It's probably often the case that there's a killer party somewhere on the other side of town that your parents won't let you go to, or your friends want to meet at midnight and play pranks. Either way, you just need to sneak out. You must have fun while you can. You may be scared, but learning how to prepare to sneak out without being noticed will help you relax and have a good time. Start with the first step for more information.

Steps

Part 1

Plan your escape route. In order not to be caught by your mother in the middle of a creaky staircase, you must carefully consider all the paths, exits and obstacles between you and the night of freedom. Where are the squeaky places in the house? What are your parents' habits? Is there any chance your dad will be down for a midnight ice cream while you're trying to sneak out? Consider the following questions before your escape:

• Time when parents go to bed and their nightly habits
• Plan your trip
• The place where you meet your friends
• Your itinerary from home
• Your route from the area
• Animals
• Plan B and excuses

1. Go to bed dressed. Thinking in advance what to wear, you can save yourself from problems later. Let's say your parents wake up and you show up in clubwear. Ouch. It will be difficult to explain this simply by the fact that you were on a walk. Anticipate the worst-case scenario and prepare for it.

   • Wear pajamas over regular clothes. Make sure your parents saw that you were dressed for sleep.
   • Take off your pajamas when you are outside. Hide it somewhere nearby or in your car, or shove it somewhere your parents won't find it, like in a mailbox.
   • Before you sneak back, change your clothes. If it turns out that your parents are already awake when you walk in, it will be easier for you to use the easiest excuse if everything looks like you were still asleep a couple of minutes ago.

2. Gather your team. Supposedly you're sneaking out of the house to meet up with friends, go to a party, or hang out with your loved one. Make sure your plans match those of your friends so that when you arrive at the meeting point, you won't be alone. Keep in touch via SMS or other means. Also choose a meeting place that is convenient for everyone.

   • Make sure the place you choose is safe enough and there is no risk of getting caught. If a vigilant neighbor sees a bunch of guys gathering in the parking lot of a nearby coffee shop and recognizes your friend, you'll be one step closer to getting caught.
   • Think like a ninja. Choose dark places and try to catch a car a few blocks from where you live. Stay out of sight of other people and you won't get caught.

3. Don't forget about pets. If you have a dog or an overly excitable cat, or even birds that start chirping if anyone is nearby, how do you intend to deal with them? Dogs are a real problem as they have excellent hearing and sense of smell. It is very difficult to pass unnoticed past the dog, even if it seems that she is fast asleep.

   • Consider sending the dog to your parents' room for the night, or to another remote wing of the house that is not part of the escape route, arguing as follows: “Buster is constantly trying to get into my bed and bothers me all night. Do you mind if I close it in your room tonight, because I'm afraid to sleep with the door closed?

4. Put something under the covers as if you were sleeping under it. In Escape from Alcatraz, Clint Eastwood created some gorgeous fake heads. You may not need to go that far. Just put some clothes under the covers to give the impression that you are sleeping in a bed. You'd better not be in the room if your mom decides to check on you at night.

   Part 2

   the escape

   1. Simulate bath procedures. A good disguise method when you sneak out of the house for the first time is to heat up the bathroom and use it as you normally would. Flush the toilet, turn on the water, and move from bath to room and back as if you were doing your normal bedtime routine. Then slowly take a break.

      • If anyone hears anything, the sound of your usual bedtime bath routines and the ensuing lull will sweep away all suspicion. Then they will quietly fall asleep, and at this time you will already get to the back door.

   2. Walk as quietly as possible. Take off your shoes and start your escape plan. In general, you need to move extremely slowly around the house, especially if you have to sneak past your parents, or deal with any excitable pets that can easily alarm the whole house.

      • Turn off the light. If you have to make your way through a room full of junk or through a room with a lot of angular furniture, turn on the light for a couple of seconds to give direction. As long as the light does not enter the parents' room, everything will be fine. Set a route, then turn off the lights.

   3. Be especially careful with creaky floorboards and doors. If you step on a creaky floorboard, freeze as soon as you hear a significant creak. They are hard to avoid, but the creaking that repeats every thirty seconds is unlikely to wake anyone up.

