Potty training becomes another important milestone in a child's growing up journey. One fine day, often influenced by conversations with other parents, the mother decides that it is time to transfer the child to the “adult” way of urinating and defecating. Moreover, parents of both an 8-9 month old and a 3-4 year old baby can make this decision and begin to insist on it. And, despite such a serious age step, the behavior and attitude of parents towards a child who “doesn’t understand at all” or “doesn’t want to” do what is expected of him will be similar. When attempts to persuade, show with toys, perhaps, to captivate by example do not yield results, parents may begin to get irritated, scold the child, and even punish him.

The child most often reacts to this pressure by refusing to obey his parents. In this case, the child may insist on the old habitual method of urinating, for example, in a diaper, or “doing his business” in his pants, next to the potty, but not in the potty.

For example:

Both laughter and sin - my child (1 year 5 months) has made it a habit to pee and poop on the carpet. Today I actually took things out of the chest of drawers, pulled out the shelf and peed there. I have no idea what to do with it! They spoke to him kindly, scolded him, and even spanked him - he only laughs in response. He refuses to go to the potty: he sits on it for a long time in his pants, grunts, but then gets up and pees in his pants. We bought him a baby seat for the toilet - he peed once while sitting on it, but now he also climbs in only to “play poop” and grunt. He, however, doesn’t like wet pants - he takes them off himself and puts them in the wash. And if he poops in his pants, there’s another problem: he gets his pen dirty and shows it to me or grandma! Well, what should we do with it? Olga

In the worst case scenario, the child refuses to pee or poop altogether. He begins to experience constipation, which can only be dealt with by an enema, and even then not always. Potty training a child becomes a serious problem. Moreover, the more efforts parents make to achieve its solution, the worse and worse the result becomes.

My son is 2 years 6 months old. We started weaning off diapers at two years old. As a little boy, he goes to the toilet, to the grass, and everywhere without any problems. But in a big way, this is a problem. He goes to the nursery, and they say that he poops on the potty, but it doesn’t look like it, because the child is suffering and at home he agrees to only wear diapers and poop while standing. We are trying to potty or toilet train him, but this only causes a negative reaction and constipation! How to behave in this situation? Anna

As a rule, the child's resistance comes as a surprise to the parents. They do not understand its nature at all. It seems to them that the child is deliberately, deliberately not obeying. They believe that he can do what they want from him, but “out of spite” he acts in his own way. This is why most often parents resort to punishment, feeling helpless because they cannot cope with the baby.

Why does the child resist?

* First, he simply may not be old enough to consciously control his urination and bowel movements. After all, using a potty requires a fairly high degree of self-control from a child.
* Secondly, in addition to physiological ones, there are also psychological reasons. Simply put, a child must both be able and want to use the potty. After all, what previously happened on its own and without any effort on his part must undergo a complete restructuring. The baby must learn to manage a complex internal process.

If we break this process down into its components, it turns out that the child must learn:

1. recognize the signal to urinate, that is, understand what exactly he wants;
2. restrain the primary impulse;
3. consciously and voluntarily seek “suitable” conditions for this;
4. consciously “get down to business” once in the right conditions.

It is quite difficult to determine at what age a child becomes capable of this. There may be significant individual differences here. It is clear that by this moment the child should already be able to walk and control his body quite well. To at least somehow indicate the age range, we will assume that this happens closer to two years.

There are examples when mothers manage to potty train their children in more early age*. But most often this happens thanks to the efforts of the mother, when she recognizes the child’s desire to pee or poop and provides him with a potty in time. The mother’s dexterity in such cases is, of course, commendable, but this does not mean that the child has mastered the potty and knows how to use it independently. Mom still has to “transfer responsibility” to him for fulfilling her natural needs and, perhaps, will also face some difficulties in doing so.

Thus, we see that the child is faced with a rather difficult task, requiring high concentration of attention and strength from him. Moreover, before learning to use the potty, the child will most likely have to go through the experience of failure. He, for example, may either not recognize the call to urinate, or may not have time to reach the potty in time, even if he tries very hard to do everything “right.” In this case, his disappointment in himself and his abilities threatens him with refusal to acquire a new skill; this is psychologically easier for him than experiencing strong negative emotions about this.

