In the life of every woman, no matter how faithful a wife she is, anything can happen. If a wife cheated on a man or husband, and her conscience torments her, then you need to tell about your act. But it must be done correctly, without aggravating the situation. It is impossible to wait for the moment when the guy himself finds out about the betrayal of a woman, in no case, especially if she considers her act a mistake and wants to continue the relationship.

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Forgiving or not is another question. But it should be said that the girl can help the young man accept her apologies and forget about the infidelity on the part of the companion.

Should it be told?

It’s worth telling your husband or boyfriend about your act. If he learns about the infidelity of a companion from third parties, then parting cannot be avoided. But if she herself asks for forgiveness, then there are chances for a continuation of the relationship. It all depends on the character of the guy, his opinion about cheating and trust in a couple.

Some men are very easy to relate to intimacy on the side. Even if a man does not consider this a betrayal and is ready to forget the act, it is still worth telling him about it.

You should not count on the fact that a man will treat treason with understanding. A woman can convince him that this is a mistake, that she wants to forget it, that she loves him, but the guy will not forgive betrayal. And even those male representatives who are themselves unfaithful to their companions are not always ready to forget about treason. If a girl wants to continue the relationship, then she should tell young man about his act in the most gentle form.

Under no circumstances should you:

• Blame the man for something. In no case should you tell a young man that he is to blame for the infidelity of his companion. Women, protecting themselves, like to slander their partners, point out their physical shortcomings, inability to satisfy a girl, and the like. You shouldn't blame a guy for things like that.
• Tell details. Even if a woman did not like intimacy with another person, and she perceives it as a negative experience, the guy does not need to say anything. It will be unpleasant for him to listen to the details, besides, he is able to think out a lot of superfluous things.
• Scold, shout and quarrel. It should be remembered that the victim in this situation is a young man. He can get angry, swear, throw tantrums, then the girl should not support this. She is to blame.

A woman has a chance for forgiveness if the betrayal was single. In the case when the companion cheated on her beloved on a regular basis, there is no point in counting on the continuation of the relationship. For example, if she was a guest at a birthday party and, under the influence of alcohol, slept with her friend, and the next morning she did not even remember everything that happened.

In any case, you need to speak frankly with your partner, repent, admit guilt. Even if the couple breaks up, at least a neutral relationship can be maintained.

Changed the guy found out about it

In what cases does a guy definitely not forgive a traitor?

No matter how phlegmatic, understanding and calm a guy is, there are things that he will never be able to accept. All people are different, and not everyone suffers from possessiveness, many, as mentioned above, are ready to forgive infidelity on the part of companions. But in special cases, forgiveness is not even worth counting on. A woman is capable of committing such a terrible and disgusting act that a guy simply cannot continue to see her, communicate with her, and have sexual intimacy.

What betrayal the partner will definitely not be able to forgive:

• With his friend. If there is a very close relationship between two guys, then it will be very difficult for a man to survive a double betrayal.
• With his father. Most young people will not be able to continue dating a girl after learning about her infidelity with her own father. The guy will be disgusted by the fact that two relatives committed such meanness towards him.
• With the former. The guy is able to perceive the betrayal of a woman with her ex-young man as an unpasted love for him. If many are ready to forgive sex, then feelings for another are not.
• For money. There are different situations in life, and sometimes women have no other choice. But if you objectively look at such an act, then it will be unpleasant for a guy to continue a relationship with a girl who is ready to sell herself for money, even if the amount is large.

Despite the fact that not everyone will take it easy similar actions on the part of your partner, it is simply necessary to tell a man about everything. If a woman hides her infidelity, it will be even worse.

Cheated on her husband at a corporate party

Will the couple be able to maintain their relationship?

It should be understood that even if a man accepted the apology of his wife or girl, it is not a fact that the relationship will be the same as before. There are the following scenarios for the development of events:

• The guy will change in response. This can happen, although not immediately. Even if a guy forgives his girlfriend, he will have resentment inside him.
• There will be discord in the relationship. This can happen due to the fact that a man will lose confidence in his wife or girlfriend. He will become suspicious, nervous, embittered, and in the end he will not be able to forget the act of his companion.
• The man will begin to take revenge on his partner. This can manifest itself in anything: in damage to property, reputation, relationships with mutual friends. It all depends on the character of the guy.

