"Live life to the fullest", "value every day of your life, do not waste it on trifles" - these phrases we hear every day in society, on the pages of books and magazines. Books on psychology argue that only a person who makes the most of every day can be truly happy. But most people forget that valuing time and devoting it to the right things is necessary to continue happy life and not suffer in the next world, where we will have to account for every wrong second of our lives.

While you are reading this sentence, the seconds of your life are slipping away irretrievably. They are gone forever. Even if you were willing to pay a lot of money to get back the time that has passed, you will not be able to do it. Life is wealth in the full sense of the word, it consists of a huge number of moments, all of which are priceless in themselves.

The limitations of our lives make the idea of ​​"living to the fullest" attractive to many. Some people even create a list of things they need to get done before they leave the world. And Hollywood makes a lot of money from films whose characters can defy death and add adrenaline to their lives. Many, realizing the short duration of life, are afraid of not having time to do a lot of things, and begin to chase mirages instead of realizing the truth.

But in fact, attempts to catch up and increase our fleeting existence on this Earth will be in vain if you do not realize the true meaning of life. After all, why seek thrills, save money, conquer mountain peaks, go on a trip around the world, if you will eventually die? In order to live life to the fullest, perhaps you first need to understand why we are given life?

Contrary to what many Hollywood producers direct us to the purpose of our existence, the meaning of life is summarized in a verse of the Qur'an:

“I created jinn and humans only so that they worship Me” (51:56).

Worship the Almighty, and nothing else. That is why we are given the opportunity to breathe and live life in all its glory. Whether our passion for art, the desire to accomplish the impossible, or to travel the world, our every action, large and small, is counted on one Almighty. That is why, when starting any business, we say "Bismillahirrahmanirrahim!" (In the name of Allah, the Gracious and the Merciful).

It is human nature to err. Therefore, when the flashes of the life track lead us astray, we should remember about death. As scary as it may sound, The best way to recall the true values ​​of life is the remembrance of death. When a person realizes that death can overtake him at any moment, he understands the true value of every day, every hour. He lives life as if every day is his last.

Imagine that every day of your life is homework for which you will answer to the Almighty. Realizing this will lead to the fact that you will not kill time on unnecessary things, but will do what is truly important, which may be the key to paradise.

An-Nadiriya. Full moon. 06/23/2013. After Maghreb

Today I went to the Friday prayer in the mosque, where the rows are carefully aligned and stand tightly in prayer. As we approached the house of Allah, the line of cars parked on the side of the road became more and more dense. Like the rows in this mosque. I still had the feeling that the street would begin to narrow. I thought I was about to bump into some car parked in the second row, then from the oncoming lane it will be the same ... and then cars that cannot pass, traffic jams ... nerves ...

But, to my surprise and contrary to expectations, I calmly drove to the mosque itself, not meeting a single car in the second row - the road was completely free.

Yes, there was no space for parking on the sidewalk. But there were no traffic jams: the cars passed quietly.

I drove past the mosque and drove about 500 meters until I found a place where I could leave the car without disturbing anyone to leave, pass, etc. I parked and headed towards the mosque. The excitement that I left for prayer late has passed. The mood immediately lifted.

Previously, when I was late for Friday prayers, I did not want to leave the car two kilometers away, but if I drove closer, I would get stuck in a traffic jam. Today I said to myself: “Praise be to Allah! The action carried out by the brothers against parking in the middle of the road has borne fruit. The brothers learned how to park according to the Sunnah!”

Often the parishioners of this mosque are called obscurantists. Many modern people”, visiting the mosque only on Fridays, with whom I had to go to the mosque in the same car, called her parishioners ill-mannered. They said that the main thing is not the beard that they leave, not the mustache that they cut short, not the pants that shorten ... But a normal upbringing, etc. But at the same time, these same people always left cars in the second row or left them in the middle of the road because they were “late”. In principle, it used to be the same with the parishioners of this mosque. However, it was worth making a little effort to remind the brothers of the hadeeth of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) about those who leave obstacles on the roads that interfere with people, as the situation immediately changed. Today I said to myself: “How I love these “obscurantists”!”

Now you should not stop there, you need to move forward.

