woman he wants to please - he shows courtesy towards everyone.

Pay attention to people who need help, but who are unlikely to ask for it. For example, it is worth opening the door in front of a person who is carrying a tray of cups, although he most likely will not ask for it.

2.2 Have polite conversations. Be prepared to ask questions or make polite suggestions, such as "How was your day?", "Can I help?", "Let me get it for you," or "I can do it." Learn to speak slowly so that you can interact with people in a way that makes them happy, even if you're in a hurry. With whomever you communicate, try to smile, act friendly and give interesting answers to the question of how you are doing. A gentleman does not jump straight to what he needs and tries to get to know people better. The ability to carry on a conversation is an indicator of maturity and good manners, and without these things it is impossible to be a gentleman.

2.3 Never swear. Never. If it is difficult for you to immediately give up swear words, try to at least drastically reduce their number in your speech. It is impolite to swear, especially in the presence of women, the elderly, and also in high society. If you drop a swear word, apologize and try not to let the situation happen again in the future. If you find yourself in a situation where you often use swearing (for example, while watching a football game or in a traffic jam), watch your speech.

It is worth abandoning not only obscene words, but also vulgar and inappropriate sayings. What seems funny to you when you are going to a beer bar with friends is unlikely to make the girl you want to like laugh.

2.4 Don't talk too much about yourself. You can give people some information so that they have an idea who they are talking to, but you should not describe your life in detail. To get people interested in talking to you, you have to appear mysterious - women love that. Have general information about what's new in music, sports and politics in order to be able to keep the conversation going.

Ask people questions about their interests, hobbies, and plans. Let them know that they are more interested in you than in your own person.

2.5 Avoid talking about ambiguous and uncomfortable issues. Try not to talk about politics until you know the person better, and learn to take a neutral stance when the conversation turns to this topic. A gentleman does not embarrass other people. Try to agree with others and make sure that everyone who is talking is comfortable, and not try to prove to the interlocutors that your opinion is correct, and everyone else has no right to exist. You will not impress a woman with defiant behavior - much more she will like your ability to find mutual language with other people.

Always remember who you are talking to. What will be funny to an ordinary worker may not please a girl from high society. Consider the needs and interests of others.

2.6 Treat all people with respect. A gentleman is polite not only with beautiful women He is just as respectful of other men, the elderly, and even children. He is pleasant in communication with everyone who deserves it. Respect other people's privacy: don't get too close to them when talking and don't snuggle up to them when you walk beside them. Don't stare straight ahead, don't ask too many personal questions. The most important thing is to make people feel good in your company - they should not think that you treat them unfairly.

Greet people as you pass by, ask them how they are, and learn to understand when it is not worth disturbing a person.

Do not talk too loudly and do not attract everyone's attention to yourself even if you are at home out of respect for others. Don't act like you only person in the Universe.

Chew with your mouth closed - this is how you show respect for the people with whom you dine.

2.7 Avoid fights. Physical strength is not The best way conflict resolution. A real gentleman does not give in and knows how to stand up for himself, but not with the help of his fists. Keep your own values ​​in mind and don't let someone force theirs on you by picking a fight with you. If someone insults you and provokes violence, don't stoop to their level, just walk away.

Don't think you can impress a woman by fighting or trying to be macho. A much more elegant solution would be to resolve the conflict without fighting.

3. Courtesy in dealing with women

3.1 Do not treat women as objects. To see in a woman only a piece of meat, even if it is beautiful, is the worst thing you can do. Women are also alive, and they have their own beliefs, hopes and goals, so you should not treat them as if they exist only to court you and serve as a feast for the eyes. When meeting a woman, ask her name and try to get to know her better. Do not look at her openly, as if you are mentally undressing her. If you look at a woman like that, she will immediately want to get up and leave.

Gentlemen understand that women must be treated with respect. When communicating with women, refrain from vulgar remarks and try to flirt easily and naturally.

3.2 Respect others. Of course, subservience will be superfluous, but you should remember that women will appreciate your behavior if you open the door of a car or building for them, or pull out a chair. You don't have to put every girl on a pedestal (we're all human), but she'll love the little courtesies: give up her seat on the bus, for example, even if she's not holding anything heavy.

All women are different, and over time you will understand what kind of gestures your woman likes. Offer her your jacket if she's cold right action but you should make sure she likes it.

3.3 If you are walking down the street with a woman, try to stand on the side of the road. This is a long tradition: you protect a woman from dirt and cars with yourself. You can do it, or you can refuse - just know that there is such a tradition. Look at how a woman reacts to it and you can tell if she thinks it's cute or old fashioned.

3.4 Do not discuss boring and indecent topics with women. Don't comment on other girls and tell them how cool they are. If she is not into sports or video games, you can say something about it, but then move on to another topic. More often, girls are interested in literature and music, rather than sports and games, although there are many exceptions among them. You can discuss anything with friends, but try to choose other topics with girls.

A gentleman senses when someone is getting bored and wants to change the subject, and knows how to talk about things that will be of interest to everyone.

3.5 Do not humiliate women. You can tease the girl a little, but don't get too violent. However, teasing does not mean using vulgar words. No matter how playful your tone may be, the girl will be offended if the so-called gentleman calls her a dirty word. Also, you should not talk to a girl as if she does not understand anything, but only you understand, because you are a man. Don't think you can teach her anything.

One of the signs of a man who only pretends to be a gentleman is that he behaves well only until the moment when he begins to understand that the girl does not see him as a person for intimate relations. To become a real gentleman, you must understand that not all women in the world will be crazy about you and that this should not change your attitude towards them.