If a woman decides to repent of infidelity, then she must be ready for anything. But silence is not the best solution. The girl will constantly feel sorry for herself, obsessions will get her, and as a result, her conscience will torment her so that it will become impossible to continue the relationship.

And with a high probability, the partner will understand that something is wrong with the companion, and he himself will guess everything or ask a direct question. In order to avoid such cases, it is advisable to tell everything at once, sincerely asking the young man for forgiveness.

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Did your girlfriend cheat on you? Don't you dare suffer! Don't you dare make a scandal to her! Do not try to shed tears and snot, and ask her why she did this to you! Remember that you are a man, you are a warrior, you are a winner, you are the stronger sex after all! How can some kind of female there, and since she cheated on you, it’s hard to call her a person, so we’ll call her a female, unsettle you? Come on, it doesn’t suit you to mess around with such a petty problem - have pride, remember your strength of mind, your male qualities and just step over a female unworthy of you, who allowed herself to do this to you. Do you think this is difficult to do? Your heart is broken, and your soul is blackened, and you can’t just take and forget treason like that? Well, then let's try to better understand what a girl's betrayal is and how to survive it.

First of all, let's find out why they, girls, women, cheat on their men? You know, I would not want to write about all sorts of instincts and the natural essence of a woman now, I have written about this in detail in other articles. Let me just say, the propensity to change is part of the female nature. And our, male, by the way, too. We are also those scoundrels, not all, of course, but many. We deceive and betray women, give them great pain and suffering, and after that we still somehow live, we somehow manage to look at ourselves in the mirror. Still, don’t say anything, but in this sense we are worse than women - we, men, cause women much more suffering than they do to us. But to our credit, we are not all like that. By the way, they are women too. But it's not about that now. The point is that in our, human nature, the propensity for treason has settled down very tightly, and only our mind is able to curb it. So that's what I'm all about. And to the fact that if a girl cheated on you, then this does not mean that you are somehow different, that something is wrong with you, that you are a bad male and all that. So all such thoughts and their derivatives - throw out of your head. You can be, and I'm sure you are, quite a normal man, a normal kid who did everything for his girlfriend, but ... What happened happened. Yes, they still cheat on us, no matter how cool we are. Why? Yes, because they are simply drawn to new sensations, to pleasure, to emotional experiences, to something new, not necessarily better, but simply new. For them, it's like buying a damn handbag in a store, she just liked the woman and therefore was bought by her. So with the betrayal, things are the same way - she wanted to - she took it and changed it. In general, the whole point here is the lack of a correct, and in our case, traditional education, the absence of a correct, that is, again, a traditional system of values, and simply the absence of brains in a girl who cheated on you, not thinking about the consequences of her act . Well, you know, passion, feelings, emotions, curbed her poor head. And the consequences, here are some of them, and perhaps many women, girls, of course, think later. And very often many of them, realizing and feeling these consequences, regret what they have done. After all, often after their betrayal, they lose more, much more than the one they cheated on. So your girlfriend, cheating on you, is likely to lose you, right? Will it make her feel better? Unknown.

So here is such a simple reason, one might even say, primitive motivation, like that of the most ordinary female, pushes a woman to change. Well, the mind does not always cope with internal urges, you know. How often can we curb our “want” and do it right? That's it. And what do you want, if a consumer attitude to life and a thoughtless lifestyle have become part of our culture, then all the highest values ​​are simply not perceived by people. And in some cases they are even ridiculed. So I personally read on forums on the Internet how some women ridiculed women's decency and honesty, arguing that being a lying bitch is much more profitable, that no one needs decency and honesty. Here you are, dear reader - do you need decent and honest people, in particular women, girls? I think they are needed. But some women argue that they are not needed. This is the kind of culture we have today, everything is mixed up in it. But in general, I think that this culture is backward. When pleasure is above all, and honor, honesty, conscience, respect, decency, devotion, love, become the subject of ridicule, and some people do not understand these things at all, it turns out that we simply reap what we have sown. Culture makes us people, and we have it, you can see for yourself in what condition. So it wasn't the girl who cheated on you, it was the product of this culture that cheated on you. However, there are girls with a good upbringing and quite a worthy system of values, so we will not treat everyone with the same brush. Let's move on to the next question.

