Girls, I seem mature and ready to tell my love story with married man! I say right away, I do not expect sympathy, and I do not need it! Just maybe my story will make those girls who are in love with married people think! And so let's get started!
I drew attention to the man, and he attracted me with his eyes, sad, sad, even when he smiles! Then I met him during my internship! We met already in our store, exchanged phone numbers! He did not call, neither did I, so, occasionally they sent SMS to each other! When we went for a walk with a girlfriend, I often met him, he moonlights in a taxi! Stop and chat! From this short communication, I learned that he is married, although the marriage is civil, but they have been living for 8 years! He cheats on his wife all the time, since work allows, he doesn’t call girls first, they hang on him themselves (by the way, he is very handsome, courteous, awesome character, in general a dream), and at the end of the conversation he always added “call!” Of course I didn't call! And once again, going for a walk with a friend, we meet him! We are talking about something and he decides to finish the work and chat with us! We took a martini, well, away we go! Our conversation with him reached the point that we decide to be together, because he doesn’t sleep with his wife, and I, because I have no time to meet seriously with a guy, study, work, in short, not best time to create a serious relationship! He was very afraid that I would fall in love with him, and I laughed in his face, then I put up a wall so as not to fall in love! Everything was great, he called more than once, wrote SMS! We saw each other every day, found out that we have a lot in common, even hobbies! After a while, he confesses his love to me! I'm shocked, but I didn't answer him! After a while, I already open my feelings to him! How wonderful everything was! Flowers, meetings from work, walked around the night center, he wrote poetry to me, ICQ and an agent connected, just to be constantly in touch with me! We made plans for the future, we wanted to get married! He told everyone about me at his work that he finally found his other half! But we decided to wait living together, I still need to study, and he has a daughter of 13 years old (not his own, by the way, but he has been raising her since the age of 3), she has a transitional age, you never know how his departure can affect her! As for his wife, he told me that she would understand, because they are mostly friends, she is a smart woman and he thought she was aware of all his betrayals, she just kept quiet! But ... One fine day, while he was sleeping, his wife took his phone (which she had never done before), read our SMS, saw my photos! He didn't delete it! They had a conversation, after which he came to me. He told everything, asked if I was ready, because everything happened ahead of time, I answered ready! His wife did not collect things for him, so he was there for the time being! The next day, the wife, taking the child with her, left for the village! She returned alone, the child remained in the village! Everything is fine with my sweetheart, and after a while his wife tells him that they say you didn’t notice that your daughter stopped calling you, but only calls me! He calls his daughter himself and she told him that if he leaves his mother, his daughter will hate him! This decided everything, he came to me, explained everything, we parted ways! Both were crying, even him! What I experienced at that moment, God only knows! A week later, he appears to set up a program for me on my computer, I behave like a friend, I smile, I'm joking! He can't stand it, hugs me, starts kissing, says he can't live without me, he loves me a lot! We decide to be together, but already secretly! After a while, the wife finds out again! We part with him again! We didn't talk to him for a month! Then communication resumed, we decide to be just lovers! He immediately said that he would not leave the family, that I would not hear words of love from him! And he kept his word! We were just like friends, but sometimes we had sex! And before the new year, I find out that I am pregnant, I inform him ... I was stunned by the reaction, he said that I should have an abortion, and what if I give birth, I am a complete fool and there are no complaints against him, and if there are, then he he doesn’t know anything, he broke up with me like 3 months ago and in general his wife is pregnant! I thought it over, agreed to an abortion, but only the one with pills! This procedure costs 6 thousand, he paid, it is done twice! And when I had to go a second time, he calls and says that he can’t take me so that I can take a taxi, he took my wife to the hospital! But then he came to the hospital himself! We lost a child with his wife on the same day, I had an abortion, she had a miscarriage! After all that, I just didn't want to know him! But I had enough for two weeks, feelings overpowered! We are starting to communicate again (some will say that I have no pride, perhaps, but people who love me will understand me very much)! Communication is communication, but I have already begun to think about my personal life! I got together with my sister and with potential boyfriends in a bar! We are sitting in a bar, this is my ex in the ace! Questions began, jealousy, all sorts of messages are not clear! I have already come home, but this one cannot calm down, and then he wrote that he loves me! He also somehow called and turned on our songs with him, those that we loved when we were together! He didn't say anything, he just turned them on and I listened! Now we are still talking, he takes me to work (we work at the same enterprise)!
I summarized the whole story in such a short way, I didn’t write much!
I don’t believe in his love, my opinion is that he just feels guilty and tries to make amends! Often asks for forgiveness, I say that I have forgiven! But this is not so, the sediment still remains in the soul!
I forced myself to look at all this from the other side, from the side of the head, so to speak, from the side of his actions, and not from the side of feelings and heart! But you really want to believe in the sincerity of his words! It was difficult, but I did it! Although not completely, I'm still jealous of him, the feelings remained!
Little girls, don't get caught in these nets! Whatever they tell you, value real deeds, not words and promises! For them, the wife comes first, they will not want to change what is settled, constancy, for a new way of life! I don’t speak for all married men, there are those who will leave their wife, but such cases are an insignificantly small percentage, so is it worth spending your love, strength, nerves and even health on the fact that your married man will turn out to be precisely from that negligible percentage !
It's hard for me to find a suitable m.ch. I like men aged 30-40, and at that age they are usually already married! But... now I really like the man from my work, he is 33 and he is divorced! And you know, when he accidentally touched me with his elbow, it hit me all over like a current, but that's another topic ...
Happiness to you girls, most that neither is female happiness!
Thank you for your attention!