      • As for the door, as a rule, it is better to open it as if you were tearing off a band-aid. Don't let it squeak for long, open it just enough to get through and then cover it. Turn the lock and slowly push the handle to close the door. Then release the handle. Continue to remain silent as you walk down the street. Be especially wary of gravel.
      • If you are driving, you must be extremely careful. Roll your vehicle off the road at neutral speed and start the engine when the vehicle is a good distance from home up or down the street. Do not close the car door too tightly until you start it. In the middle of the night, the car sounds like an airplane.

   4. Leave the door unlocked and take a spare key with you. The easiest way to get back is to leave the door unlocked and enter without using the keys. If, suddenly, one of your parents gets up in the middle of the night for a drink of water and checks the door, you won't be able to go inside unless you have the key.

      • Leave the windows on the ground floor unlocked in case you don't have the key to the door. However, this method is quite noisy. Therefore, use it only as a last resort.

   5. Have a good time and then come back. In fact, it's highly unlikely that you'll be caught sneaking out of your home. It will be even smaller when you make your way back. Be extremely careful when you return home, especially if you have a dog.

      • Look around the house before you enter. Is the light on? Is it possible that people are already awake? If the answer is yes, then it's time to prepare an iron alibi or book a train ticket to Mexico.
      • Sneak back in your pajamas to give weight to the alibi. If you say that you just went for a walk, it will sound more believable if you are wearing pajamas.

   6. Leave the venture if you have aroused suspicion. If your father comes down to find out what's going on while you're sneaking into the kitchen, it's probably best to drop the idea. Give a simple excuse like, “I just want water. I'm tired. Goodnight". Of course, you can wait a while until your father goes to bed, but in this way you are asking for big problems. Leave the plan for another night.

   Part 3

   notice traces

   Prepare an alibi. Worst case scenario: You sneak into the house at 4 am and both of your parents are awake, sitting and looking at you with an angry look. What are you going to tell them? Here are some options:

   • “Steve called and asked to be picked up from the party. He was very upset. He is not having the best time in his life right now. I didn't mean to wake you guys up, but I just wanted to do the right thing. Sorry".
   • “I couldn’t sleep, so I wrote (a) (next door). We just walked around the neighborhood and got carried away talking. She was a little upset, so I couldn't leave her. I think I'll warm up some milk. I'm so tired)".
   • “Such a good night outside, I went out to look at the stars. And imagine, I fell asleep (a).
   • Also, you can just confess and try to work things out like this: “I met a few friends. We just hung out for a while. I'm really sorry. It won't happen again."
   • Avoid stupid excuses like "I don't know what happened, I just woke up here!" Blatant lies will get you nowhere. Your parents are not idiots.

   1. Think of the worst case scenario. What should you do if you get to the meeting point and find no one there? What if you end up walking a few miles and need to come back alone? What to do if you are caught by the police for violating the age curfew? All this is not to scare you, but you should think in advance about what to do if you find yourself in a difficult situation. This way you can relax and have fun.

      • Do you have an older sibling you can call or maybe a friend's parents can give you a ride home? Think about options and discuss them with the right people in advance. Let them know that you may need their help before you are on the street and need help.

   2. Get rid of the evidence. If your parents get suspicious and want to check what you did last night, make sure your phone says you were in bed that night. Delete relevant text messages, photos and other information that may be incriminating against you. Don't text about it, don't tweet about it, don't set social media status like "slipped away last night! one!". Shut up!

      Put things back in place. Once you're inside and safe, make sure you put everything back in the same place it was originally. This is especially true for those whose parents are very neat people. You need to make sure you don't leave your shoes or keys in a conspicuous place where they can see them.

   3. If any of your friends are nervous or think their parents will catch them, don't take them with you. These kids can get caught and let you down.
   4. Also, if you want to go out, you can try to come up with an emergency for the parents. “My friend just called and said he needed to air out. This is an emergency. I'll be back soon".
   5. Sneaking out of the house in secret is not a crime. Just find something to tell your parents if you get caught.
   6. Instead of sneaking out, try other options, such as telling your parents you're staying over at someone's house. Let it be a friend they don't know very well. So they are unlikely to call his/her parents or run into him/her in the store. Instead of sleeping, spend the night outside. If you are going to do this, you will own the whole night. Cheer yourself up with coffee.

   Warnings

   • Don't overreact to problems. Not everything will go according to plan. If something goes wrong, take it as a joke, a new hurdle to overcome, not an event that will ruin your night.