It is necessary to organize other actions and reminders to those who have not yet learned how to park according to the Sunnah. It should become reprehensible, condemned, unacceptable and alien. "The obscurantists with beards, short mustaches and ankle-length clothes" should become an incentive to correct this society and change it for the better. I see that this is already happening today! Moreover, the main factor, due to which a Muslim is ready to change for the better, is his beliefs. This is faith in Allah Almighty and the Day of Judgment.

Please help me, I am in a very difficult life situation right now. I am married to a believing Muslim, he lives in another city, reads namaz, lives according to the Sunnah. We have been married for almost two years, and I live in Moscow.

It is very difficult to live at a distance: either he comes to me, then I come to him, he cannot move to Moscow to live, because he has a career, a job, and in Moscow he has nothing and no connections to work here. He hides our relationship from his parents, says that they will not understand and will not accept me, since I have a child from my first marriage, I was already married and I am of a different nationality.

I recently converted to Islam, began to observe all the requirements of religion about two years ago, alhamdulillah, read namaz, wear a hijab and try to live according to the Sunnah. Insha'Allah, I'm due to give birth to a child one of these days, but my husband is not around; he will come for a few days, only to meet me from the hospital, and then he will go back to his place. He says that after the New Year I should move to live with him. But I asked him how we will live there if his parents never accept me, and he replied that he would rent an apartment, which would provide for me and the child, but would continue to hide our existence from our parents.

It turns out that he will live with his parents, and spend most of his time with me and the child, sometimes he will even spend the night with us. We love each other very much, but I don't know: what should I do? What should I do in such a situation? I told my husband to tell my parents everything and make a decision, but he says that he is not ready to go against his parents, he says that he is even ready to suffer and lose his personal life, just so that his parents feel good. It turns out that his child and wife must suffer... His father is an unbeliever, he is very strict, he threw all religious books out of the house...

I know that parents should be respected and obeyed, but what if they go against religion and do not allow their own sons to live? Is my husband doing the right thing? What should I do, what should I do? I do not want a divorce, because I love my husband very much, and he also loves me and suffers. But it doesn’t suit me to live like that either, I want my husband to always be there, at any moment.

Please help me, give me advice for the sake of Allah, I feel so bad, I have to give birth the other day, I cry every day, I can’t sleep at night, I’m very nervous. I feel like my baby is suffering a lot inside. Are there any verses from the Koran, hadiths, confirming that a husband should live with his family, and not with his parents?

Answer:

In terms of religion:

First of all, I would like to sincerely congratulate you on your conversion to Islam. According to the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), with the adoption of Islam, all sins are forgiven, and life, as they say, begins with a clean slate.

Islam as a true religion emanating from the Creator of all Existing, including all people, all races and all nationalities, does not divide people into races, nationalities, or any other criteria, except for the level of their piety. This is what the Almighty Himself says in the Qur'an (meaning): The most worthy and venerable - the most God-fearing! "(Sura Al-Hujurat, verse 13).

إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِنْدَاللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ

However, some people are still overcome by their traditions, customs, principles, and not by the laws and norms of Islam. These people may include your spouse's parents. The unwillingness of parents to accept a daughter-in-law of a girl of a different nationality is not sinful - but as long as it is not caused by nationalism, hostility to one or another nationality. According to Sharia, children, no matter how old they are, are obliged to obey their parents, if what they say is not prohibited by religion.

In the matter of marrying this or that woman, the son has the right not to obey his parents, since this is his life and he will have to live with his wife, and not with his parents. In any case, you are obliged, both according to Shariah, and as a loving and respectful spouse to obey him. Including moving, if he so desires. The hadeeth of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) says: the best of you is the one who is the best for his family, and I am the best of you in relation to my family ” (Sunan Ibn Maja, No. 1967).

خيرُكم خيركم لأهله وأناخيرُكم لأهلي

There is nothing reprehensible or forbidden in the fact that he lives with his parents. You knew from the start what you were getting into. In addition, when you move to the city in which he lives, and even when you give birth to a child from him, I am more than sure that he will spend much more time with you, and later, perhaps, he will completely move to you. Just be patient and everything will work out.