I write this story and I understand that I may cause a storm negative emotions at the girls. I met Igor 5 years ago. Of course, I immediately liked him, it’s a sin not to fall in love with such a handsome man. He is 7 years older than me, well off, with a great sense of humor. We communicated well, had long sincere conversations, saw each other every day, went to the cinema - in general, a beautiful bouquet and candy period. He avoided giving a direct answer to all questions about his family, saying that he was married and no longer lives with his wife. I sincerely believed him and did not pay attention to his strange reaction. After 4 months, my beloved admitted to me that he was married and lives with his wife, and in addition, the child is already 11 years old. At that moment, I needed to turn around and leave him, but I couldn’t ... I fell in love without a memory and forgave everything. We met for another three years, during which there was everything: tantrums, tears, reproaches, resentment, burning jealousy and countless evenings and holidays spent alone. Two years ago, Igor moved with his family to another country. I was left alone and, despite the fact that we no longer communicate, I still remember him. Unfortunately, it is not possible to build a new relationship.
Girls, maybe my hard-won advice will be useful to someone! If a married man starts courting you, run away from him immediately, without looking back!

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Yes, you describe the standard behavior of men. At first he says that he is divorced. Then he confesses that he is married, but this is a formality. They have been living on their own for a long time and do not sleep together. And then usually he has a pregnant wife.

And why do you regret your affair with a man, even a married one? And you had a wonderful relationship, a beautiful bouquet and candy period, love. Many women live their lives without ever knowing the true feeling of love. And you are lucky in this regard. So mentally thank your man for those happy moments in life that you experienced together and let him go. Life goes on. You will see, you will certainly have a free man in your life with whom you will connect your life. The main thing is to sincerely believe in it and not look back. When the door closes, the window will certainly open and a fresh breeze will blow.

You will definitely succeed. You just had to leave right away, you were for him as a mistress, he understood this very well, for him you were a moral and physical joy that did not soar his brains. Always think a couple of steps ahead. You are a woman, and women should feel it.

The advice is good, I also made it a rule for myself not to meet with married men, at least one person suffers from these relationships - the wife, it is worse when there is also a child. Everything in life comes back to us and therefore there is no need to hurt others. Remember this! Yes, and living a lie is the worst feeling.

And why did you meet with only one man, it was clear that he would not leave his family. So do the same, get a few men. Try to choose a promising one. If not, then change to something else. Romance is not a problem. Here are the subsequent relationships are not very easy.

How many such stories about married men, and anyway, every time we are women, instead of leaving at the right time, we stay, forgive, and these relationships become flour, like a suitcase without a handle and you can’t leave and it’s impossible to carry. It's good if you learn from your mistakes, but others are unlikely to learn a lesson, because every time you think "I'm special and this will not happen to me."

We need to be more demanding of men and not put beauty and security in the first place! You had him with humor, joking and deceiving, it’s a pity that you forgave the treacherous lie. And he lied deliberately: if they knew that he was married, they would not have contacted him. And it's good that he left, spit and rub!

Your story is not new and many women find themselves in similar situations. But judging by the fact that you still remember that man and do not build new relationships, you still did not learn a lesson from her. Now you don’t need to live in the past and think about the fact that you were offended, but look for a free man for the future.

First, your hero - a handsome man deceived you, and then you, together with him, deceived his wife and at the same time each other. Men, for the most part, are polygamous creatures, and arguing with nature is stupid and pointless. It would be to his credit to say that he did not abandon his family, only there was no smell of honor there. To your credit - that you did not break his family or failed, and you drew the correct conclusions from your history. If a married man is looking after you, run not to him, but from him. So everything is still ahead of you: love, family, and happiness.