What to do with it? I mean change. Well, what do you do if you come across a defective thing - change it, probably. Here, too, if you think that you deserve the best, or rather, the best girl, then you are looking for this best girl, and release your traitor on all four sides. In the end, your girlfriend is only conditionally yours, on the terms of your agreement with her, so to speak, and even a legal marriage does not give you the right to fully manage your partner's life. In this sense, our culture, thank God, takes into account the interests of the individual. Therefore, if a person does not suit you, change him. And no need for extra talk. Can a person be replaced? Can. If this person does not appreciate you, if there is nothing sacred and nothing valuable left in him, so to speak, then what kind of person is this, in the sense, what kind of personality is this? Well, what are the problems to replace the one that made a thing out of itself? Well, really? Do not kill yourself because someone did not appreciate you and did not live up to your expectations. If you saw in a person something more than he really is, then is this the fault of this person? Well, don't expect from the apple tree that it will begin to bear fruit with cherries. Of course, certain conclusions need to be drawn from this, after all, the girl’s betrayal could have occurred, including through your fault. Accept the possibility that you, too, are to blame for something. Just don't ask your girlfriend what you're guilty of. This is a stupid question, really. You are unlikely to get a truthful answer to it, you will most likely hear a lie with which the girl wants to justify herself. To understand what your fault may be in what happened, you need to objectively look at the whole situation as a whole, in the context of your entire life together with this girl, which is very difficult to do under the influence of emotions, that is, on your own. Ask your friends for help if you have smart ones, and if you have any at all, I mean real friends, not so-so buddies. Or better yet, see a psychologist for help. Explain everything to him properly, in all, so to speak, details, and he will put everything in its place for you, that is, he will help you look at your situation from the outside and understand its pattern. This, in turn, will allow you to understand what role you played in what happened to you, and, accordingly, correct everything that you need to correct in yourself in order to prevent a similar situation from happening again in the future. A psychologist can help you with this as well.

You know, friends, after all, as life shows, and at the same time my experience of solving such problems, many girls, having cheated on their boyfriend, often sincerely repent of their act. But they realize all the vileness and stupidity of this act in full, mainly when they face adverse consequences for them, when they lose their man because of this. Well, this is typical for people, especially for women, who are mostly influenced by emotions, so they don’t always know what they are doing. After all, as they say, we don’t store what we have, but when we lose it, we cry. In general, we are short-sighted creatures. Not all, of course, but some of us really cannot foresee the consequences of our actions. This does not mean that some people in principle are not capable of this, it means that they are not trained in this. If a girl has not been taught that before doing something, you need to think about what will follow, then she does not think. And you know what, sometimes, sometimes, cheating on a girl can be forgiven. Yes, I understand that it is not appropriate for a peasant to forgive such things, but still it can be done. They, girls, sometimes get smarter, after such a negative experience and then never change. I can tell you this for sure, there are such cases and they are not few. Just see, some people can only learn from experience. But the main thing is that they can learn something, it's very good. Therefore, I say that it is possible to forgive a girl for treason if she really realized her mistake and sincerely repented of her act. And we are all wrong. Well now, we are all on the block because of this news. Here, of course, you need to analyze the girl properly in order to understand whether her betrayal was a mistake, but in general she is not inclined to such actions, or she is a chronic cheater who cannot be re-educated. And based on this, you can already make a decision - to forgive her or not. Of course, if you still have feelings for her, if you love her, then it makes sense to sort it all out. And if the feelings have died completely, well, then you need to look for a replacement for this girl. It is not necessary to suffer, it is necessary to act, it is necessary to start a new life.