Now let’s imagine that parental criticism and even punishment are added to all these experiences. And it is unknown what “hits” him more painfully. Sometimes it is much easier for a child to withstand a spanking on the butt than to see how upset mom and dad are with his failures. And then, at best, he will start writing in the wrong place or when it is required. At worst, he will decide that something is wrong with him when he pees or poops and that he will still be scolded and shamed. To avoid this, he will not do it at all, at least not in front of his parents. He will either do the job on the sly and then again “receive” for it from his parents (which means he will be convinced that his fears were not in vain), or he will endure until the last. And this is constipation, laxatives, sometimes the mother’s attempts to help the child by pressing on the tummy, etc. All this fuss around the potty frightens and irritates the child even more.

Thus, most often (if the child is 2 years old or older), the problem with potty training arises not at the level of physiology, but at the level of psychology. The child is quite capable of recognizing and restraining the primary impulse, but then a failure occurs. Negative emotions“kill” the very desire to master this difficult process.

Parents must understand that the main thing is not to force the child to use the potty, the faster the better, but to stimulate his interest in the result, to achieve his voluntary cooperation in this process.

To do this you need:

* forget about criticism, act only with praise, do not notice failures;
* create motivation in the child, encourage him with praise and even “prizes”, not only for the result, but also for any attempt to achieve it;
* you can divide the process into several stages: first, teach the child to warn about his intentions (let him pee where it is convenient for him); second, teach how to do this in one special place; and only the third is to use a potty or toilet for this.

It is important that the beginning of training is as comfortable as possible for the child. You don't have to insist on using the potty exclusively. Some children will immediately give preference to a toilet (for example, with a soft, comfortable seat), for others a basin or even a rug in the bathroom (which is easy to remove), or, in extreme cases, a diaper (if you put it on the child at his request immediately before urination or defecation).

Often, parents consider this intermediate stage in the process of potty training their child not as their achievement, but as an unnecessary “concession” to the child. This is a wrong position. It is easier for a child to learn to control himself gradually. Every small success will stimulate him to further study, push him to master more complex “levels of mastery.” Thereby nervous system the child and his parents will be protected from serious shocks, and the process of potty training will proceed as quickly as possible.
Some useful tips and comments

* Potty/toilet training should be done during the day, when he is conscious and strong. And do not teach if the child is sick or excited or experiencing some kind of stress.
* It’s good if a child plays with a potty and puts toys in it, although he doesn’t use it himself. This suggests that he is in the process of mastering the potty (and not at all that he is “bullying his parents”).
* If a child uses the potty/toilet only for one purpose - or pees there, or poops - this is not a cause for concern. We must continue to encourage his attempts and calmly wait until he decides to do more.
* Don't be upset if your child, having learned to use the potty during the day, continues to wet the bed at night. At night, it is more difficult for children to control their urges. Sometimes the sleep is so deep that the baby simply cannot wake up to pee. And this situation should be distinguished from enuresis and encopresis - diseases that will be discussed below.

It happens that a child, having mastered the “correct skills,” suddenly loses them and “unlearns.” This is already an unfavorable symptom, which indicates that some changes are occurring in the child’s psyche that prevent him from normally controlling the process of urination and defecation. However, this does not yet indicate the presence of the disease. When should parents start worrying?

There are several definitions of enuresis. The simplest and most understandable can be considered the following: enuresis - unintentional urination during the day and/or at night by a child aged six (!) years and older, in the absence of congenital or acquired defects of the nervous system or urinary tract, occurring on a systematic basis.

If we do not take into account purely medical factors (such as diseases of the central nervous and urinary systems, as well as severe infections), the following unfavorable psychological factors influence the appearance of enuresis:

Psychotrauma

Trauma is most often caused by quarrels and conflicts in the family, which occur in front of the child. Also painful are changes in the composition of the family (for example, the birth of a new member or the death of a close relative), a sharp change in the child’s living conditions (the period of adaptation to kindergarten or school, moving to a new place of residence, long-term separation from parents caused, for example, by that the child had to go to the hospital).