From the point of view of psychology:

Unfortunately, the situation you describe is quite common. And the problem is that no ready solution such problems, in each separate case it is necessary to understand individually. First of all, it is necessary to separate objective factors from everything else, and then it will already be clear what can be sacrificed and what can be gained.

Undoubtedly, for your husband, the objective reason for what is happening is his attitude towards his own parents - this is the side of the problem that cannot be ignored. You must clearly realize for yourself the fact that your husband will not go against them and will not sacrifice them for his own well-being. Whether this is good or bad is a separate, moral question.

One thing is clear: a person who treats his parents with respect, even if they are unbelievers, in principle has a good heart and high moral responsibility. This is already a definite plus, since these moral qualities will positively affect your family. You love him, and this already indicates that you see positive aspects in him. Assess the situation as a whole, determine the boundaries beyond which he will not go. I perfectly understand your feelings, that you want to see him as often as possible, so that the child sees his father next to him (this will be discussed separately), to feel next to him male shoulder feel more confident in front of others.

The fact is that by demanding decisive action from him, you seriously risk aggravating the situation and setting him against you. It is unacceptable to put your husband in a situation of choice: either you or his parents, because the choice in your case is obvious, although it is painful for both parties.

No matter how hard it is, it's better to keep what you have than to regret the lost later. Imagine for yourself the most terrible scenario for the development of events and compare with what we have now. I say this for the reason that there is a risk of losing everything and further aggravating the situation.

Further. Life is extremely unpredictable, and it is premature to make sad predictions. If you give your husband the opportunity to calmly weigh everything, think it over, then there is a chance that he himself will find the perfect way to correct the situation. Alternatively, you can discuss with him the possibility of your moving closer to him, not necessarily in his hometown, just closer. Try to listen to your own heart, what it tells you, where it pushes you. Sometimes the conversations and advice of others can greatly influence your opinion and incline you to a decision that can ruin everything.

It is important for you now to focus on your own health. Do not overshadow your pregnancy with sad thoughts, think about the good that is between you. Correspond with him, talk about your feelings - in general, try to do everything so that your husband feels close to you, knows how your pregnancy is going. This will develop in him responsibility for the child, awareness of his paternity. In the future, this will positively affect your relationship.

Now for your child. Talk to him about your father as often as possible, let's listen to his voice on the phone, show photos and videos. A child should not be allowed to feel cut off from his father, without parental attention.

Just for yourself, be sure that everything will work out in the best way, and calmly wait for a positive development of events. Now much is in your hands and in the hands of your spouse. Don't put conditions on each other. Remember that you love each other and keep the good things you have.

Muhammad-Amin Magomedrasulov

Aliaskhab Anatolievich Murzaev

psychologist-consultant of the Center social assistance family and children

The Sunnah in my understanding is those actions and words, thoughts and behavior, in a word, the way of life that was inherent in the Messenger of Allah Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).

What is sunnah

Many Muslims still do not understand the meaning of the sunnah and limit it to only the deeds of the prophet. To live according to the Sunnah means to follow everything that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) followed.

A real, believing Muslim lives only according to the sunnah. It must be understood that Sunnah is Islam and Islam is Sunnah, and these two concepts cannot be separated.

Today, everything can be done according to the sunnah, from sleeping rituals to eating. And in every action, in every word, there are certain rules, observing which, one can say that a person lives according to the sunnah.

Islam and currents

But why, if all Muslims must live according to the Sunnah, today there are so many currents among Muslims:

1. Sunnism.
2. Shiism.
3. Harijism.
4. Wahhabism.
5. Muridism and more.

There are 73 sects in Islam. Just think about this number. Representatives of each of them believe that they live according to the Sunnah. It is believed that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said before his death that representatives of only one sect will go to heaven.

It’s just that some of them recognize only the actions and sayings of the prophet as sunnah, while others recognize the traditions and rituals that the prophet followed. Hence the many wars, the essence of which was to prove their case.

How to live according to the Sunnah

One of the main rules is to wear a beard. The Prophet ordered the Muslims to leave her. To let go means to let it grow. My husband is very beautiful beard. I really like her in men. I think a beard is a sign of masculinity.