Spring is coming, according to statistics, during this period (the second wave of shoots occurs before the start of the school year), cases of children leaving home become more frequent. In February, three children escaped from orphanages in the Lipetsk region. However, it is far from always only pupils of orphanages or children from dysfunctional families who leave. According to the police, in the Lipetsk region every year up to 200 teenagers voluntarily leave their homes.

Why are children running away?
The age when a child independently decides to run away and does it consciously comes at the age of 15. In most of these cases, the problem lies in relationships in the family and oversight on the part of the parents. The reasons can be very different - the police are aware of cases when children did not return from school because of a banal deuce, fearing punishment from their parents. Also, a scandal in the family and influence from peers can become a reason for a teenager. Social networks also contribute, where teenagers can plan an escape. Often at this age, children begin to think that they are already adults, ready for an independent life and can take care of themselves.

But a child can leave for no apparent reason, this is called “unmotivated leaving”. Psychologists believe that unmotivated withdrawals are a pathology that speaks of a mental disorder. Unmotivated departures and escapes are psychologically incomprehensible to others and may not be related at all to the situation in which the teenager was before leaving or escaping.

How can you prevent your child from leaving home?
The child must be aware of what awaits him on the street and understand that leaving home at this age is far from a wonderful road to adulthood, an exciting journey and incredible adventures, as many teenagers think. First of all, parents should explain to the child that the world is full of dangers, and strangers do not always have good intentions. According to the police, the victims of scammers and robbers are often minors.

The child needs to be monitored and done, preferably in such a way that the child does not suspect anything. Parents should always know their child's social circle, quietly monitor where he spends his free time, with whom and how, what books he reads. You also need to track the virtual life of the child - what sites he visits, what friends he adds, with whom he chats, and so on. It is also necessary to talk with the child - the relationship must be trusting. It is worth talking more often about what is happening at school, going to parent-teacher meetings, calling up teachers, being interested in how relations with classmates are. Parents must know the contact numbers of the child's friends.

A teenager did not return home on time - what to do?
If the child does not come home on time and does not answer the phone:

1. You need to calm down and not panic.

2. It is necessary to call relatives and his friends, call the class teacher, coach, music teacher, etc. - depending on the child's last visit.

3. If none of the above knows where your child is, you should immediately call the police.

The police will need to tell in detail what the child was wearing, provide his recent photo in ordinary clothes, make a list of the names and surnames of friends and their acquaintances. Also write out all relatives, including distant ones, their addresses and telephone numbers. For police officers, any detail, even at first glance insignificant, can be important, so parents should be as focused as possible. Hysteria, tears and the words “I don’t know and don’t remember anything” will not help your child, but vice versa.

How are teenagers searched?
The search begins with a call to the police phone. Orientation is sent to all police stations and traffic police posts of the city. A crew leaves for the parents to fill in the documents allowing all the necessary activities. The police also call up the volunteers of the public organization "Search for missing children". With the consent of the parents, a photo of the child with a description is posted on the official website of the Ministry of Internal Affairs, on the pages of the official community of volunteers in social networks and sent to the media.

Volunteers and police meet at the muster point, usually the last place the child is seen. Then the volunteers, together with the investigator in charge of the case, begin to collect information and comb the area. In parallel, work is underway on the Internet. On average, 4-6 crews of 4-5 volunteers gather. Each has its own area of ​​search and responsibility.

First of all, police officers visit the last location of the child and check whether a crime has been committed against him. Among other things, the teenager is tracked by city surveillance cameras.

Where are the children running?
The police know certain places where runaway teenagers go most often - as a rule, these are entertainment centers and other places of mass recreation for young people. Therefore, the police have established contact with the security guards of the mall, shops, disco clubs and so on. There are cases when children meet someone on social networks or even fall in love and run away to their virtual acquaintances in another city. Often, children go to friends at their former place of residence if the family has recently moved from another city. Runaway teenagers are almost always looking for acquaintances. A child can leave home and, under the influence of older teenagers, for example, run away for the company. But it happens that he just goes nowhere - to travel around the country.

What should I do to stop running away?
When runaway teenagers are found and returned home, parents are advised to contact a psychologist. If the child leaves for the second time, this is already a “vagrant syndrome” and here the work of a psychologist is necessary. Moreover, specialists work both with children and with parents.