As they say, history teaches only that it teaches nothing. It's even surprising - because now it's easy to get elementary information about the statistics of any relationship. And statistics show that if a married man meets another woman for more than three months and does not leave his wife, then he will not leave her. So, in my opinion (and the opinion of statistics), if you are already dating a married man, then lay it down for no more than three or four months, and then either leave him with peace of mind or get ready for the wedding.

As you know, for a man, family comes first. Therefore, he would not have left his wife anywhere, and everything that he told you, the goal was the same. This man should be forgotten, and start living for yourself. At least for evil to him, you should not ruin your life!

History-tin. And it's not even about the girl, he deceived her at the beginning! It would be better if married men immediately told the truth - they want adventures, then the girls would decide for themselves whether they want it or not. The big risk in such a story is to be left with nothing, and even then pay for sins. So the author, it's good that he left! And you do not cycle, and look for a person who will love only you, and not 2 or 5 women at the same time. Everything will be fine!

It’s easy to condemn, I confess, and I immediately wanted to say that this is how you need it, since I myself was the victim. But on the other hand, you were also deceived ... Therefore, you just have to accept this unpleasant experience and ... live on, not losing faith that something very good will definitely happen to you.

My dear, my good girls, how easy it is to give advice with a cold heart and a sober head. Would you have the willpower to give up the man you love? Here I didn't have enough. He is also married, also with a child ... Only I could not breathe without him. And it's not at all a sense of humor or security, it felt the courage and strength that pulled me like a magnet (I'm sure you AnnSanny had the same). True, in our history there was a wedding, and now we are raising two children together. And I want to give maternal advice (even though you and I are peers) to everyone who will read us. I save it for my daughter, God forbid that she does not need it.
Even if a married man leaves his wife for you, this does not mean that he is your paradise. Tantrums, tears, jealousy, scandals do not stop, but happen, perhaps even more often than they were, only for other reasons. His divorce will not heal your wounds. You will have to share this man all your life with his first family. He will never be completely yours. Ask yourself, are you ready for this? Always in his thoughts will be the first wife and child. It hurts, but you are powerless. You still need to learn to live with it.

The Internet is replete with such stories, but in life there are many times more of them, because not everyone will dare to tell about it publicly. And there will probably never be less of them. While we women believe, wait and love. Author, good advice, but most likely you have said it to yourself more than once ... only your legs did not run. Anna, what was, was, time and the past should not be regretted. Only forward! you will certainly find your unmarried happiness! good luck to you!

Your story is rather banal and, oddly enough, very common in modern society. I confess that I myself managed to plunge into such a swamp, and somewhat for longer than five years. Without the help of psychologists (though only through the Internet, I didn’t dare to do it live), I wouldn’t have been able to get it out. I re-read a lot of live stories and forums, I was horrified by how similar they all are to each other ... It's really scary. And when women try to finish these unpromising novels, men are very much against it, which is why it all drags on for a very long time. I will say that you are really lucky that he left. Forget it like nightmare, consider that you were just sick, and now a new free and wonderful life is ahead.

It always turns out this way, this is our misfortune, we do not notice ordinary ordinary guys who are ready to do anything for the sake of our love, but we are fond of someone forbidden like you. I also burned myself several times, I see that he is a fool and even married, but I can’t help myself - I’m drawn to him like a magnet.

If a married man is looking for a relationship on the side, then this weak man. If you took your soul mate as a wife, then you no longer need anyone, in theory, and she should suit you in everything. So I was lucky with my soul mate, I met her and I don’t need anyone else, and we have a wonderful daughter.

Lilia (27 years old):

I was 23 years old when I met Vadim. 36-year-old, charming, determined and even brash, in general a real man in my understanding. In my opinion, he had only one drawback - a wife and two children. True, this did not bother me at all, because I did not demand anything in return except for his feelings. Vadim seemed to love me too, because there was a moment when he told his wife everything about our connection. I remember her calls to me, in which the woman said in a mournful voice that “she does not condemn me, and we all walk under God.” And her words “when you get married, you will understand everything yourself” are firmly planted in my head.

A year later, we broke up with Vadim, apparently my love has passed, and on his part there was no longer that passion. Two years later, I got married. Gleb, it seems, loved me more than life, at least I have never met such a courteous and courteous man in my life. Our wedding was just amazing, with a dizzying romantic journey. And when I returned home, discouraging news awaited me - Gleb has a girlfriend who is in her fifth month of pregnancy. From now on all my happy life flew into hell. The marriage lasted just another month. And the thought that it was retribution for my sins helped me survive all the hardships ...