Punishments for wet beds and other mistakes in parental behavior

Fear of punishment not only does not help to get rid of urinary incontinence, but, as a rule, worsens the situation. Fear itself becomes a factor contributing to the emergence and development of the disease. Pediatricians and neurologists, not to mention child psychologists, emphasize that involuntary urination in bed is a punishment for a child simply because of what happened. To achieve relief from this disease, it is important to instill in the child that his defect is temporary and will soon pass.

Approximately the same factors can play a negative role in the appearance of encopresis in a child - involuntary defecation.

In child psychology there are various techniques non-drug treatment of enuresis and encopresis, which have proven themselves in practice. For example, methods of play therapy and art therapy. By drawing and playing games on the topic of his experiences, the child gets rid of internal tension and intuitively looks for ways to resolve his difficulties.

The most important component of treatment is the creation of favorable external conditions for the child. Experience shows that after a good rest, if there are no new stresses, enuresis and encopresis (when there are no medical complications) go away without a trace.
Parents' mistakes

* Common mistake which parents usually commit is the desire to comply with strict time norms when potty training a child. Reasons: standards left over from the old Soviet medical school.
* Bad advisers: doctors of the “old school” and relatives who raised their children according to their instructions; their unwillingness to reconsider their views.
* Unfavorable external conditions that push the mother to make mistakes: the feeling that her child “lags behind” the children of her friends.

Erroneous actions: putting a child on the potty, despite his reluctance, putting pressure on the child, blaming and punishing him for improper use of the potty, for dirty panties.

Consequences: constipation, the child’s fear of urination, defecation, the child’s experience of his own inadequacy, inferiority (especially if the mother gives him as an example a “good” child he knows who is already doing something that he cannot do); The stress experienced can affect appetite, sleep, give rise to aggressive manifestations or, conversely, contribute to the child’s isolation.

Correct actions:

* the principle of voluntariness: the child is given a choice - to use the potty or not;
* a calm attitude towards the problem of using the potty: encouragement for attempts to use the potty (praise, prizes) in the complete absence of criticism for “wrong” actions;
* long term potty training: each child is individual, each has his own “speed” and degree of readiness to control his bowel movements (the condition for success is the child’s physiological and psychological readiness to control the processes of discharging his needs).

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The child does not want to sit on the potty - this problem worries all parents, as well as the possibility of resolving this situation. Why does a child refuse to relieve himself or herself on the potty? At what age should a child switch from diapers to consciously going to the toilet? What to do if the baby actively resists even after a year, throwing tantrums with tears and screaming? In any case, you need to be patient and remain calm. So let's try to figure it out calmly.

Age

The older a child gets, the more often parents invite him to sit on the potty to pee or poop. When can we consider that a child is ready to join the world of adults in this way?

Regarding age, this is a purely individual thing. Someone, perhaps, will learn to poop on the potty before a year, while others may resist the introduction of such an innovation even after a year and a half, or simply sit on it, and then do their business in diapers. But the attempt is not torture, and parents can begin to sit the child on the potty when he is already sitting well and confidently.

But before you begin this important event, you need to try to assess the situation objectively. It goes without saying that for every mother and every father, his child is the best, the smartest and the most understanding. At the same time, sometimes common sense can simply remain silent and turn a blind eye to the most ordinary physiology.

And the kids physiological characteristics are such that up to one and a half years old, small children cannot control such a thing as the fullness of the intestines and bladder. Simply put, until this age, the child will pee and poop not when he was put on the potty, but when he wanted to pee or poop. Wherever inspiration strikes, everything will happen. If the parents managed to take off his clothes and sit him on the potty, this is wonderful, but in the case of a very young child, such random luck will not make a difference: the baby does not yet have a clear cause-and-effect relationship, and he does not understand what this thing has to do with it on which he sits. Therefore, the only benefit in this case is saving on diapers or washing soiled children's clothes.

But the situation changes dramatically after the child reaches the age of two. At two years old, the baby is already developing some skills and abilities, which give reason to be optimistic about getting used to the toilet and potty. The child can:

• walk confidently;
• bend over without losing balance;
• squat and then stand up without assistance;
• bending over, picking up toys and other objects from the floor, and then putting them back in place;
• understand what adults are talking about (although a child’s personal vocabulary at two years old may not be that great);
• understand what is asked of him, the motivation for his parents’ actions - even at the most primitive level;
• do not pee or poop during naps;
• stay dry throughout the day for two hours at a time;
• experience discomfort from written or soiled clothes, and express this through facial expressions, movements, some sounds or words;
• somehow let adults know that he wants to go to the toilet - each child has his own “signal system” for this case: gestures, sounds, actions;
• develop your own “daily routine” and go for minor and major needs at certain hours - after eating, immediately after sleep, etc.