What happens after the escape?
If the teenager was found safely, nothing happened to him and he did not have time to do anything, law enforcement officers limit themselves to an explanatory conversation with children and parents. With repeated departures from home, a teenager is registered with the juvenile department. If a teenager “on the run” was vagrant, begging or misbehaving somewhere, then he will also be registered, and parents will have to answer for the child’s actions according to the administrative code.

In most cases, the police find teenagers within three days, in rare exceptions, the search lasts just over 10 days. In the Lipetsk region, it was not possible to find only one missing child - Danila Belykh, who disappeared on May 2, 2012, at the time of the disappearance the boy was 10 years old, his search is still ongoing.

Never ridicule, deny, and always take seriously any child's threat to run away from home. Immediately tell the child calmly and firmly that you do not want this escape, it will be a great misfortune for you and you will do everything possible to prevent this from happening or to return the child home if the escape does occur.

2. Offer the child other ways to solve the problem.
If you feel that the child is planning an escape or feels like a stranger at home, try to make life in the family more satisfying for him.

When a child is frank about a runaway threat, ask if there is another way to solve the problem. If he does not find possible alternatives, offer him some time apart from the family (visit relatives or a friend whose parents you trust).

3. Do not hesitate to look for the child as soon as you discover that the escape has occurred.
Every minute that a runaway child thinks that no one cares about him, he is overwhelmed with negative emotions. And although the majority of runaway children at this age voluntarily return home in full health no later than a day later, the runaways still expose themselves to great danger. Therefore, you should never wait, you should immediately start looking for your runaway child to bring him back home.

4. When the child returns home, express your love for him and your joy that he has returned.
Your main task in this situation is to convince the child that returning home is good for him and to prevent a possible recurrence of the escape. Remember that the runaway child is driven by the feeling of being rejected. Reassure your child that you need them no matter what problems you have in your relationship.

5. Whenever possible, try to avoid punishing your child for running away from home.
Most likely, the child will feel embarrassed that he was not able to remain independent, and regret that you had to worry about him. That in itself is punishment enough. Consider the incident as a signal that you need more attention on your part.

When preparing the material, comments were used by the deputy head of the department for organizing the activities of district police commissioners and units for juvenile affairs Svetlana Ushakova, the head of the Search for Missing Children LOOO Vyacheslav Telin, the deputy director for psychological, pedagogical and juvenile work of the Center for Psychological, Medical and Social Support Margarita Dunskaya.

Hello, my name is Sergey, I am 12 years old. I want to run away from home because I can no longer live with my parents. This week I did not go to school for 3 days (I am in the 6th grade).
And when my parents come, my mother will scold me and beat me with a belt, I’m sure of this, this is not the first time!
What do I need to do and take something to leave home and start a new life??
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Sergey, age: 12/12/11/2014