And here's another point you need to consider, dear readers. Treason, of course, is a terrible sin, reprehensible, condemned, deserving of punishment, but in our vicious world there is little purity and sinlessness left, so sometimes it’s worth closing your eyes to someone else’s sin so as not to be judged for your own sins. But we all sin, or rather, we are all prone to sin. So why should we judge others. It is better to think about your own life. For, as they say, who is not without sin. Do you understand what I'm talking about? Life may turn out in such a way that tomorrow you yourself may not be completely honest with that girl who once, for example, now, cheated on you, because there are many temptations around us, and other people's sins can be used to justify your own sins in order to conscience is not stuck. Who knows, maybe tomorrow you will also cheat on your girlfriend, and then what will you say to yourself, how will you justify your act? But today, now, you can simply hate her, you can suffer, suffer, find no place for yourself, because your Ego was hurt, because you were spoiled in the soul, because you were betrayed. So maybe you should think about tomorrow, about what act you, not so much because of revenge, but because of the desire to experience pleasure, can you do? No, I am by no means saying that this is correct, and that you are no better than your girlfriend, and that your possible tendency to cheat is an excuse for her. I just want you to think about what could be tomorrow in your life and how your girlfriend's cheating might affect your decisions. Suddenly you also want to change her, well, suddenly? You understand, having done this with an honest girl, you will be a real pig, but it’s morally easier to change the one that once cheated on you. However, this is not a universal view of treason, you know. I just decided to show you from what other side you can look at it. It all depends on the specific situation and specific people. In some situations, cheating opens up completely new opportunities for a person, for someone who has been cheated on by a girl.

In any case, a man's life does not end with female infidelity, it just begins. Any incident that shocks us, any blow of fate is a signal that is designed to draw our attention to our life, to our system of values, to ourselves. You definitely need to change something, because if a girl cheated on you, then this indicates that something happened that should have happened, you just didn’t see the prerequisites for this. Therefore, you need to change something in your life and in yourself. What exactly depends on the situation. Or you have to learn to choose right girls, women who do not cheat, either you need to behave differently with them so as not to push them to cheat and not create conditions for it, or you need to change your lifestyle in order to be with your girlfriend more often, and not disappear all day at work , and so on. There are many options here. In general, it is necessary to draw an objective conclusion from what happened, in order not only to see the reason for her betrayal in the girl, but also to find and understand her mistakes. You don't need to live like before, you need to change your life. After all, we all deserve love and happiness, but each person has his own way to them. Therefore, such disgusting acts as treason [if it is unacceptable for you], which gives us the strongest heartache- direct us in the right direction, helping to come to our happiness.

Two people who are in love with each other, in the process of living together, may encounter various difficulties, and one of them is treason.

A young man who has convicted his beloved of treason may be faced with a mass of questions that disturb him. What to do if a girl cheats?

How to determine why she does it? What's the best way to do it? To answer them and understand how to proceed it is important to think carefully about what happened.

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Possible reasons

Understand for sure why did the girl change may be difficult or even impossible.

Unless her boyfriend is a telepath, of course.

Awareness that the partner does not fit any criteria

Often it falls on a woman at the time when the main fire of love went out, the so-called "pink glasses" fell.

She begins to look at her partner differently, she sees his shortcomings more clearly, she is better aware of what is happening.

In this case there can be many reasons for cheating, for example, lack of affection, care, low satisfaction during sex, unpleasant character traits and behaviors.

Unexpected love

Falling in love can fall on a woman by accident, and not everyone will have the strength and desire to resist this feeling, even if the current boyfriend is completely satisfied with her.

Perhaps she hoped that her affairs would go unnoticed.

If a woman does not have any serious claims to a permanent partner, an unexpected one is unlikely to cause a break in relations and will only lead to a short intrigue.

Search for new experiences

Perhaps nothing interesting happened in the girl's life for a long time, but relationship with a regular partner has long lost its former flame so she decided to cheat. This point can be combined with the previous one.

The only way to find out for sure why the girl cheated is to talk to her face to face, frankly, without aggression and violence.

During this dialogue, find out the reasons and discuss next steps.