The last thing is perhaps the most important, since the main thing in potty training is understanding the process and purpose of this thing. A baby can pee and poop on the potty for up to a year, but only if the parents catch the signs of impending action in time. The child himself will not make any conscious movements in this direction: the potty for him will be one of the things around him, he can look at it, even play with it - but only at two years old will he approach this object precisely with the goal of sitting down and making his own affairs.

Therefore, until the age of two, you shouldn’t make a tragedy about the lack of such skills: it’s not that the child doesn’t want to go to the potty, he just doesn’t understand what it is and why he should poop and pee not in diapers or panties, but in it.

How to assess a child's readiness

Although the age of two years is a certain rubicon, it is unlikely that one fine day (more precisely, morning) a child will suddenly demand to sit him on a potty, which he previously did not at all perceive as an alternative to a diaper. It’s just that at this age he will quickly understand what they want from him, and later he will appreciate all the charm of innovations, and he will take off his pants himself and happily poop and pee where he should.

But it is quite possible that at first the baby will not understand what they want from him. And then parents will need to show maximum patience, be calm and restrained. It is strictly forbidden to:

• forcefully hold the baby on the potty if he has not relieved himself but wants to get up;
• start raising your voice, shouting;
• show your dissatisfaction;
• scold and punish the baby if, after getting up from the potty, he immediately began to pee and poop in his underwear or diaper.

In order for a child to start going to the potty consciously, he needs to do it with pleasure. To produce positive result It may take more than one week, or even a month, but it needs to be done. And it is believed that two years optimal age to begin such training, since the child is both physiologically and psychologically mature in order to go to the potty.

Reasons for negative attitude

If a child is already two years old, and he stubbornly does not want to go to the potty, although his parents are trying to teach him, you need to look for a reason, physiological or psychological.

It could be:

• tendency to constipation: the baby develops a connection between bowel movements and painful sensations at the subconscious level;
• incorrectly selected pot;
• impatience and irritability of parents.

All this leads to the fact that the potty becomes a strong negative irritant for the child, and attempts to use physical violence will only cause a protest response, and the baby will deliberately poop and pee in his pants.

If we talk about constipation, then with this phenomenon the child not only does not want to poop on the potty - he tries to hold back until the last moment, when it will no longer be possible to hold on. It’s just that parents may not notice this if the baby is in diapers. Although stool is hard during constipation, this is what causes painful bowel movements. Microcracks may occur in the anus, which will further increase pain and fear of defecation.

In such cases, you need to change the child’s diet, make sure that he receives more liquid, both in pure form and in dishes. It is better to switch him to pureed soups and soft foods until his stool returns to normal.

The impatience of parents, no matter how good their goals are, plays a bad joke on them: children can “squeeze” for a long time, the potty can cause them fear and tears. Therefore – patience, patience and only patience.

If a child sits on the potty, but doesn’t get any results, it’s okay. You cannot show your child your negative attitude; he may also develop an unconscious feeling of guilt.

If everything worked out, you need to praise him, pat him on the head and show your approval in every possible way.

At this age, everyone already knows their children thoroughly, and it is not difficult to catch those moments when they want to pee or poop, especially since at the age of two this still happens less often than before one year. Some will push, others will simply freeze, others will have a certain facial expression, a characteristic pose - in a word, watch the child, he himself will tell you when he needs to be put on the potty. But this needs to be done unobtrusively. The pot should be at hand in the literal sense of the word. Otherwise, parents, noticing that the child is about to pee or poop, frantically rush to another room or to the toilet to get a potty, which can frighten the child - and then this item may no longer be useful.

How to choose

In order for a child to want to go to the potty, you need to choose it carefully, taking into account many features. And we're not talking about the color of the object. Need to consider:

• size,
• shape,
• material,
• design features.

The potty should not be too large or too small: it should be comfortable for the child to sit on it. It should not crash into the buttocks, but the baby should not “fall” into it.