Hello Sergey! Your feelings are very clear to me. Many of us at the same age as you have experienced something similar. It is not easy, very difficult, to be in obedience. Generally in obedience, not
only the parents. We see many things in a different way, different from the point of view of the elders (or the main ones). And it is at this time, SO I want understanding, acceptance and help from the closest and dearest
of people.
You just need to understand this.
New life. In a sense, this is good! But WHAT exactly, in your understanding, relates to this and HOW will you realize this new life? For example, it’s elementary for you, you will need to live somewhere. At
Do you have such a place? For housing, as well as for the food that you will have to eat, for the clothes that you will dress in, you need to pay something. Do you have funds? YOU will live alone and have
You will definitely have some other obligations (to go to school, to work, etc.) Will you be able to organize yourself? Establish your own regime, perform assigned tasks on time (adult or
independent life without it is impossible)?
Here are a few questions that you should have clear answers to first. After all, you are making a fateful decision - you, as a man, must understand all the consequences of your step
and BE READY for them!
But in addition to having the right direction for your actions, YOU must clearly understand whether your parents are right in the demands that they put forward to you and, sometimes, fulfillment
which are achieved by all means possible for them (up to non-pedagogical ones, a belt, for example)? Are you 100% sure that your parents are wrong? Why do you think so? Do you know
100% HOW should it be right?
Answer all these questions for yourself. If you are at a loss, find a good Orthodox priest and ask him (just such a person will be able to give you the correct answer. I know this)
And in conclusion, I will tell you my story.
Around your age, I also wanted to leave home. My parents did not understand me, they beat me (and not only with a belt, although I am a girl), they forced me to do what I did not want and did not consider necessary. And
NOBODY, you hear NOBODY, understood me. NO aunts, no uncles, no grandmother, no grandfather, but only demanded and demanded their own. HOW I WAS TIRED OF THIS!!! I had various complexes on this
soil (uncertainty and all that). At that time I was not a believer and did not even know that many things could be decided differently, in the light of the Orthodox faith! And I ran away from home (so I wanted freedom),
albeit not for long (on my return I was punished again). So years have passed... Now I am 36 years old. At the age of 20, I learned the light of the Orthodox faith and the Love of God! Having studied and accepted the Orthodox view of
the existence of a person on this earth, I LONG, VERY long eradicated resentment towards my parents, grandfather, grandmother, aunts, uncles. For what they did in their time towards me. And
Now I can firmly say that with God's help I was able to do it! I realized that even though they did wrong things (beat me, scolded me, etc.), they COULD NOT act differently!!!
They DID NOT KNOW HOW! After all, almost no one teaches us the right (from the point of view of God), and people adapt and live as best they can! And when I REALIZED this, I felt that in addition to resentment
(which lay on the surface of my heart), LOVE and UNDERSTANDING live in me for all my close people - dad, mom, grandma, grandpa, aunts, uncles. After all, it is not easy for them, and not all of them even
true believers...

And God will ask me, HOW I coped with the difficulties encountered on my way? Have I always acted correctly in relation to those close to me and those around me? And these questions are
still rise in my mind at those moments when I want to be offended or offended by people ...

I wish you, Sergey, to understand today or tomorrow, but do you want to choose the right path? And be confident in your answer and ready to be responsible for all the consequences that follow your decision!
God help you!

Assistant, age: 36 / 11/17/2014

Hello, Sergey!

I understand that you are having a hard time and your mom is doing the wrong thing, but leaving home is not the best solution to your problem.
Think for a second, when you leave home, what's next? Will you go to another city to beg? There are two options here, the first one will be noticed by the police and after a while they will send you
home, what next think you can imagine. The second one will fall under the control of "bad people", and here there are many options from sexual use to participation in crimes, not one
option does not bode well. Even if everything goes more or less and you stay alive and well, imagine yourself at 18. No education, you don’t know how, you can either work
a janitor, or a handyman, you can’t start a family, you can’t buy your own home. Basically no future.
Of course, you can hope that along the way you will meet a good person and help you arrange your life. But believe me, the chances of this are very small, a little more than relying on aliens,
who will come and rescue you.

When I was your age, I also thought about leaving home. But at first I thought I needed a passport first. Then I thought that I need to get an education so that I can earn
yourself for life. And every time I was offended, I only tried harder to study better in order to finish school faster and better, go to university and go to another city. And this
It worked. Now I am very glad that God stopped me and I did not leave home anywhere.
I advise you to follow the same path. Yes, this path is much more difficult than just taking it and leaving in the hope that everything will work itself out. But this path has a future (checked), just leaving home is
way to even bigger problems.

I wish you patience and wisdom. God bless you!

Alexander, age: 29 / 11/17/2014

Sergey, while you are a minor, you cannot live separately. The only option is an orphanage.. But I don't think that's the way out. In your case, as long as you remain completely dependent on your
parents, one should choose the path of a diplomat. It is worth reconciling with the situation, you will not fix your mother. You shouldn't rebel. You need to go to school, the better education you get, the easier it is in life
will be with work and money, and this already makes it possible to start an independent life faster. But. If you do not go to school for some reason, for example, you are offended there or if the situation with
punishment with a belt is critical, then you should contact a psychologist at school or you can call the unified all-Russian "helpline" for children.

Anya, age: 25 / 11/18/2014

No need to stay at home

Kirill, age: 9 / 26.12.2015

Hello Seryozha!
I understand your troubles with me in the same way, but I don’t run away from home, I kept thinking about it, but still I decided I don’t want to be a homeless person! I love my family. Yes, my mother wanted to send me to children
house then I definitely wanted to run away but changed my mind. And right now I live well because I began to endure!