Veronica (28 years):

I met, as it seemed to me then, my fate, at the age of 24. He was already 41 at that time. I can’t even explain what connected us - I’m hot and eccentric, and he is dry and practical, and even seems boring. Although my feelings were sincere for him, I was head over heels in love. Moreover, Alexander was a well-to-do person and intuitively guessed my desires, buying me expensive gifts and inviting you to relax in Greece. From the first day I knew that my beloved was married, but at the same time I consoled myself with the fact that husbands do not walk away from good wives.

After a year of our stormy romance, Alexander seemed to have been replaced. He became rude with me and seemed to do everything so that I myself offered to leave. It is difficult to convey everything that I experienced, because I sincerely believed that this man loves me. For a month I was depressed, and he simply disappeared from my life without explanation. One morning after another night spent in tears, I seemed to see the light - but I’m young, beautiful, I’m killing myself because of a forty-year-old man, and even more so a family man! It was only then that I realized what a humiliating position I had been in all this time. Mom took me to church, I went to confession, and I really felt better.

The most amazing thing is that three months later Alexander knocked on my door. , immaculately dressed with a bouquet of flowers, an apology and a statement that he wants a child from me! However, by this time I had already completely freed myself from this dope and my once beloved “married man” was put out the door without a drop of regret.

Alina (30 years old):

Today I remember my relationship with Roland with pain and longing. By the time we met, I had been married for 10 years and we had a wonderful son. With her husband, however, there was no longer that passion in a relationship - an ordinary philistine life. Roland was also married for more than six years, though he had no children and, as he admitted, he never loved his wife.

That year when we met, we were perhaps the most happy people on the ground. He was a tireless lover and surprisingly pleasant conversationalist, just what I dreamed of all my life. We dreamed of a joint happy future, although all this was not destined to come true.

Everything collapsed in an instant when his wife found out about our relationship. I can imagine what situation Roland found himself in because his wife began to blackmail her by committing suicide if he left her, rushing at him with a knife, in general, she behaved extremely aggressively. He nevertheless filed for divorce and even rented a separate apartment, but she pestered him with calls to his mobile and guarded near the apartment. For me, his divorce was also a nightmare. Roland suggested that we not meet for some time until he resolved all his troubles, but a month later he called and began to explain that it would be better for us not to be together, that if everything continues, we will ruin the lives of two more people - my husband and son.

Since then, Roland and I practically stopped talking. And my life after this relationship seemed to be cut short. In vain they say that time heals - everyone lies, time only dulls the pain.

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I have normal family great dad and beautiful mother. Yes, and I myself am a pretty pretty girl and men often pay attention to me. But at the time when I was 27, I was not lucky enough to find HIM - the one that everyone dreams of.

And, when I nevertheless met a man who struck my heart with just one look, he turned out to be married. Everything is like in a bad story. Frankly, I didn’t think for a minute about whether it was worth starting a relationship with him - in his presence, my knees gave way, and his smell made me think about sex. At first it was just a passion that I didn't want to control. And then our relationship grew into love.

About love

Yes, I'm in love. I fell in love so much that I was not at all interested in his wife, I was not interested in what my parents would say or what future we would have. Yes, I was not at all interested in money, since my salary and help from my dad allowed me to feel calm in this matter.

Every time we met, I felt that this was my man. The one that will not annoy me either with his snoring, or dirty socks, or football in the evenings. Frankly, he immediately said that he was married. True, he added that he did not love his wife. Doesn't love anymore.

About relationships

Even at the beginning of our romance, he told me that he was not ready to leave the family and leave his wife. For many reasons. Therefore, our relationship will always remain a fairy tale on the side. In general, he was sure that it was impossible to love one person for a long time. That love then becomes friendship and affection, and this is a reason to look for new relationships. To create which, of course, it is not at all necessary to destroy the family.

At the time, I didn't care. I was willing to do anything just to be with him. At least sometimes.

We had a secret apartment where we met, we went on vacation together, met on weekends and could cross somewhere in Europe if I had a business trip. He was free. And, to be honest, this freedom attracted like a magnet. You know, there are men who do a lot of bad things, but their presence makes you melt like melted cheese on a grill.

We consistently spent 3 evenings a week together, sometimes he stayed overnight. Yes, I didn’t really like the holidays, because on holidays he was always with his family. Sometimes she sobbed, sometimes she cursed everything, sometimes she was ready to give up everything, but every time he brought me back. And at such moments I understood that he loves me.