Girls need a round pot, and boys need an oval one. This is dictated by anatomical features: at first boys pee while sitting, and the shape of the potty should be such that there are no puddles on the floor.

The best material for this thing is plastic. It is lightweight, injury-proof, and quickly heats up to body temperature. In this regard, it is undesirable to purchase metal or ceramic products: sitting on cold material, the child may no longer want to go to the potty. And ceramic, among other things, can also break.

As for the design features, it is very important that it is stable. If the child sways and turns over along with the “dishes,” then this will not be very pleasant, and he may not want to go to the potty for a long time, since falling hurts, and if the potty was already filled, it will be completely bad.

Such a feature as a potty with a back is very convenient: the baby can recline without fear of turning over. There are models with removable covers; it is advisable to purchase them for traveling with children.

What not to do

Wanting to teach a child to go potty as quickly as possible, parents, as well as grandparents, are ready to do everything so that the baby begins to poop “like an adult,” and not in diapers. However, you should not turn a trip to the toilet into a circus performance: this will only distract the child’s attention from the main goal.

The same applies to the product itself: it should be as simple and convenient as possible. All sorts of “bells and whistles” like color music and other additional effects will lead to the same results: for the baby it will be just another toy, and its functional purpose will remain a secret.

Also, you should not hand your baby books with pictures when you sit him down to poop. Parents do this out of good intentions, so that the child can sit on his “toilet” longer. But he may develop a reflex, and in general, after staring, he will sit longer than necessary to relieve himself. This can lead to defecation problems.

What experts say

If your baby doesn’t want to go potty, you don’t need to worry and think that your child is somehow worse than others - especially since you can’t take mothers’ stories about the extraordinary abilities of their children at face value: parents sometimes like to embellish the real state of affairs. Everything has its time.

Experts say that children who go to kindergarten, they learn faster from the example of their peers: it is much more visual than dolls and teddy bears placed on a potty at home.

As for diapers, scientists have not identified any dependence of children’s desire to go to the potty on wearing this accessory.

When a baby appears in the family, his parents acquire new worries and responsibilities. So, at the very beginning they worry about nutrition and proper development baby. Over time, a process called education begins. This is where parents must promptly explain to the baby what can be done and what is best not to do. Potty training is a touchy subject for many parents. Thus, some couples claim that their babies are asked to relieve themselves in the right place almost from birth. Does this happen? This article will talk about what to do if a two-year-old child does not go to the potty. You will be able to get acquainted with the opinions of experienced specialists and knowledgeable parents. Also find out whether it is a pathology when a two-year-old child does not go to the potty.

At what age should a child be taught to urinate in a special place?

Most parents are convinced that children should be potty trained at the age of six months. Some unique people manage to do this even earlier. However, all this is nothing more than an attempt to save on diapers and show off to friends. Also, great pressure is put on moms and dads by grandmothers, who are surprised how their grandson or great-grandson pees in his pants every year.

Pediatricians and neurologists say that a child has the right to relieve himself wherever he wants until he is three years old. Of course, after 12-18 months, most children already prefer to ask to go to the toilet. However, the absence of such a habit at this age is not a pathology. What should parents do? What to do if a 2 year old child does not go to the potty? Let's consider some methods of influencing a baby at this age.

Offer an alternative to a hated accessory

If a 2-year-old child does not go to the potty, Komarovsky suggests providing the child with an alternative. The baby is already quite big and understands everything perfectly. He sees mom and dad relieving themselves in another place and wants to do the same.

Try replacing the potty with a regular toilet. If you do not have the opportunity to install a special children's plumbing device, then purchase a regular cover. Remember that the product should be as convenient and comfortable as possible for the baby. Securely attach the seat to an adult toilet and invite your child to relieve himself there. Most likely, the baby will be interested in such a change of scenery. Even for the sake of his own interest, the child will want to follow your example. Perhaps, from this day on, the baby will not go to the potty, but use an adult toilet.

Replace the device with another one

If a 2-year-old child does not go to the potty and refuses to accept it at all, then most likely he simply has unpleasant associations. Remember, did you teach your baby to defecate into this particular device by force? Perhaps the child simply remembered the negative aspects and now does not want to use such a device.