I advise you to stay at home and obey and everything will be fine! Kiss. God bless you!!!

Lera, age: 07/11/02/2016

Bad business, Sergunya. Better go to school and more or less obey. At the age of 12, they will not take you anywhere, because you are small. Hang on for four more years.

Lilya, age: 09/17/2016

Hello, Sergey!

Believe me, I understand you very much and I also want to escape from my home... but I never decide on this, because where should I live, how to eat and what to wear!

If you run away from home, you can end up in an orphanage, I understand you that it is difficult to live under the rule of elders, I have a younger sister and through her fault they scold me and beat me, they say that they don’t
they like to say other children are better than you now I am writing this and I have tears because I also endure it sometimes I want to grow up as soon as possible and leave here!

Read carefully and never think about it! LIFE CAN GO TO EMPTY AND WE HAVE THE ONLY ONE! I wish you to understand yourself and never suffer! BELIEVE IN GOD HE WILL LISTEN TO YOU!!!

Karina, age: 10/02.10.2016

Sergey!!! I advise you not to run anywhere. The FSB will find you anyway.
I myself ran almost sent to my grandfather's house.

Anonymous Anonymous Anonymovich, age: 11 / 01/07/2017

Seryoga, live with them until you are 18, and then leave. It doesn’t matter where to start a new life, the main thing is not to lie on the couch, but to achieve.

Tool , age: 04/14/2017

For example, I left my parents more than once and nothing good came of it. I advise you not to conflict with your parents and endure to the last. To start a life without parents in this crazy world, you need
great willpower and courage. You should not leave your parents at least until the age of majority, and then do as you see fit and do not rush! I was assigned to a madhouse 8 times and this is not the limit. There are lonely people who
they will never come out of madhouses, that is, they lie for life ... Why do you need this? Don't run and forget. Here's my advice.

d31221 , age: 34 / 06/24/2017

I understand you I have the same situation I want to leave home too but I can't They will find me!!!

Anna, age: 08/12/2017

My name is Veronica, I'm sick of everything! My parents fight all the time! I can't live like this anymore!!! And I want to leave home

Veronika, age: 10/12/2017

How can I leave home? My name is Dasha, I’m 10 years old, my mother doesn’t notice me at all, like I’m gone and always screams at me. When I go to bed, I cry into the pillow because I’m so tired of living that no one loves me. go to karate but I don't want I want to go to music school dad doesn't live with us

Ekaterina Morozova

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Such a phenomenon as the flight of a child from home, unfortunately, is becoming very frequent in our time. Frightened parents call the child's friends and hospitals with morgues, raise relatives and the police to the ears, comb their child's favorite places for walking. The next morning, when the desperate and almost gray-haired father and mother apathetically drink valerian, the child declares home - "she stayed too long with her girlfriend." Why do children run away from home? How should parents behave? And how to protect the family from such shocks?

Reasons why children run away from home - what could be the parents' fault?

Baby shoots are of two types:

• Motivated. This type of escape has purely psychological causes, which are the result of a conflict or other specific and understandable situation. Escape, in this case, is a method of avoiding the problem (since there were no others).
• Unmotivated. This form of response, in which any unpleasant situation already causes a protest and a desire to escape. With all that it implies.

It is worth noting that the basis of children's escapes is always an internal conflict in the family, even if in fact it is not so conflicting. The inability to talk, talk about problems, ask for advice is also an internal conflict in the family.

The main reasons for children's runaways:

• Mental illness (schizophrenia, mental retardation, psychosis, etc.).
• Conflict with parents, lack of understanding in the family, lack of attention.
• Conflicts at school.
• Desire for freedom (rebellion against parents).
• Stress after a trauma or abuse experience.
• Boredom.
• Spoiled.
• Fear of punishment.
• The stage of growing up and simple curiosity, the desire to learn something new.
• Internal problems based on the beginning of building relationships with the opposite sex.
• Arguments between parents, divorce of parents - flight as a way of expressing protest.
• The child wants to earn his own living.
• Imposing a parental point of view on the child in terms of choosing a profession, friends, etc. Denying the child's own choice.
• Dysfunctional family. That is, the alcoholism of parents, the regular appearance of inadequate strangers in the house, assault, etc.
• Children's drug addiction or "recruitment" in one of the sects, which are becoming more and more today.