About wife

His wife didn't know about me or just didn't want to know. Her husband often left, did not spend the night at home and allowed himself to be led as he pleased. He acted like a free man.

What connected them? I don't know, he preferred to keep silent about her. Yes, they have children together. Common property and probably once he loved her. But that was once.

About the time

My married friend and I have been dating for 10 years. Now I am 37, I have a successful career, an interesting circle of acquaintances, I have a child and a beloved man. The child, of course, is from him. It was he who asked to give birth, although he did not leave his wife. I confess, I agreed without hesitation.

We still spend 3 evenings together, go on vacation and spend 1 day off. Now he divides the holidays in half: half in the first family, half with us. It sounds strange, of course, but it's true.

Of course, during this time I freaked out, cried, sobbed, broke dishes and swore to myself that I would never return to him. She even started romances on the side, thinking about getting married. But no man could replace him for me. I cried, at times cursed him, but I came back.

What is important is that his theory that you can love someone for a short time, crashed into our love. We still love, and I still look at him with love in my eyes. And, yes, it happens.

About conclusions

I cannot say that every day of my life I regret that I met him. Sometimes it covers me and I cry that I had to marry a normal "stable" man and not think about the state "when my knees are cowardly."

But I'm not sure that in this situation I would be happy. Am I happy now? As a mistress? At times, very much. At times, I feel miserable. But I do not think that in the role of a wife, something would have changed. This is probably the downside of any relationship. And women are divided into two categories: those who choose "stable and right men and those who choose love.

I chose love and I don't want to regret it. And even if our relationship lasted a month, and not so many years, I would remember them with warmth in old age. And, for sure, my memories will be much more tender than those of those who do not know what love is.

Important: the heroine of the story chose to remain anonymous.

I don't even know where to start...
I'll try to start from the most important.
I love a married man nothing new surprises you. I am no longer a girl, but I am far from old age.
My name is Rose. I am forty one years old.
In my life, I used to put everything on the line and weigh every step I take. This is how my mother raised me and my strict father used to say.
I got married for convenience when I was twenty-seven years old. I didn't love my first husband, but I needed him. This, you know, is a very common formulation of prudent women: do not love, but feel sorry or get comfortable.

My first husband, on the contrary, loved me and did everything that befits a breadwinner. He worked two shifts, stocked the refrigerator with groceries, and provided for me from head to toe. God did not send us children.
Andrei suddenly died five years ago in a complex production ...
I did not love my first husband, but after he left, I suddenly realized what it means to be for real beloved. This is worth living for.
During the first three years after my husband's death, I plowed like a tractor in order to cope with personal grief as quickly as possible.
Let me tell you something very important!
Living next to a seemingly unloved person, shrugging off his annoying attention, you will begin to understand what you have lost only after he is not around.
I will tell you more...
You will start loving him. It just won't work to say.
I met Maxim new job: He worked in a neighboring department.
We practically did not communicate, but that's not the point.
First of all, he was (and is) a stranger man. I understood it well. But this is not the most important thing.
Maxim, both in character and appearance, is very similar to Andrey.
This is a prudent worker who tirelessly plows ......
But his little wife is the spitting image of me, who once lived for Andrei. Only she did not yet understand what it is to live alone.
There are a lot of single men around, and I love a married man. Just like in the song.
I quit my job and switched to another, hoping that I could forget Maxim. But he still does not go out of memory.
I don't know what to do next and ask for "help from the audience".
I am sure that he is unhappy with his legal wife, and she, just like I once did Andrei, does not appreciate him for his efforts.
But, as you know, you can’t command the heart.
On someone else's misfortune happiness can not be built. A vicious circle is obtained. I'm completely confused.

This is the letter I received in my email inbox. Rosa asks us for advice, not knowing how to live on. Is it love? What do you think, friends?

Here's what I think about it...

Dear Rosa.
Allow me this time not to involve an abstruse expert, but to express my own point of view on this issue.
I believe that this is not love, but an unrestrained attempt to correct the past, reinforced by guilt.
Living in a legal marriage with Andrey, you did not appreciate his sincere feelings, accepting love as something ordinary. When your husband died, you saw the light in the field of loneliness and realized that you didn’t tell and didn’t like the one who deserved it.
Now, having met Maxim, who is very similar to her husband who has gone forever, you subconsciously strive for a family idyll, arguing that his legal wife does not appreciate such a relationship.
Think deeply about this.
And now we are waiting for the “help of the hall”.