There is a way out of this situation. Just buy a new pot. It is desirable that not only the color, but the very shape of the product differ. Encourage your child to choose the accessory themselves. In this case, there is a high probability that the child will want to use the potty immediately and will always do so.

Give up diapers

Does your 2 year old child not go to the potty? Are you still using diapers and absorbent panties? Then it's not about the baby at all. Most likely, the parents themselves are not yet able to admit that their child has already grown up and can relieve himself independently. Dad and mom don't let the two-year-old know that without diapers his pants will get wet, and that will be very unpleasant.

Avoid absorbent devices. Stop wearing diapers at night and during the day. Within a few days you will be able to notice that the child has begun to show interest in the potty. He will simply be uncomfortable in wet pants.

Don't scold your baby

If a 2-year-old child does not go to the potty, many parents resort to drastic measures. They begin to scold the baby or even beat him. It is worth saying that these actions are absolutely wrong. Using this method, you will only reinforce a negative attitude towards the hated accessory.

Stop scolding and shaming your child. Try to remind him more often that it is time to pee in the potty. Ask periodically if he wants to go to the toilet. At this age, children are already quite capable of controlling their desires and feeling the fullness of their intestines.

Create motivation

If a 2-year-old child does not go to the potty, then most likely he is just lazy. He does not have any motivation that would contribute to the desire to defecate in the right place.

Invite your child to choose and buy underwear for him together. These could be panties with your favorite cartoon character or shorts in your preferred color. Already on the very first day of wearing the chosen outfit, you will notice that the child has begun to use the potty. All because the baby does not want to spoil his favorite thing that he chose for himself.

Any treat can also serve as motivation. What does your child love most? Candy or chocolate? Juice or cookies? Tell him that you will immediately reward him as soon as he starts peeing in the potty. Remember that your promise must be kept. Otherwise, the baby will simply be disappointed in you and continue his policy.

Select the pot

If so, just take this item from him. Seems pretty stupid, doesn't it? However, it is worth saying that all children at this age are terrible owners. They do not want to share their toys and personal belongings even with their parents. What can we say about strangers and peers!

Take the child's potty and simply say that you will give it to another child (birds, dog, etc.). No one else knows the baby like you. Choose the object for which such a gift is provided, based on your child’s considerations. Perhaps he doesn't like to share toys with the neighbor boy? So tell him that the pot is intended specifically for him. It is likely that after such sayings of yours, the child will take his device and immediately use it. As a result, you will achieve what you wanted. If necessary, remind your child periodically that the potty can still go to another owner if it is not used.

Carrot and stick

If a two-year-old child does not go to the potty, what to do? It also happens that all of the above methods do not help. Some children are so stubborn that they do not want to give in to any conditions and compromise. In this case, you can try punishment. However, you need to know for sure that the baby behaves this way precisely because of stubbornness.

Many mothers say that after several punishments, children began to use the potty quite normally. A ban on cartoons, a refusal to new toy, deprivation of sweets and so on. Most likely, after such influences, the baby will agree to use the hated device in order to return the joys of his life.

Consult a doctor and get treatment

If a 2-year-old child does not go to the potty, what should his parents do? In some cases, this symptom is a sign of pathology. Perhaps the baby needs health care. Contact doctors such as a urologist, nephrologist, pediatrician and neurologist. They will conduct the necessary examinations and make the correct diagnosis.

If your baby also has any neurological problems, then this option is quite likely. In this case, you cannot delay the correction. Timely treatment will allow you to quickly and without consequences restore control of urinary function, and the baby will begin to go potty.

Waiting attitude

What to do if a child at two years old refuses to go to the potty? Just wait. If you have been to the doctor and the doctor said that everything is fine with the baby, then you do not have to worry about anything. The baby will not pee in his pants until adulthood. Most likely, after a few months or weeks, the baby will show interest in his accessory and will begin to relieve himself there.

Remember the opinions of experienced doctors. Experts say that a child has every right not to use a potty until he is three years old. Don’t look at other children and, of course, you shouldn’t believe parents who claim that their baby is asking to go to the toilet from the cradle. At night, a child may urinate in his pants until he reaches the age of five. Be patient. You may not have to wait that long. Most children by the age of three are already using the potty independently day and night. However, there are exceptions that only confirm the rule.

