Has your sweet child become not himself? Does he seek to show his superiority or, on the contrary, is he closed? Is he a middle school student? Everything is fine. This is a transitional age. And about its features in boys, read on.

In boys, the transitional stage of growing up falls on the age of 12 (14) - 17 (18) years. The peak of negative reactions is the stage from 14 to 16 years. The negative phase ends with the search for a friend, longing for a friend. The peak of emotional instability falls on 11-13 years.

Signs of adolescence

1. In boys, the transitional age begins with swelling of the testicles, later the penis and other genital organs increase. This occurs on average at 11-15 years of age.
2. At the same time, hair appears in the genital area.
3. After a couple of years, hair on the face and body begins to erupt.
4. There is a breakdown of the voice (differences from low to high).
5. At the very beginning of maturation, there may be a slight increase in the mammary glands, which disappears in a year or two.
6. Night ejaculations.
7. Reactions common to both sexes (aggression, inconsistency, fatigue, maximalism).
8. The desire to demonstrate their physical strength.

Puberty

In boys, puberty begins at 13-14 years of age and ends at 16-17 years of age. The specificity of sexual development is the desire to look older, "cooler", to be like one's idols. They, just like girls, are drawn to the opposite sex. However, they rarely really fall in love, more often they “play in relationships”.

Gender identification in boys is closely related to the image of a woman nearby. That is, the more female examples around, the more the boy is aware of his masculinity. The more feminine the girls around him, the more he feels like a man.

Physical development

The peak growth of boys falls on 13 (13.5) years - 15 years, and slows down by 18 years. At the same time, weight increases from 14 to 16 years.

The formation of immunity

Adolescence is the final phase of the development of the human immune system. In boys, this occurs at the age of 14-15. The formation of immunity depends on external environmental conditions and on heredity. That is why it is important for teenagers:

• eat well and properly;
• do sport;
• avoid bad habits.

The cardiovascular system

There is a gradual increase in blood pressure. The pulse is slightly higher than normal, but lower than in girls. However, like them, there are headaches, dizziness, weakness.

muscles

In young men, the growth of muscle mass occurs at 14 years of age, but compliance with the strength of an adult male is achieved later.

Breath

Respiratory organs grow. In young men, the abdominal type of breathing predominates. Boys are easier to tolerate lack of air during physical exertion.

emotional sphere

Like girls, boys are characterized by increased emotionality and depth of emotions. They tend to be more aggressive. In general, adolescent boys are less emotional than girls. This is especially true of relations between the sexes.

1. Of all the elements of puberty, greater indignation (fear, embarrassment, misunderstanding, insecurity) in boys can cause the phenomenon of nocturnal ejaculation. It is important to talk about this with your son. Boys, like girls, it is important to know the features of their reproductive system (in advance).
2. If you can’t talk to a teenager about puberty yourself (by the way, believe me, he experiences no less discomfort), then just give him a good book with accessible information. The boy himself will decide what exactly and when he wants to learn from it.
3. Give your teen skin care tips or take them to a dermatologist. For teenagers, their appearance is very important.
4. Do not ignore the teenager's feelings about his appearance, even if you think your son is perfect. It is important to explain that this is temporary and a person’s appearance is formed anatomically before the age of 20, and later it is easily corrected on their own.
5. Do not exacerbate the situation by shouting about the insignificance of his problems.
6. Remember that, which is common in adolescents, compensation for an inferiority complex. It is important to understand why a teenager is not self-confident and.
7. Judge the actions, not the teenager.
8. Absolutely love.
9. Success largely depends on self-esteem. Self-esteem must be supported from the outside (the task of parents). Believe me, a teenager already scolds himself enough and focuses on shortcomings. Your task, as opposed to noticing only positive aspects. At least focus on them.
10. Communication with peers and hobbies are very significant. If it does not harm the child and society, then let him listen to "creepy" music or look "scary".
11. Restrictions need to act as a united front. A teenager should not be able to find a "loophole" in the family.

Thus, the task of the parents of a teenage boy is to teach him to act independently, to be responsible for his actions, to choose a social circle and life guidelines. It is important to promote the development of positive traits of his character and reduce the severity of negative ones (or). To do this, you can conduct conversations, independently explore the personality (questionnaires, surveys).

Self-knowledge and self-determination are the basis of age. In boys, self-determination is more focused on professional activities. Often they even seek to find a part-time job. This is good and should not be interfered with. But we need to contribute to the setting of adequate priorities and find a compromise together.

However, there is also the opposite option - passivity. Then you need to contribute to finding a hobby for a teenager.

When interacting with a teenager, it is important to avoid authoritarianism and cruelty, liberalism (“family idol”), overprotection and underprotection. These are destructive parenting styles. They have a destructive effect on the relationship between children and parents, their personality.

Establishing a friendly collaborative relationship with a teenager will contribute to:

• visual and tactile contact (natural need of all people, often unconscious);
• active listening (voicing the child’s feelings: “you are upset because your homework is not working out”);
• pronouncing your feelings, especially negative ones (but not “you upset me”, but “I'm upset”, that is, operate with I-statements).

Literature on the topic

1. Yu. P. Gippenreiter “Communicate with a child. How?".
2. O. V. Kholodkovskaya, V. A. Pashnina "Difficult transitional age: an easy solution to complex problems."

Thank you for your attention. I wish understanding with your children! Listen and you will be heard.