If you take a meal, then it is sunnah to wash your hands before eating. Many Muslims forget that it is not only hygiene, but also Sunnah. Before directly eating, you should say bismillah - the words with which any action of a Muslim should begin. These and many other actions are Sunnah.

Live according to the sunnah and you will have a reward from Allah in your next life.

Despite the fact that a significant proportion of the efforts of Muslims today are directed against each other, Islam is spreading. A girl in a hijab and a guy with a beard on the streets of the city are no longer associated with backwardness, but with reliability, a clear life position and even determination. Islam, as a way of life, gradually attracts people of all categories.

And yet those around them continue to shun the religion of Allah. They continue to see in it endless showdowns around irrelevant issues. They continue to remain ignorant of the fact that Islam regulates human life in the most subtle way in all its manifestations. They continue to regard Islam as a multitude of rites that have only cultural value.

The ignorance and prejudice of the population is one of the main brakes on the Islamic call. In this article, we would like to talk a little about Islamic law and its unique nature.

Definition and occurrence

In the linguistic meaning, the Arabic word " fiqh' means 'understanding'. Allah says in the Quran: “What has happened to these people that they hardly understand what they are being told?”(Sura “Women”, verse 78). In Sharia terminology, fiqh” is a set of legal norms. So, for example, they say: “I teach fiqh” or “I study fiqh”, referring to the legal norms derived from the Koran, Sunnah, ijma (unanimous opinion of legal scholars), qiyas (judgment by analogy) and other sources of law.

Islamic law as a science was not known to the companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). At a time when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) was still walking on this earth, there was no need for fiqh, as in other Sharia disciplines. The answers to the questions that arose among Muslims they found in the verses of the Book of Allah that continued to be sent down and on the lips of His Messenger.

With the death of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), the revelation of the Qur'an also ceased. The sacred text, which, from a scientific point of view, is limited to the religion of Allah, remains a strictly limited amount. At the same time, the expansion of the borders of the Islamic state, the formation and development of new principles of social and economic life, the adoption of Islam by millions of the most different people and other such factors piled on the Muslims mountains of new questions that required immediate answers. There was an urgent need to systematize and classify legal norms on the basis of the two most important sources of Islamic law: the Koran and the Sunnah, for which a general methodology was developed for deriving legal norms from Sharia sources. Thus, various legal schools were born and great amount extremely detailed works of Islamic scholars, describing in detail all sections of Islamic law.

Connection with monotheism

A feature of Islamic law is its strong connection with the belief in the Almighty Allah and the pillars of the Islamic faith, especially the belief in the Day of Judgment. Following the Sharia is the worship of Allah, which, together with the knowledge of the Almighty, is the essence of monotheism and an indispensable consequence of faith in the Creator. Allah says: “I created jinn and humans only so that they worship Me”(Surah "Scattering", verse 56).

In many verses of the Qur'an, Allah Almighty emphasizes the connection between following the Sharia (obedience to Islamic legal norms) with faith in Him; the connection between Sharia and beliefs, law and faith.

Almighty Allah mentions prayer and zakat, linking them between themselves and faith in eternal life: “... who perform prayer, pay zakat and are convinced of Last life» (Sura "Ants", verse 3).

Allah Almighty commands to treat a woman well, and connects this command with faith in Him: “O you who believe!<…>Live with them with dignity, and even if they are unpleasant to you, then you may be unpleasant to that in which Allah has laid a lot of good.(Sura “Women”, verse 19).

Almighty Allah calls Muslims to vigorous activity, reminding them of His continuous observation, thereby cultivating in them a sense of responsibility: “Say: “Work hard, and Allah, His Messenger and believers will see your deeds. You will appear before the Knower of the hidden and the obvious, and He will tell you about what you did” (Sura “Repentance”, ayat 105).

Almighty Allah ordered the woman to observe the hijab and connected the execution of this order with her faith in Him: "Tell the believing women<…>Let them not flaunt their adornments, except for those that are visible, and let them cover the neckline on their chests with their bedspreads.(Sura "Light", verse 31).

From the divine nature of Islamic law comes a number of other important features, among which is the correspondence to human nature. Almighty Allah, who created the world around us, has absolute knowledge of all the phenomena, processes and elements that this world consists of. Human life is no exception, and Islamic law is a clear proof of this.