Summing up, or a short conclusion of the article

You now know what to do if your child does not go to the potty at the age of two years. Remember that all advice is conditional. Some can affect the child immediately. Others will not force the baby to react to the situation.

You should not apply all the tips at the same time. Choose the one that seems most effective to you. If necessary, use another method after a few days. Give your child good examples, but at the same time do not reproach him. Otherwise, the child may develop a complex and completely withdraw into himself. If this is necessary, you can use the tips child psychologist. A specialist will certainly find an approach to your baby and help solve a delicate problem. Raise your child correctly and set a good example for him with your actions. I wish you success!

A very difficult period in raising a child that young parents face. Grandmother's experience cannot always help, which is very frustrating for mothers. But this is understandable, because children have different characters, and the conditions of their upbringing are even more so.

When should you start potty training your child?

There is no specific training time. Some begin introducing a child to the potty at almost six months, while others buy a potty only when they realize that peeing in their pants at 2 years old is already too much. Sooner or later, the child will understand what this item is for.

Often, parents' desire to force their child to go potty is that the baby will soon go to kindergarten and it would be better for him to do all the manipulations on his own. And during training, many mothers panic: my child won’t sit on the potty: what should I do? The most important thing is not to panic, remain calm and calm. Let's look at what factors indicate a child's readiness to start using the potty.

Urination and defecation are processes that are not controlled by a small child, as they take place without the participation of the cerebral cortex. Dr. Komarovsky calls on parents to subordinate unconditioned reflexes to the will of the child and make them controllable. Reflexes can be made conditional, but this depends on:

• condition of the baby’s genitourinary system;
• development of the child’s nervous system;
• the desire of parents to go towards the intended goal, despite the difficulties.

In other words, than younger child, the more difficult it will be to teach him to consciously sit on the potty. The child begins to more or less control natural needs only after one year. By this time, the area of ​​the brain responsible for the processes of urination and defecation begins to work.

What to do to potty train your child

• During this period, the baby should already be familiar with a new object - a potty, so as not to be afraid of it in the future. Let him be among the toys for now. You can put any toy on it and invite the child to sit on it. Let the baby sit and get used to it.
• Under no circumstances should you force your child to drop off. This can discourage you from using the potty for its intended purpose for a long time.
• The potty should be comfortable and not cause discomfort.
• You should constantly praise your child when he sits down on his own to make him want to sit on the potty more than once.
• Don’t rush, don’t rush things, be calm and don’t scold your child needlessly.

Signs your baby is ready

And now - the most important thing. In order to teach a child to go potty, Dr. Komarovsky recommends highlighting the distinctive signs of so-called readiness.

• the child has established a routine where he goes to the toilet “in a big way”;
• pauses between urination are maintained for 2-3 hours;
• the baby knows the meaning of the words “pee”, “poop”;
• a negative attitude towards wet pants and a desire to take them off yourself;
• the ability to say or show with a gesture the action “I want”.

Important! The parent must develop in the child the relationship between filling the bladder and emptying it into the potty. During the training period, it is better to refuse diapers. Otherwise, the child simply will not understand that walking in wet clothes is unpleasant. The mother will first have to catch the baby so that he has time to get his pants dirty. It will be difficult, mom will not always be able to “catch” the moment in time, so you should be patient.

Involve the child himself in teaching. Go through the entire procedure with him, from start to finish, to turn it into a game. Take out the potty, place it in a convenient place, and sit the child down. When he peed, look at what he did and praise him. Together with your baby, pour out the contents of the potty, draw his attention to the fact that his pants are dry and praise him again. Put the pot back in place.

If you are unable to potty train your child for a long time, “forget” about it for 1-2 months. Don't think about the potty at all. And then start teaching again. It is likely that this time the training will be faster and easier.

Greetings, dear readers! A certain stage of a child’s “growing up” in a family is considered to be the moment when the baby begins to do his business in the potty, and not by. Therefore, the question of how to quickly accustom a child to it occupies top positions on all kinds of mother’s forums. Why doesn't my child want to go to the potty? How can you teach a child to use it in accordance with its intended purpose without breaking the child’s psyche? We are ready to discuss these and many other questions regarding “potty training” today with you, are you ready?