Your child or teenager has left home - rules of conduct for parents

The most important thing that parents should remember about teenage children (namely, they most often run away from home) is their internal age-related contradictions and a thirst for freedom. Any tough measures at this vulnerable and rebellious age will invariably lead to the child's protest or to his gradual transformation into an apathetic room child, unable to either stand up for himself or solve his problems. Proceed from this, when once again you want to yell at your child for another "deuce" or forbid walking after 6 pm, "because I said so."

What to do if the child ran away from home - instructions for parents.

Has the child been found? This is the main thing! Hug your child and tell him how much you love him. And remember what you absolutely cannot do after a happy family reunion:

• Attack the child with questions.
• Yell and use physical force.
• To punish in any way - to deprive "sweets", put them under lock and key, send them to their grandmother in "Big Kobelyaki" away from "bad companies", etc.
• Defiantly remain silent and ignore the child.

If the child is now able to talk heart to heart - listen to him. Calm down, no complaints. Listen and try to hear. Do not interrupt or blame, even if the child's monologue is a continuous stream of accusations against you. Your task:

• Calm down the child.
• Position him towards you.
• To set up a contact.
• Convince the child that you will accept him with anyone that you try to understand.
• To find a compromise.
• Admit your mistakes to your child.

And remember: if suddenly on the street you came across someone else's child who seemed to you lost, crying, "homeless" - do not pass by! Try to talk to the child, find out what happened to him. Maybe his parents are looking for him too.

How to behave to parents to avoid children running away from home - advice from a psychologist

If everything is fine in your family, and the child is an excellent student, this does not mean that the child has no problems. Problems can lurk where you would never look. The teacher who publicly humiliated your child. In the girl who left him for his friend, because your son "has not matured yet for a serious relationship." In that cute and intelligent new friend of your child, who actually turned out to be ... (many options). And not always your child will tell you what is in his soul. Because parents or once, or in the family, it is simply not customary to share “joys and sorrows” with each other. How to behave so that the children do not run away?

• Be a friend to your child. Top tip of all time. Then they will always share experiences and problems with you. Then you will always know where and with whom your child is. Then even to the darkest corners of your child's soul you will have a key.
• Don't be a tyrant and a dictator. Your child is a person, a grown-up person. The more prohibitions, the stronger the child will strive for freedom from your "guardianship".
• Think back to when you were young. How mom and dad fought about your flared jeans, incomprehensible music, strange companies, cosmetics, etc. How angry you were that you were not allowed to express yourself as you wish. Again, assume that you are a friend, not a tyrant. Did your child want a tattoo? Do not immediately take out the belt (if you want, you will do it anyway) - sit next to the child, look at the pictures together, study their meaning (so as not to “stab” something that you will have to pay for later), choose a salon where they definitely won’t bring any infection. If you are completely against it, ask the child to wait - a year or two. And there, you see, he himself will change his mind.

Of course, in the absence of trust between you, it will be extremely difficult to start from scratch. But it is quite feasible with your patience and desire.

Now you are financially prepared, let's move on to escape.
1. If you have winter now, wait for spring and warm days.
You probably do not want to freeze in the first days of the escape, and if you run away in pursuit of death, you can not do all this and stop reading.
2. Wait for the moment when everyone falls asleep.
When everyone is asleep, start gathering outside, dress well, wash your face and comb your hair (girls, you still need to make up -)
3. Run.
Now slowly leave the house and close the doors so that your absence is not immediately noticed.
Now go outside and go to the bus stop.
4. Bus.
Wait for the bus and leave immediately to the terminal.

Congratulations, you escaped and it’s not so easy to find you now. Of course, it’s advisable for you to go to another nearby city so that they won’t be found for sure.
SURVIVE
1. Find a secluded place to live.
I will help you choose.
You need to find a good, preferably a crowded place and find a corner where people will not look. Rather, no one will find you in the opening at the high-rise building. If you have taken unnecessary things and a lot of cotton wool, sew a pillow.
2. Be prepared in advance that homeless people can rob you.
Hide your money and weapons well, otherwise serious problems await you.
3. Spare seat.
You need a second, more secluded corner in case you are almost found. If the search for your parents is almost successful, do not immediately think about moving there.