Also, during a conversation, you can, for example, suddenly find out that the man with whom her friends saw her in a cafe is just a relative who came to visit, about whom she did not have time or did not consider it necessary to say.

Forgive or break up with her?

If there were serious problems in the couple before the betrayal, the best option will be end the relationship.

Otherwise, everything depends on many factors: the causes and circumstances of infidelity, the behavior and character of the girl, the character of the man, the presence or absence of problems in the couple, the strength of the feelings that the man feels for her, and much more.

It is important to understand that the decision on how to act, everyone must make on their own. suitable algorithm about what to do is not and cannot be.

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What if she doesn't confess?

Have you made sure that your beloved has cheated on you, but she herself does not want to admit? How to be?

You should not try to take revenge on a girl or someone with whom she is cheating: this will hardly help you get rid of pain and resentment, but it can lead to irreparable consequences, up to litigation.

If you feel overwhelmed, constantly angry, feel unable to calm down, tormented by guilt, you should see a psychotherapist or to a psychologist.

Slept with a friend: what to do?

If the relationship between a girl and a friend is more than serious, breaking up would be the best option.

If you are not ready to forgive a friend, stop communicating with him. You don't have to try to forgive him if you don't have the strength to do so.

Walks intermittently but doesn't quit

If this happens, then most likely she either loves you, or is interested in you as a partner, or does not want to change the current situation.

1. As in previous situations, you need to calm down, think carefully about the situation and wait for some time. When you feel that you are ready for a dialogue, discuss it with the girl without aggression.
2. If you are not ready to continue the relationship with her, you do not need to delay the breakup so as not to torment yourself.
3. If you feel that you love her too much and are not capable of parting, discuss the situation with her again: you may be able to find a compromise together.
4. Sometimes it takes time to realize the need for separation. Give yourself this time, and later you may feel ready to end the relationship.

It will also be useful to visit a family therapist with a girl: he will help to understand the situation and give suitable recommendations.

I found out that my beloved accidentally changed

Most often, such stories with random betrayals closely related to alcohol.

A person who is in a state of intoxication is rarely able to fully control himself.

In some cases, people nearby simply take advantage of his helplessness, and in this case it more like rape than cheating. It all depends on the circumstances and the degree of intoxication.

It is important to remember that infidelity associated with sex while intoxicated difficult to fully analyze due to lack of information: the participants in the events can remember almost nothing, and those who remember are able to remain silent or, conversely, lie if it is beneficial to them.

That's why best option- rely on own attitude to the girl and her reactions during the discussion.

If she is anxious, guilty, and claims to have been out of control, it is hardly worth taking it too seriously, especially if the situation is one-off and there are no other problems in the relationship.

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How to behave so that there will never be changes?

It is impossible to completely eliminate the possibility of infidelity, but it is always realistic to minimize it:

In a trusting, loving union of betrayal - rarity Therefore, it is important to strive to create harmonious relationships, devoid of cruelty.

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Each man will find the occupation that is closer to him. By the way, any of them can be so “fascinatingly” carried away that the time equal to a day will instantly fly by.

Instead, many men do quite the opposite. What good is that? All such “goodness” leads to the tragedy of the soul and body.

The man gets drunk. Then - drinks, drinks, drinks and drinks. And it seems that this addiction will never stop. Death and illness will be stopped if a person, in time, does not catch on.

Men cut their veins, fly out of windows, get drunk on all sorts of filth. AND? What's next? The man did not guess to think that he would not be alive, and the one who had changed would build her life and enjoy it.

No one knows what kind of world is there, beyond the clouds. He is probably beautiful, but no one has returned from this "transcendental world". Either because it is very good there, or because people want to return from there, but cannot.

If the woman you love has cheated, you can try to forgive her. They say that love forgives everything. So, it is possible to forgive betrayal. People, of course, are different. And, in this regard, their attitude to the problems is different.

In general, men forgive betrayal, but do not forget it. The mere thought that the one you want has spent “intimate time” with another one drives any man crazy. Having learned about the betrayal, they, for a very long time, cannot come to their senses. It's easier to get away from reality and from yourself.