How do families usually potty train a child? Mom, dad or grandma, or maybe all of them together, suddenly decide that it’s time for your little one to become an adult! Here’s a potty for you, baby, and please relieve yourself here!

The main “problem” in this situation is that it is the adults who decide that it is time to potty train the child, but in reality it should be the other way around - it is the baby who must show mom and dad that he is ready to do his business in the potty. Therefore, to begin with, we will look at the main signs of a baby’s readiness to “conquer” toilet matters:

The most important thing is that the baby should be about 1.6 years old (no less) at the time of mastering it; as a rule, around this age, the child’s nervous system begins to mature and he can control urination, as well as be aware of the fullness of the bladder or intestines;

• the child can remain dry for quite a long time (2-2.5 hours);
• the baby can show with signs or say in words that he wants to go to the toilet;
• the baby squats down on his own and stands up without the help of others;
• your son or daughter shows obvious signs of dissatisfaction when he finds himself wet, tries to take off his wet underwear or panties;
• the baby goes to the toilet “mostly” at about the same time;
• The child diligently imitates many of the actions of mom and dad.

So, you have noticed all these signs of readiness in your child and you understand that it’s time to get down to business, so that a problem does not arise - the child does not want to go to the potty, try to properly introduce the baby to this accessory, and for this you will need:

What do we need to get acquainted with the potty?

1. First of all, you should purchase an accessory that is convenient for your child; for this purpose, feel free to take your baby to the store and begin a meticulous inspection and selection of a potty from those available for sale. You should not buy pots with musical accompaniment, steering wheel or game panels, because for many children such “bells and whistles” only distract from the real “business”. Try to choose anatomically comfortable models; there are options for girls and boys, in the form of a high chair with a removable insert and regular standard potties. Invite your child to sit on the model he likes; it is likely that the child will choose a pot with the image of some animal, the main thing is that it is dear to the child’s heart.
2. Even if a child does not want to go to the potty, it is likely that he will change his mind when he sees his favorite toy bunny go to the toilet instead of him. Explain to your child what the new purchased “device” is for, using toys as an example!
3. You should not encourage pampering with the potty or playing with it for other purposes. Explain over and over again that the toilet throne will occupy a specific place in your home and should be used like a toilet - strictly for its intended purpose!
4. An excellent opportunity to teach your child to use the potty more quickly is to replace diapers with panties during the daytime. Children quickly realize that being wet is not so pleasant, but at the same time, when the baby relieves himself in the potty, he remains dry, and also receives praise and joy from his parents!

So, you have purchased the “accessory” your child needs, explained how to use it, however, it still turns out that the baby does not want to use it, why does this happen? Let's look at a list of tips from psychologists that will help make your child potty-friendly and dot the i's:

• If you have explained to your child how to use the potty, but he categorically refuses this action or clearly does not understand what you want from him, then let the situation go! There is no need to “pressure” the baby, because everything has its time! It is likely that in a couple of weeks you will again offer your child a potty, and he will delight you by starting to use it for its intended purpose.
• If the child has already established negative experience meeting with a potty and, at the sight of this object, he cries bitterly and runs away, then you should think about either purchasing a new potty, which the baby will choose, or you should buy a special toilet cover, thanks to which the baby will be able to feel like an adult!
• No, it’s easier to push a child to any activity than to show it by example! Dad can easily take his son with him to the toilet and demonstrate with him the skills of accurately hitting the target! As for mothers and daughters, why not put a potty next to the toilet and have a joint meeting there with the baby?

What you should absolutely not do

Of course, scold the baby for not having time, being late, or missing the potty! Screaming, swearing, or even worse, punching you will not help the matter, but will only scare the child and ensure that the baby will experience rejection and fear of going to the potty.

In the event of a child’s failure, tell him that there is nothing wrong with it, next time the baby will definitely be able to do everything as it should! And, of course, dear readers of our blog, even if your little one doesn’t want to go potty today, and it seems to you that this will never change, then deep down you know the answer yourself?!

A few months will pass, and the baby will begin to go to the toilet without mistakes or misfires! You just need to be patient a little and help the baby cope with this difficult situation. this moment task for him! All the best! See you in new articles!