3.6 Be courteous to a woman when saying goodbye. Remember that women are more vulnerable: they become potential victims after dark and in disadvantaged areas. Walk her home or at least to the car. No matter how strong a woman is, if a criminal chooses his victim, he will first of all look for a woman, because it is not safe to mess with men. If a girl has to park far from home and then walk, offer to drive her home. She will appreciate how you take care of her safety.

Do not go too far: a girl should not feel as if she cannot take a step without a man. However, if she leaves you in the evening, you should call her a taxi, or at least offer to walk her home.

Obviously, if a girl comes to your house, you need to walk her to the door or to the car, and not just shout "bye" to her without getting up from the couch.

3.7 Think about whether you want to follow some outdated traditions. It is quite difficult to understand which of them make sense. Some of them may even offend independent and strong women who think it's humiliating and old-fashioned to let a man help you. Here is a small list of traditions that used to be considered beautiful, but are now beginning to lose their appeal:

Pay for two in a restaurant.
Help the woman put on her coat.
Get up when a woman enters the room.
Offer a woman your place.

4. Be a gentleman with your girlfriend

4.1 Be selfless. Don't forget to do nice things for the girl when you're together. If she is carrying something, pick it up and carry it yourself when she places it on the floor. Always invite her to pick up or bring something. Remember: selfishness is not attractive. If you're watching TV together and you know she likes a certain show, have her change the channel. She will appreciate this gesture more than you think.

At the same time, you should not behave in such a way that the girl feels helpless or decides that you are obliged to do everything for her. If she does not like that you will take away the things that she is carrying from her hands, or you will help her, let her do everything herself and help only when she really needs it.

4.2 Give her gifts for no reason. It will be nice if you show up on her doorstep with flowers just like that. No need to do expensive gifts attention is important. A small rose, a note on the pillow, a book that she has long wanted to read as a gift, or even a sincere kiss will make the girl happy. These small tokens will let her know that you are thinking about her even when you are not together, and that you have tried to please her.

Flowers and candies are very nice, but it is even better to give special gifts. For example, tickets to a play she wanted to see, a souvenir with her name from a country you traveled to without her, or a postcard that reminded you of her will tell the girl that you are thinking about her all the time and not just want to surround her. her romance as you would surround any other girl.

4.3 Take care of her. If you are really passionate about your girlfriend, show it to her. If you go somewhere together, hold her hand or hug her with one arm. Stroke her cheek whenever you feel like it. When you are alone, kiss her on the neck, gently stroke her back or hips (provided that she wants it). A real gentleman does not rush a girl - he waits until she is ready for something more than just kissing.

Gentlemen are proud of their girls and love to show up with them where other people are. Hold the girl's hand even in the company of friends, but do not try to molest her in a public place.

4.4 Be prepared to stand up for your girlfriend. Don't try to beat up anyone who just looks at her, but if she's openly looking at her or trying to flirt with her, intervene. Put your hand on her shoulder and take her aside, or walk up to her and talk to another man. Physical contact will calm her down and let the aggressor know that he will have to deal with both of you. Don't let other men flirt with your girlfriend or make indecent remarks about her.

Do not threaten this man with physical violence and do not call him names. Better find a more appropriate way to explain to him that he is wrong.

4.5 Do not say anything bad about the girl to your friends. Real gentlemen don't discuss their girlfriend's flaws. You might think that acting like she means nothing to you or complaining about a girl will make you cool, but that's not the case. By doing this, you show disrespect, and if the girl finds out about it, you will look pathetic in her eyes. If you want to talk about your girlfriend, compliment her or ask friends for advice on the situation.
A real gentleman respects all people. There is nothing worse than sharing the details of your life just so everyone can laugh.

4.6 Don't tell your friends too much about the girl. Do not share your successes in sex. It is not proper for a man to brag about the fact that he finally got sex from the girl he is dating, or tell what she is in bed or how she kisses. It should stay between the two of you, and what happened (or didn't happen) in bed is not up for debate.
It doesn't matter if you're dating a girl or just going on a couple of dates with her - you should keep all your thoughts to yourself. If she finds out that you told someone, she will be furious, and notoriety will be attached to you.

4.7 Do not force her to do what she does not like. A real gentleman understands what a woman agrees to and respects her decision. If the girl you're dating isn't ready for or doesn't want to be in a relationship before marriage, you should be comfortable with the decision rather than trying to pressure her. Sex may not mean anything to you, but women have their own ideas about what they want to do with their bodies. Don't force her into something she doesn't want, and don't make her feel guilty towards you if she refuses something.

A true gentleman allows a woman to decide how the relationship will develop, and does not make her feel guilty or bad for not doing what she was asked to do. He listens to a woman and waits for the one who will be worthy of him.

Adviсe

Maintaining hygiene is important, but a man should not dwell on his appearance. He doesn't have to be a dude.

Don't be selfish with other people. Pay attention to them from time to time.

Treat people with respect and the way you would like them to treat you.

Smile and make eye contact. This will create an emotional connection between you.

Do not honk when you arrive for a girl in a car. Ring the doorbell.

To love means to give. Keep this in mind when you spend time with your girlfriend. Strive to give her as much love as possible, give her as much time and attention as possible, but do not overdo it, because otherwise you will start to hate her. Spending time with friends is good too.

When talking to a person, fully immerse yourself in the conversation. If a person wants to say something, listen to him until the end.

Always be mindful of where you are and how others perceive you.

If you are insulted, try not to respond in kind. Most likely, you will only anger the offender even more, and this will provoke a fight. Sorry, but don't act like you're scared.

You can wear jeans, t-shirts and sneakers, but in order to look good, everything must be clean, ironed and must suit you. Make sure that the inscriptions on the clothes are not defiant. In the end, only the person wearing the clothes matters. Try wearing a belt - it can make a big difference to your overall look.

You don't have to dress expensive to be a gentleman. This will favorably emphasize your appearance, but a man in regular clothes can be attractive too.