A man can tear up all the photos of the "traitor", he can hate her. He can even raise his hand to her. And it can even kill! The fact that all this will happen in an affective state leaves no reason for skepticism. "What have I done?" he would think, no doubt. But the question that pierces his thought processes will not revive his beloved, but not faithful.

The one who was able to forgive his girlfriend will never be able to trust her. He will be with her, but he will hire a "sleuth" who will follow almost her every move. He can “attach” the camera somewhere, on her body. But this “case” is more complicated: it can be noticed more quickly.

He will check her e-mail and regular mail, will "rummage" in her purse and in other things, will sniff at every smell, "nitpick" at every little thing in bed.

A trifle in bed is something that is unusual and unexpected, not typical of the one next to him. And he can regard her references to a “headache” and other female “excuses” as proof of her “cooling” towards him.

Sometimes it’s easier for a guy not to forgive and suffer than to forgive and suffer. It is very difficult to touch the "beloved" who betrayed him. And if he didn’t give a reason, it’s a hundred times harder. It's a shame: he loved, looked after, trusted, idolized, respected. And she went to the left. What doesn't suit her?

The girl you love cheated on the guy. Why do girls cheat on guys? What do guys think. . .?

T ut something, "a hurricane of fantasy", and it will play out. Assumptions that torment all men's thoughts:

1. “He is more beautiful, stronger and better.
2. “I am a freak. And everyone who says I'm cute is lying to me.
3. “I stopped arranging her in intimacy.”
4. “I offended her with something, and she decided to take revenge on me.”
5. "A lover has a lot of money."

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And then - fantasy is like infinity. A man is "carried away" in the waves of his own imagination. He doesn’t sleep at night, doesn’t eat for days, doesn’t drink, skips work, ignores friends. In my thoughts: she and her act, which is not as easy to forgive as it is to say about it. Her excuse: "she confessed everything to me." On one side, it is. The girl could just hide what she changed. And she did a very "courageous" act: she told the whole truth. I hid the details, because it's embarrassing to talk about them.

And some girls have several lovers. They are so "interesting": every day - new guy, a new face and a new body. Yes, and the relationship - in a new way. There are girls who, with such a life, earn a living. Although they have a loved one, it is very difficult for them to refuse money. In that case, in fact, forgiving is pointless: everything will be repeated and repeated.

Those guys who haven't forgiven their girlfriends won't trust another girl. Before their eyes, all the time, betrayal will “imagine”. People need to be trusted! No matter what the circumstances!

Do not forgive - let go, do not take revenge and do not torment. It is a pity that here, men, can act differently. Despite the betrayal, they can say this: “You are no longer mine. But you won't get it for anyone else." Why?! We would learn to let go, wishing for happiness. Few people can do that.

The girl changed - she shouldn't have done the same as her, to spite her. This is a sign of weakness. Changing each other, the situation does not change. Although, many men feel better even from the thought that he was with another.

If she was able to change, a man should have enough strength at least to understand whether he can forgive her or not.

Adultery is an unpleasant phenomenon that humiliates honor, dignity, brings disappointment, because of it, confidence in the traitor is lost. No matter how the fear of consequences absorbs, you should figure out what exactly prompted this: falling in love, boredom, attraction, a desire for variety, new sensations, or something else. Does repentance come after this?

After cheating on a girl, changes in character and typical habits will begin. If a frank confession is not planned, it is necessary that no suspicions arise, stick to your manners, and avoid the most common mistakes, namely:

• spontaneous, excessive attention to needs. As a rule, it is associated with guilt, but gradually, if an affair begins on the side, such manifestations become dull;
• multiple gifts (a kind of payoff);
• Endless quarrels are an excuse to leave home. The lady will begin to have doubts that the quarrel is not the main motive for leaving, but only the opportunity to push everything onto her;
• more often the question of relationships is raised. The guy intends to predict the reaction in order to avoid a tough conflict. Initiative to end relationships as friends;
• sudden mood swings, breakdowns;
• life seems lonely, boring and dreary, a demonstration that you don’t want to do anything together;
• tastes change, influence comes from a new passion: associations, memories, preferences;
• guys tend to criticize the image of their mistress in front of their beloved. Describe certain traits, appearance, behavior, assuring that they cannot stand them. The tactics are wrong, once it will be possible to seem convincing, if such topics are touched upon regularly, a shadow of doubt will surely creep in;
• begins to infuriate what used to be pleasant, touching;
• less attention;
• trying to retire, avoid looking, close, spend less time at home;
• lack of any compliments, praises;
• the initiative of a woman, any attempts to get close cause discomfort, regret, aggression;
• there are no joint plans, desires, themes;
• the use of new words, phrases, unwillingness to have sex.

Everyone has "skeletons in the closet," secrets they'd rather keep hidden. In some cases, the best way out. At critical moments, the obsessive question haunts: what to do? Stop blaming yourself for what you've done. After all, it is important that there are no such dilemmas in the future.

If adultery did not take place intentionally and is no longer planned, it is better to keep silent about this fact, this can not only humiliate, offend, but also contribute to the loss of the former trust, which was built for a long time. Such things threaten partings, scandals, stress. The main thing is that repentance should come after sexual intercourse, this indicates indifference to the second half. For an unmarried man, it serves as a lesson, an impetus for creating a family, if he realizes that he is ready for a lot so that the girl forgives, returns, is afraid of losing her.

Initially, you need to understand yourself, the depth of feelings, not “eat” for an incident, accept, as an experience, the ability to regulate actions, be responsible for actions. Learn to resist temptations, of which there are many, but this is really a condition for preserving real feelings, passionate love. Get out of your comfort zone, become more courageous, go in for sports, read books, reconsider values.

How to earn forgiveness

After exposure, you should not bake your beloved with increased importunity. Selfishness of a quick desire to receive forgiveness is manifested. What about the emotions of loved ones? - It takes time to come to terms with the situation, resentment cannot evaporate. Of course, in order for a girl to forgive betrayal, excuses will not help, strong arguments are needed, for example:

• remorse, pangs of conscience, a third-party meeting that did not develop into permanent fornication;
• common interests, values, children, readiness to correct, to yield;
• awareness of stupidity, love is the only one, admission of wrong, craving, annoying question: how to return a girl after infidelity?

A rather disturbing topic: how to make peace with a girl after infidelity? We must prepare for the fact that there will be no pardon, sometimes it is quite justified. loving person, with whom a lot has been experienced, he will not seriously risk putting the well-being of his relatives at stake. It is not always worth being categorical, never allowing pride to be higher than love. Forgiving the pain, bitterness of the traitor, letting go of resentment, one can show not only the tremendous power of feelings, but also compassion, empathy, unwillingness to sacrifice family ties.

It is not in vain that they say that the one whose pain is stronger than his own is considered native.

If there is affection, then it will undoubtedly be felt by both parties. A guy does not have the right to demand forgiveness if: he humiliated, ridiculed, embarked on disorderly fornication, rejected, avoided, refused help when it was important, necessary for her. A selfish individual has not seen all the pain, therefore, has every right to be rejected. It's always easier to mess up than to do right. We are all sinners, but sooner or later we need understanding.

Native people show themselves when we least expect it, they deserve it. Sometimes, a sincere conversation, clarifying the essence of the problem can correct misunderstanding, bring clarity and adjustments to relationships, help reconcile, let go of the bitter past, which will forever remain unchanged.

Infidelity is not always a mistake, sometimes it is a step towards something new, but above all, it is necessary to remain human, to be grateful for all the moments that were in the past, to remain as honest as possible. If a guy met a new love, it is not necessary to hide this fact, gaining the image of a traitor, a liar. You can understand, you can forgive anything, it is enough to open up as much as possible, confess, not try to seem better than you really are. Everyone strives to be as honest as possible with him, knowing the character, temperament of the second half, one can draw conclusions about how to act in a given situation.

What to do? Listen to your heart, bow to experience and appreciate everyone who is not around out of selfish motives.