Humans tend to make mistakes. He does not know how to look into the future, is not able to accurately distribute priorities between the private and the general, between the interests of the individual and society, citizen and state. Sometimes he is not even able to determine what is bad and what is good. The most "exact" of what he possesses - science - is often based on practice; based on trial and error, assumptions and assumptions.

Islamic sciences are the most accurate of all sciences, because they are based on the absolute knowledge of Allah Almighty. Knowing what is good for a person and what is evil. Knowing how to achieve benefits and how to eliminate harm. Knowing the exact boundary of the clash between the priorities of personal benefit and the public good. Knowledge of the nature of social processes and their consequences, no matter what period of time separates them.

Such seemingly different outwardly, but identical in nature, phenomena as adultery and an economic transaction with elements of usury are examples of how a person is not able to see social harm behind personal interest. Allah sees him. It was He who created the relationships of cause and effect, and only His commands and prohibitions, on which the Islamic legal system reflect the real picture of human life.

There is no difficulty in Islam

“It is impossible to live according to Islam” is a well-known misconception among people. At the same time, they seem to believe in Allah, Who repeatedly refutes their error in His Book: "... and did not make you any difficulty in religion"(Sura Hajj, verse 78); “Allah wants you ease and does not want you hardship”(Sura "Cow", ayat 185).

Islam is the path of justice and human happiness, and Islamic law is designed to ensure it, therefore “Allah does not impose on a person beyond his capabilities”(Sura "Cow", ayat 286). Sharia provides different kinds facilitating the duties of Muslims in various situations, such as, for example, shortening and transferring prayers on the way. And the formula "Necessity makes the forbidden permissible" is one of essential rules fiqh and covers almost all legal norms.

It is actually very easy to observe Islam. True, with one condition - when you know why. After all, people, as a rule, do not complain about how difficult it is to brush your teeth in the morning, wait for a green traffic light, or not steal sand from a neighbor. Because they know the consequences of doing or leaving said actions. With Islam, the situation is about the same. Indeed, it is difficult to observe the hijab without understanding why. As well as, distracting from everyday life, five extra times a day to wash and make incomprehensible body movements. However, when a person consciously comes to prayer or hijab, it is much more difficult for him to refuse them.

And yet, for what?

Obligation to guide fiqh

A person needs much more to follow the Shariah than brushing his teeth or signaling a traffic light. The benefits of following Shari'ah are not limited to this world. Moreover, the main goal of a Muslim who submits his life to the commands and prohibitions of Allah Almighty is His Contentment and Paradise.

Allah obligated Muslims to firmly adhere to the norms of Sharia in all spheres and manifestations of their lives. All Islamic legal norms are based on the Koran and Sunnah, and their abandonment means forgetting the Koran and Sunnah, abandoning faith in Allah, Who approved them as sources of Islamic law. The very essence of Islam is to follow everything with which the Messenger of Allah came from his Lord. Sharia norms are established until the Day of Judgment and cannot be changed over time or replaced by any other law. Muslims are obliged to be guided by them at all times.

Allah Almighty said: "Follow what has been sent down to you from your Lord"(Sura “Barriers”, verse 3); “But no—I swear by your Lord! - they will not believe until they choose you as a judge in everything that is entangled between them, they do not stop feeling embarrassment in their souls from your decision and do not obey completely ”(sura“ Women ”, ayat 65); “Take what the Messenger has given you and avoid what he has forbidden you.”(Surah "Assembly", verse 7).

As is clear from these verses, Muslims are obliged to be guided by the Qur'an and the Sunnah in all their actions and relationships, and “there is no choice for a believing man and a believing woman when they make a decision if Allah and His Messenger have already made a decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has fallen into obvious error.”

Conclusion

The illiteracy of Muslims, their ignorance of how Islam regulates certain aspects of human life, their inability to defend the positions of Islam in dealing with people... - these are perhaps the main reasons for the weakness of the Islamic da'wat against the background of the lack of ideas of the youth and the complete degradation of public relations. Brothers and sisters, get knowledge and spread it on the path of Allah! Act, and Allah, His Messenger and the believers will see your deeds.